I'm 30 and currently dating a lovely gorgeous man who's 57 and I've never been happier in a relationship like this before. I know he's too old for me but is it wrong and anyones business? We enjoy each others company, have great conversations in and out of the bedroom. I've dated guys my age or a year or 2 older than me in the past but none of them compares this. If its not wrong then why do we get looks from others when we're out having dinner as a couple its not like we're all over each other???? Are they just jealous?
2006-07-12 03:15:49 · 51 answers · asked by Yoruba 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't have a problem with it as I've never been happier. Just wondering what everyone else opinion is....thanks for all your input.
2006-07-12 03:23:53 · update #1
There's nothing wrong with it... if you're happy and if both of you guys love each other... then go for it!=D don't let anyone dictate you what's wrong and what's right. You're the one who's in the relationship and not them. It's your happiness that we're talking about and not theirs.=D Age shouldn't matter. In fact, some of my friends at webdate have been dating older guys too... so far all's good with them. =D
2006-07-15 02:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by crazyangel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you're happy, you're happy, and that's right no matter what...
but those stares are from people that are trying to figure out if he's your dad or grandad...not jealousy, just freaky curiousity.
you said you've dated men only a couple years older than you...do you think that there might be some happy medium in ages between 32 and 57? i don't like to date guys my own age either, but i try not to go for more than 10 years older....6 or 7 is my goal.
IF this doesn't work out, why don't you give one of those middle guys a chance? If it does, all the happiness to you. one thing i wonder about is if you want kids or not...if you do, he's kind of old to be starting a family. He's certainly entitled, but if i were in that position, i don't think i would want to create children who are sure to lose a parent at a young age....he'll be near 80 by the time the kid is 20...not everyone lives to be that old...so theres a good chance that they'll be kids when he dies.
plus you'll be a younger widow too...
just food for thought...no judgements.
2006-07-12 03:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by ladylawyer26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age only becomes a factor in any relationship if you let it. However in relationships where the age gap is significant, as one partner gets older their partnership and territorial needs begin to differ. At fifty for example is it right to be boogying like a twenty year old just to please your partner ?
What happens if you have children with a partner old enough to be your parent. I will not say it is wrong but you always have to consider the consequences of your actions.
Love may be blind, but do you really want to put up with the comments and snide remarks from your family and friends ?
Age only matters if you havent thought it through properly and are both strong enough to support each other emotionally.
At the end of the day it is your decision, but make it together, and if it is what you truly want DO NOT let anybody sway you.
I hope sincerely that you can find happiness, I never did but someone else can.
Been there, Done it, Got the broken heart to prove it !!!
2006-07-12 03:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Peter R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you were 16 and he was 24 or something like that that would be wrong but, when you get past the whole bar scene age or out of school, I'm not really sure age matters. What matters is how he makes you feel, how he treats you, and the way you feel about yourself when you're with him. Age is just a number anyway and as long as you enjoy the same things and get along then why not. You are older enough to know what you like when you see it. Have fun and enjoy.
2006-07-12 03:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an "older man" (I am 49), and I also try to date women that are younger for several reasons.
1. A lot of women closer to my age are hard core and burnt out. I have a very positive out look on life. The women my age just have (for the most part) too much baggage. I have my own baggage, and I don't try to saddle them with it. Why should they saddle me with theirs?
2. I have a sense of humor, and I use it every chance I get. The women my age want to know why I can't be more serious. What they fail to understand is that that I am extremely serious where appropriate, which is why I can afford to have a sense of humor.
3. I am spontaneous. I like to wake up my partner at 3 am and go out for ice cream. Or fly her to Prague on one day's notice.
If you think that makes me immature, go hang out with some other old fart.
4. Women my age are so set in their thinking, they haven't had an original thought in 25 years. I'm always open to thinking and learning and don't want to stagnate.
The list goes on and on, but you know what I'm talking about. I'd rather be single than live with them.
Ignore all those people, and let them rot it the little h*lls of their own making. Know that when I see you, I'm cheering you on.
Good luck.
2006-07-12 04:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your happiness is the most important! Who cares what everyone else thinks! The only time I think this would be wrong is if you were under the age of 18! otherwise...have fun & live YOUR life!!! You're old enough to decide what's best for you!! But it sounds like you have a problem with it. Think about what you really want and be true to yourself!!
2006-07-12 03:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all people not jealous b/c you dating an older man...they look at you crazy b/c they basically think you some lil tramp with a suga daddy waitng for the skeezer to die so you will inherit his money....i really feel uncomfortable with that idea he was 27 yrs old when you were born...ill nasty......I would say you can be strictly friends but anything other than that is to risky think about his age hes freakin 57 old enough to be your daddy.....and plus he's doesnt have long to stay healthy...b/c old age will slow him down and if you do have kids you want your kids to have a father around to do things with them not a man to weak or sick to situp and you spendin time taking care of him...i advise you to find someone you can spend yourlife with not just 10 lucky if 20 years and then their gone...then you wouldve spent vaulable years playing nursing home....good luck...anyways why is a man of his age goning after young women, why cant he find women his age I can see 1-10 year age difference but 27 oh hell nall?
2006-07-12 03:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by scarletcutiecajunqueen 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong especially you being 30 you are old enough to carry a man of that age. I know a girl of 16 who is going out with a man of 66 years.
2006-07-12 03:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong, and No it is not anyone elses business. Why would people stare? it is unusual, but that is not a bad thing. How boring the world would be if everyone was the same.
I am very happy for you, I hope you have a long and wonderfully happy relationship.
2006-07-12 03:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by kenhallonthenet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am presently in a relationship with a younger woman. (Although we are only 19 years apart. LOL) And as with you I am in the best relationship of my 42 years! She is wonderful and we make each other happy.
When we see those bad looks from people, we acknowledge them and then laugh at them. All of our family and friends are just happy to see us happy.
We have started planning where and how we will get married. Although I haven't actually asked her yet, I have gotten her parents permission to ask he.
Enjoy it and laugh and anyone who doesn't understand.
2006-07-12 03:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋