Do you think it is harder to get along with your parents when you are grown and still live at home?

Question

As you get older does it seem less and less that you get along with your parents or do you feel you parents respect you more since you are grown?

Being a 20 year old woman!

Answer 1

XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX first of all, if you are grown you shouldn't be at home unless for educational reasons, financial reasons beyond your control, not just because you are lazy, don't want to work and want to take advantage of your parents, or because your parents are ill, elderly or need your support. Yes, the older people get the more set in there ways they are and they like things aa certain way so it's harder to get along with your elders when you try to change them or when they try to change you and no one agrees or can come to a compromise. That's when everyone involved butt heads. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 2

First off we need more information! How old is grown? If you are talking in your teens or early 20s, then you aren't grown yet and most of the problems come from your lack of respect for your parents. What problems can there be? You live under their roof and let them pay the bills, then you have to live by their rules. Follow the rules and give them the respect they deserve and you won't have any problems.

If you aren't willing to live by their rules, then move out and start paying your own way in the world. It is simple really.

Now if you are much older and moing back in with your folks, then also remember that they are the home owners and therefore you must accomodate them. After all it is their house and their property. If you don't like it then move out! Again it is really quite simple.

Answer 3

My mom has been one of my best friends all of my life. My parents were divorced when I was 20 years old and my mom and I had been living in the same house on and off since the divorce until my husband and I found our own home almost 6 years ago. My husband (for almost 8 years now) decided to build a house for my mom and her boyfriend in our yard. We get along great. I wouldn't have it any other way. My dad lives in the house that my parents lived in for over 23 years. I love him dearly and he lives less than 4 miles away. I go to visit him as much as possible.

Children will have a hard time growing up in their parents homes, but that's only because they care (that was my case anyway). After you have proved to your parents that you can make it on your own, they'll lighten up. : )

Answer 4

In my case, although my own brother is different, is;

At teenage, you feel, you can't get along with your parents.

After teens, when you are settled in job, you note the pressure of working life, and your above feeling is reduced to a considerable level i.e. you feel yeah they might have been right.

After marriage and kids, you face all the real facts of life, and then it comes finally, oh yeah, my parents were doing the job perfectly, it was me who was screwing things up.

Life will tell you the same answer.

Answer 5

Well when I was still in high school I faught with my parents constantly. Now that Im out of high school working fulltime. I get along better with them more than I ever did.

I believe when you get older and realize that your parents just want whats best for you it all makes sense. My parents say I've matured soooo much and how proud they are of me. If it wasn't for them I prob. wouldn't be the way I am.

Trust your parents they really do know/want whats best for you.

Answer 6

I know when I was 20 I moved back in with my parents and I totally HATED it! My mom still thought she could control everything I did with my life- including my job- who I dated- and A CURFEW!!! It was horable and it only caused alot of friction and hard feelings between us. Once I moved out everything was great and we patched things up. But no doubt- if I moved back in today- she would still want to control it all! lol

Answer 7

it becomes harder and harder for me to go along with my parents, they are so scared of me growing up that they absolutely want me to do exactly how he wants it to be. and sometimes even tells you to do so as long as you are still living under their roof, and well the day you tell them you are leaving, you are the rebellious one.

Answer 8

Hello,

In one way we dint feel good with their behaviour. But our parents whatever they do for our betterment only. We have to adjust with them.

Naveen