How long did you wait in between children, spacing I mean?

Question

My daughter will be two years old August 24th. I am currently pregnant and soon to be ready to have my son due August 9th. That makes them almost two years apart. We would like to have one more but can not decide whether to wait another two years or to go ahead and start trying after I am recovered from this one. How far apart is the spacing between your children and what do you recommend?

Answer 1

I have 3 children and they are all 2 years apart. I love it because they have each other to play with and are rarely bored at home. They are now 6,4, and 2. I wouldn't have done it any other way. They are very close, take care of each other and have things in common, like television programs, toys and books. It isn't always easy to spread the attention but it is worth it.

Answer 2

I have a son that is soon to be 5 in aug. His little brother turn 3 in April. We have a baby that turned 1 this month (july). They are the perfect ages apart i think. Most people think i am crazy cause they are all under 5 lol. But they all love to play together I think it is cause they are so close in age. They really don't seem to get jealous of each other at all. I think cause there wasn't really a time were any one can remember being an only child. Since the oldest was 20 month old when his brother was born. You will be busy but it is great gl and congrats on the new baby.

Answer 3

My 4 are spaced 3 years apart. My daughter's 3 are spaced 2 years apart. I think when they are this close together in age it tends to bring them closer in their relationship as they age. My oldest granddaughter is very protective of her sisters. When the second one was born she didn't like the idea at first until the baby came out and we told her she had to be gentle with her. So that's what she called her for the first year "Gentle". Now that she's 4 and the other one is 2 and the baby is 8 months, they are just little mother hens and the oldest is teaching the second one how to change diapers and stuff like that. I think 2-3 years spacing is a fun one to watch. They have eachother to play with and protect.

Answer 4

Our daughters were 1.5 yrs and 5.25 yrs apart. But we feel that minimum 2 years and maximum 4 years apart would give optimum time and opportunity to the parents and siblings to have best possible relationship as well as less stressing while they are growing up.

1. Daughter 20 yrs - 5 months
2. Daughter 18 yrs - 11 months
3. Daughter 13 yrs - 8 months

Married: 21 yrs - 7 months

Advice: take a breather after your second delivery!!

Answer 5

my children are four years apart and for my family that is a good age gap. My sisters and I are any where from eight years to two years and at times it feels like you are the mother of the youngest one and best friends to the one closest to you. Growing up I hated having a sister two years younger than me but as an adult she is my best friend. It really depends on your family and its dynamic. I would say have your son and see how difficult or easy it is for your family to have children two years apart and if its easy then opt for the third one right away and if you find it difficult I would wait. If it were me I would wait so that I could enjoy my son as an infant and allow my daughter the adjustment period to being not only a sibling but learning to have to share her time with mommy and daddy.

Answer 6

my kids are age 12, 8, and 6................ If i had it to do over again, I would have spoaced them out at least 4 years apart.

The biggest mistake parents make, is thinking children should be the same age group... this is soooooooo wrong it kills me.

when they are to close in age they fight more then you can imagine, they fight over friends, gifts, and so much more. it is more of a hassel then I can explain.

but the further apart they are, the more peaceful your life, and theirs.

My son who is 12, get along because he has his own friends, grades apart from the other two, and his own ways.

but my 8 and 6 year old, always fight.

every one I know with kids in the same age group have a hard time with them, yet 3-5 years apart gives them space, and it works out so much better.

Answer 7

It would depend on whether you want to just get the diaper/bottle stage over with as soon as possible. Do you want to be doing this again in say 4 years? Can you handle 3 children under 5, mentally? These are just a handful of questions you need to ask yourself before you decide.

Answer 8

My oldest daughter is 9. My youngest daughter is 6. They fight all the time. As a matter of fact, my 6 y/o just told me that her "sissy" called her an idiot, LOL.
I am thinking of trying again (I want a son and so does my husband), so that would place my youngest child and my 3rd child 7 years apart. I think your maternal instincts will let you know when you are ready to try again.
Congratulations!

Answer 9

well my lil girl well be 3 this month and i found out i am have another feb 14 th. i think to have some space is good the want fight as much my mom has 6 kids 23 16 15 7 6 4 the last 3 are close in age and fight but there get old and have kind stoped alittle i wanted to weight till my lil one started school but didnt work out that way but i am glad i am have my mine now i want be to old to enjoy them

Answer 10

My brother & I are like 1 1/2 years apart. I myself would wait two or three years for the third one. Its just up to you. If you can handle another little while u have two already. Or just wait til' the oldest starts kindergarten.

Answer 11

Theorectically, 2-5 years is an optimum spacing between children. Not so close that they compete for the same things, but not so far that they never develop a relationship.