I have a year today with my boyfriend and sometimes i wonder if he really cares about me. Maybe its because im very insecure and probably always have been and listen to other people when they tell me stuff about him. I dont know.
2006-07-12 02:48:46 · 25 answers · asked by fairy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People are petty and most likely tell you things about him just to see your reaction. Forget about them. It's your heart, your feelings. If someone loves you, you can tell. If you can't tell, the bond just isn't there even if he does love you. Ask yourself: Does he make me happy? If your answer is yes then relax, you have someone worth your time.
2006-07-12 02:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sebring Sage 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having doubts, just give it time before you absolutely decide that he doesn't love you. If have any examples of why you've been feeling this way have those prepared and just confront him about your concern. By talking with him, it will show him that you trully care about the relationship and that you just want to make sure that you guys are on the right track. Communication is the most important thing, no lie! Once everything is out in the open you will feel much better.
2006-07-12 02:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Blondeboredom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many definitions for love. You've been with this guy for a year and still don't know. Does he not treat you right or show it? It may be that you are insecure. If this is a good guy and he does right by you then you need to stop listening to what people say and start listening to what your heart, mind, soul & instinct tell you. However, if he isn't then you need to move on. It's easier said then done this I know but you will be just fine w/o him.
2006-07-12 02:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by HopeThisHelps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a little thing I picked up and learned from "Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean that they don't love you with all that they have". Its true. Our level of loving is totally different from men. Just because a guy doesn't say the lovey dovey stuff doesn't mean he doesn't care. But if you need reassurance all I can say is ask. If he's honest he will look you in the eye and tell you he loves you. Thats all I can say. It will also show in the way he holds you touches you and that sort of stuff. I have the same problem as you with insecurity and so on. I always ask my boyfriend if he still loves me and if he still wants to be with me. He has tremendous patience and always reassures me. Trust me if he understands you and he should have some level of understanding of you considering its been a year, then he will reassure you. Good luck. Hang in there.
Ps. Ignore whatever other people say. This is between you and your partner, keep it that way.
2006-07-12 02:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listening to gossip about your guy is a BIG MISTAKE. Its not everybody that's happy with your relationship. Some might even pretend to be but they're not. Insecurity is not love my dear. Learn to trust that guy if you actually want the relationship to grow. I think that might be why you're finding it difficult to know whether he loves you or not. He might actually be showing you love but your insecurity might make it difficult for you to notice. Give him a chance dear and please shut all those loud mouths up by not listening to their stories. It will do you a world of good. All the best.
2006-07-12 03:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by applemaur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure there's any real way to know for sure, I know I love Christine but I don't even know entirely why.. I just do. All I can suggest is checking out a few of those relationship guide books, they can be a big help.
2006-07-12 02:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Deleted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way I know to be sure someone loves you is to ask yourself if they do things that someone in love does. Does he show he cares for you? Does he put your comfort at least on a par with his? Does he comfort you when you're upset? Does he go out of his way to do things for you? Do others see signs that he loves and cares about you? It's not a good sign if other people "tell me stuff about him" if those aren't good things.
2006-07-12 02:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very easy to know if your guy loves you from the way he treats you. Is he at peace with you? Does he feel free to introduce you to his friends? Does he respect you and consider your feelings before doing things? Does he always like to be with you? If your answer is yes then he loves you.
2006-07-12 02:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by kooldemand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should know by now how he feels about you by what your heart or gut instinct tells you. But keep in mind that people and realtionships change. So therefore feelings change. For example, he cares about you now and vice versa, but next year might be a different story. Anyway, just simply ask him. But not in a long, drawn out, crying, accusatory way. Keep it simple! Then, be satisfied with that answer.
2006-07-12 03:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by whoanelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rich Guy hoping someone or something changed my life so I was no longer selfish and arrogant. Then I could be a nice guy, a loving guy with money.Somebody has to do it!
2016-03-15 23:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋