2006-07-12 03:25:59 · 51 answers · asked by devil at work 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your father may not think that this is the right time yet. When it is the right time, he will let you all meet her. In the mean time, just respect his wish. Let's switch roles a little bit, if you just started seeing a girl and you aren't sure how it is going to turn out yet, would you let your father to meet her right away?
2006-07-12 03:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by knitting guy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he is making efforts to keep you from meeting her then it's most likely due to some perception of his about what your response would be at meeting her. We all, sometimes, alter our behavior and lives because of what we think others are thinking or wants when most of the time it's just in our mind and the other people really don't think the way we think they are.
You should first let your dad know that above all your love for him isn't because of who he dates or sees but because he is your dad and because of that you want to be a part of his life. Explain that you don't care about who he is seeing but because she is important to him then it's important to you no matter who it is. Also realize thought that if he does introduce you then you have the responsibility to be true to your word and accept your father's choice whether it be a different race or the same, a different sex or the same. Love overcomes everything and you should look your father in the eye and let him know you love him first but that it's an important thing to you to be able to meet and celebrate who he has chosen to enrich his life with and that you want to be a part of that life also. Good Luck
2006-07-12 03:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by alagk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he is keeping a distance between you and his g/f more for your benefit than for his. He maybe just needs a little time :o) My dad didn't tell me about his g/f for quite some time as he didn't know how i would take it but i made sure he knew that i was happy with him being with someone else and when we finally did meet, i think my dad was more nervous than me!! My dad being happy was the main thing, it felt almost like I was the parent!! and after all, Do you introduce all your boyfriends/girlfriends to your dad? I know I certainly don't!!
2006-07-12 03:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lolly ™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect his wish for privacy. Maybe there's a reason he doesn't want you to meet her, like: he doesn't want to introduce her to you because he knows she's not going to be around long. You should respect his wish to not parade his women through your lives. When he finds the right woman, you will know, and you will meet her. Until that day, just relax, ask about her, and be happy that your dad's found someone that makes him happy!
2006-07-12 03:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you need to meet her? Respect your father. Understand that he wants to get to know this woman before introducing her to everyone else in his life. If it turns out they're not right for one another and they end the relationship after a short time, there is no reason for you to be involved.
2006-07-12 03:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. If he his coming back to the dating game it has changed a great deal since he last took the field. He has to feel comfortable and find that one he feels he can introduce to his family. It is a big step. If done to early could scare away his friend. Just give him the time and the support so he can make the right decisions.
2006-07-12 03:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by Secret Squirrel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your curiosity is killing you, but your dad's not ready yet for you to meet.
Maybe he's making sure that this relationship is steady and meaningful enough to involve you.
Be patient...if she means enough to him, you'll know.
Meanwhile, your dad's aware you want to know more...so respect this and don't pressure him or make him feel guilty.
It's hard, but you'd want the same from him if you had a new bf or gf.
Good luck!
2006-07-12 03:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt want her to meet you yet then he isnt ready, he doesnt want to hurt you if this relationship doesnt work out. Be patient if this is the real deal between the two of them then he will intoduce her to you. Anther thing is you could say to him dad we know your not with mom any more and no one will take her place but we want you to be happy and if it is with this woman well we would like to meet the woman who does make you happy and see what he says maybe it will open the doors of comunications and he will tell you himself his feelings of you meeting her.
2006-07-12 03:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by sht4brains4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this actually happened to me once way back. My sister and I decided that the thing to do was to set up a really nice dinner for them both on a night we knew they were going to be going out. When my father came home and found a 14 year old and an 11 year old setting out a candlelit spaghetti and meatballs dinner, he couldn't resist and called her over to our house instead.
2006-07-12 03:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by derandnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. When the time is right, I'm sure it will happen, but if he is keeping her secret, it is best to let it go. Respecting his decision is the best way to give him the space he needs to feel comfortable bringing her into your life as well.
2006-07-12 03:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sean/Guy Wiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋