Really, the girl has no sense of style...And I want to help her a lot, but she is very competitive, and she never admits that she is wrong. So, I am afraid that if I say that she needs some fashion advise and that some clothes really don't look nice on her, she will be sad and fight with me. I could ask my brother to tell her that (he also thinks that she dresses badly) but she could fight with him, and I don't want that, so...How can you tell someone, in a very nice way, that this person dresses really bad and needs some advise to go shopping??
2006-07-12 03:06:00 · 9 answers · asked by Davinci 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Offer to go shopping with her and show her things that would look good on her. When you see things she should wear, say "You would look so good in that!" if she's off on colors too, when she wears something that does flatter her, tell her "That color looks great on you" Compliment her on what works. Your brother can buy her some things, but buying clothes for someone in never a good idea. Since she's so competitive, use her sense of vanity in this. Tell her your brother would love to see her in something like this. Get your mom in on it, make it fun. Be really subtle. You have to break years of bad dressing probably ingrained by her parents!
2006-07-12 03:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by erin7 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Invite her to go shopping with you. Once you get to where you're going, say that you ought to both try out different styles than what you're used to. Pick out clothes for each other, and compliment her on a new choice that flatters her figure, coloring, etc. And maybe ask a sales lady or nearby customer if they feel the new look is flattering, just for an objective opinion. Or start with the sales lady and ask if she has any suggestions for a new style for each of you; that takes the heat off you, opens doors for outside opinions, and could make the whole experience fun. Make sure to shop somewhere that is affordable for each of you. Have fun!
2006-07-12 03:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by msgreen1967 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want help you can't help her. wait until she asks. let her dress badly. if she wants help she will ask.
or you could go out on a limb and say "would you like some help shopping?" or "would you like some help putting together a nice outfit?" and if she says no then don't help. if she says yes then try to help but if she fights you then just give up and love her. it's her life.
2006-07-12 03:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is exactly like that! She has a nack for picking out the ugliest clothes in the store! She ends up looking like a bag lady by time she is done! What I did was one day she asked what I thought of her outfit and I said " u know- I dont like it but you would look sooooo good in blue'! That showed her I was interested in helping her and wasnt going to judge her at the same time. Find ways to compliment her on something you would like her to try! Everyone loves praise! Get your brother in on it! If his wife is dressing in a way he doesnt like- his input will mean alot to her! Good luck! Remember- dont insult her in the process of helping her!
2006-07-12 03:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to realize, her style may not be the same as yours. maybe she wears what is comfortable not what is in glamor mag or Voge. if i feel good, i could care less what everyone else says is right. but if you must. always make notice of the fact she looks good in something when she looks good. when shopping tell her things that will look good on her. not blatent. but say things like... oh this is nice, i think it would look good on you, it would make your eyes so blue... you get the jist. ppl love to be complemented. and it could create a motive for her to wear such things. also, tell your brother to let her know what would look good on her or when she looks good. good luck!
2006-07-12 03:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not! Be grateful she replaced into in a position to present you with some thing in any respect! Who cares how a lot is spent? that's the idea and feeling that is going into the present paying for, not the quantity of money! You sound like some spoiled rotten textile female!
2016-11-01 22:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by harib 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business. This not worth causing trouble. So what if she doesn't dress to your standards. If she comes to you for advice then help her. Suggestion: on her birthday or Christmas make her a gift of a new outfit.
2006-07-12 03:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would just buy clothes for her and tell her that you thought of her while you were shopping. keep doing this and it might work. otherwise, unless someone is going to fight her, i wouldnt say anything to her about it.
2006-07-12 03:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by soccer babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. it's really not your business to tell someone how to dress unless you're a mother w/ an underaged kid.
2006-07-12 03:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by islandgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋