I have been with this guy for two years and up until November of 2005 we were the happiest couple you have ever seen!!! And I mean that. Then one morning I woke up and had these worries about not loving him and worries about what if we break up or what if we never get married and I have had them ever since then which now has been 8 months and I love him, I really do. I think it is depression because I do not want to break up with him I want to be with him forever but it's like something tell's me to worry about stuff like that! My hormones drive me crazy n e way so my mom thinks that is what is wrong with me cause she said if I did not love him I would have done leaft him by now, but I just can't when I think about leaving him I cry and cry and cry!!!!
What can I do to make eveything good again???
2006-07-12 02:40:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Could it be that you're doing all this worrying because sub-consciously you may be thinking your boyfriend is having similar thoughts? Even though he may not be it's possible that after all this time together with everything going so perfect you're becoming paranoid that something will go devastatingly wrong and that maybe he's having these thoughts and not sharing them with you. My suggestion is that you sit down with him and continue to let him be a complete part of your life by sharing this problem with him. He obviously loves you and you love him and that's what two people in love do. They share and help one another.
2006-07-12 02:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are scared of being alone. i have been with my b/f for over 3 yrs, on and a couple times off. i have had these exact same worries. there is no such thing as a "perfect happy couple 24/7" you will get into quarrels that may question your happiness, love, and longevity of the relationship. if there is something else that is worrying you, or if you have a sense of guilt and are scared that he might find out and break-up with you, that would be justified, but I'd like to tell you not to worry.I'm sure he loves you just as much as you do, he just knows how to control his feelings a bit more.have a talk with him. let him know how much you care for him. let him know how much he means to you. he will love you so much more. since I'm assuming you are older and you have been together for 2 yrs, both should be at the level where something like that would be appreciated
2006-07-12 09:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by MARIA G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obvioulsy love him and you dont want to leave him. You cant worry everyday about if you guys break up what will you do. If it happens, its meant to happen for a reason. Concentrate on things you love to do to make yourself happy. So if something should happen to you to you will have something to keep you busy. I'm not saying you guys will break up though. Those are just suggestions. I worry about the same thing sometimes. When I am away from my boyfriend at times I sometimes feel like I dont miss him. Then I worry if he misses me. Then I worry about if I still love him b/c I dont miss him as much. But all of those worries disappear when I hear his voice or I see him. Whenever you see your boyfriend are you still really happy? Thats the key thing. Dont worry girly you will be ok. Just try to concentrate more on you rather than worrying about your boyfriend all the time. ok take care.
2006-07-12 09:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by cutelil_bubble21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's a fear of getting hurt or burnt in the relationship and having to start over finding someone to have the same strong feelings for. Perhaps you wonder if there is something better out there or if things did end, how could you find someone as great as him cuz he has set the standard...Maybe these feelings are generated to protect yourself because of the fear of being hurt...that's just my hypothesis
2006-07-12 09:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this emotional depression with your Dr., he should recommend psychiatric counseling which may lead to a psychiatrist prescribing medication to balance your emotional state..it appears it doesn't really matter what your situation is, good or better your in an emotional state that does not allow you to feel accordingly but worry about if it were to change..having a good relationship but worrying it may go bad is a bit contradicting..see your Dr. and follow his instructions...good luck.
2006-07-12 09:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your perspective.
It sounds like you are so used to being abused and mistreated that you think that something is really wrong when everything goes so well. Just be happy with the fact that you are in a good relationship and stop expecting things to go bad.
2006-07-12 09:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling and see a doc for an antidepressant. Something set this off...you didn't just "wake up" one morning depressed. Help yourself so you can love this man like you want to. Good luck.
2006-07-12 09:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly relax your mind and body stop worrying so much. i really want to see u happy and i feel ur pain honestly i do however does he reaaly love u the way u do does he show it to you, you need to sit and talk with him ask him if he would marry you. let your relationship with him be as open as possible communicate a lot, try to plz him and satisfy him. a marriage told me in a relationship u must give and not want to get because th more you give the more u get. i hope to god this will hepl u
2006-07-12 09:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good counselor! Something is going on in the back of your mind that you are experiencing emotions about yet are not consciously aware of. You need to figure this out so you can be comfortable with your relationship.
2006-07-12 09:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by yonica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the doctor get meds for it, an stop letting the mind destroy you, sounds like your really in love, an thats is enough to keep ffoing own for, your body is like a ship your the captain an you have control over the ship, good luck im sure everthing will be fine , i think your mom is so right,
2006-07-12 09:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by cris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋