We carpool together (his idea) so he feels that it is easier for him to stay here during the work week. His reason for not moving in is that he isn't ready for a serious relationship. But, he seriously is ready to eat, sleep, surf the net, take a shower and do his laundry here!
2006-07-12 02:53:40 · 21 answers · asked by whoanelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make him pay half of the bills. Tell him if he wants to keep his own place he can pay for that too.
2006-07-12 02:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by buckykattrulez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you have allowed this to go on. I have never understood how you can have a non-serious relationship and yet have him sleeping over 6 days a week. Now I know some people are weak and can not abstain from sex and companionship for long. However if he doesn't want a real relationship, why are you wasting your time on him. If he doesn't want to live with you, then he really doesn't want to be with you, now does he!
Now you have to ask yourself, "If he isn't ready for a committed relationship, why am I here?" Is this really what you want, or should you go out and look for a mature man and leave this boy to grow up? I think once you have considered these things, you will be ready to tell him to quit coming over and using you and your kindhearted attitude. Maybe it is time for you to grow up that little bit more and become and adult!
2006-07-12 03:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha sounds like my boyfriend. I was patient with him then fate stepped in cause i had to move out of my place and could only find places that were more expensive so he said oh well Ok then i will move in to share the rent. he still went on for anohter 6 months that we were just flatting together even though we shared the same room. 10 years later we are very happilly married with two kids and he admits he was silly. BUT if it carrys on he could have commitment phobia!!
2006-07-12 02:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by burrowthroughanelephant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, quacks like a duck...then IT IS A DUCK! Listen to your instincts!
He's a USER and why you refuse to admit this to yourself is beyond me. I can tell from your words you already know this is the case. And why would you want to "get" someone to move in with you? Wouldn't you rather have someone WANT to be with you? He obviously doesn't. You and your car are a convenience for this leech 6 days a week. I don't know how much clearer I can make this for you.
Don't feel bad, you unfortunately have lots of company in this category.
Dump the "RICHARD" and work on your self esteem. Driving alone is very therapeutic.
Good luck.
2006-07-12 03:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that "carpooling" means, you pick him up or he picks you up, but y'all sleep in your own house, use your own hydro and buy your own food...
ask him why he's staying with you for 6 out of 7 days during the week if he isn't ready for a serious relationship..
the "i'm not ready for a serious relationship" just may be his way of staying out of one for as long as possible.. but girl, you gotta do something about him!
good luck!
2006-07-12 02:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he moves in then he has limited his opportunities if things don't work out. When he is ready to move in will be the time he has finally decided that he is ready to move to the next level and he will feel comfortable in doing that.
2006-07-12 02:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Butkusman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is doing nothing but taking total advantage of you. If he says he will move in (which in my opinion, he already has), then he will be responsible for half the bills. Tell him he's no longer welcome there until he's ready for a "serious" relationship.
2006-07-12 02:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start acting as if he's already with you, that way he'll either decide its good or won't be able to handle the stress and leave...and in that way you can get rid of him free-loading on you! Make him beg for you!
2006-07-12 03:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by Reality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm...sorry if you don't like my question...but I dun think he'll be ready to move in ever. I think he's taking advantage by staying there coz it's closer to his work...so practical for him...you deserve somebody better lah!
2006-07-12 02:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by belle_chocolatiere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the indisputable fact that he did no longer ask you to bypass in till the funds have been given undesirable leaves me to have self belief that money is the main considerable reason. i does no longer want somebody to wish me for that reason. in case you do no longer desire to bypass in there in any respect, do no longer. in case you desire to point that the two considered one of you p.c.. out a place and get it jointly, that is an theory, and he can nonetheless have some land or in spite of he needs.
2016-12-10 05:22:25 · answer #10 · answered by roedel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋