One wife is that all?

Question

I belong to a religious community which practices not only strong moral principles and a code of brotherly love but which also allows me to have more than 1 wife.
I myself have at the moment 2 wives (soon to be 3) we all - that is my wives and 9 children and assorted pets live in close harmony with each other.

Here in my community we have an old 'community saying' which is;
Q...How many wives can you get at your kitchen sink.

A...As many as you kneed to keep a clean house.

This answer always raises a smile when visitors do 'The Tour'.

I reckon that there's more than one male out there who is more than a little envious of our ways!
Is There ?

Answer 1

If you can keep your attention to all of them, some women may be envious of your wives too.

Answer 2

I think most men figure that just one is enough of a handful. Then there is paying to support multiple wives. I am not married but the tradition in our society is for husband and wife to have a closer relationship with each other than with anyone else -- each one is totally special to the other. Each completely gives him- or herself totally and exclusively to the other. That appeals to me, and doesn't seem possible in a polygamous relationship. Monogamy is so ingrained in our society that people hardly countenance polygamy.

Then there always end up being rivalries among the wives, and probably among the children too (as you have both half siblings and full siblings).

All this effort for what, a little bit of sexual "variety"?

Answer 3

I know its your way of life but as a woman in the 21st Century there is no way I could ever live that life in your community. I was not born to cook clean and have babies. Women have brains and are capable of individual thought and many are highly intelligent and clever!

Are you all happy? Is there ever jealousy between you all? Do the women ever wish for a freer more modern life (with a career etc) like I lead? I personally believe in monogamy and wonder how you get around the laws against polygamy? Are the women allowed to have more than one husband? Is your community sexist then?

Answer 4

3 wives, 3 lots of PMT all at once, 3 mother-in-laws. Still, that 3 women to do your bidding, 3 women to do the housework, 3 women to do the childcare and only one man to do the oredering around. Well, I can see why they want to do it?
Why would you want to do it?
You an't have a proper full relationship with three women. There are jealousies and resentments. It's an ego thing. Not for real women.

Answer 5

no not really, I think you use religion as away to get some ***. its a way for a man to control a women. I do not need to trick a woman to be with me. Its was made up a long time ago to control your women, why would you want to do that. If she wants to leave then let her.
I bet if it wasn't for your religion you would be single, a loser, scared to be a real man.
Here is your test go on the outside of your religion and try that, I bet you would fail. I bet you what ever you want.
You are even on here asking guys if we would like to be in your position. Big deal that you can sleep with a few wife's, It kind of looses its manliness when you have to use religion to get lade.

Answer 6

Legally, you are only married to your first wife, the other 'wives' are not recognised as such unless the first wife dies or you divorce, then you would have to legally marry one of the other ones!! Until then they are really just lovers & their children are illegitimate

I have no objection to the way you live, what I don't like is the obvious disrespect of your women folk with that c****y chauvinistic saying!!

Answer 7

Men already do that religiously!! 99.9% of all men follow that religion and their church is growing daliy. I've seen a few churches like that one is called "I've got a girlfriend and a wife on the side" there's deacons of the "It wasn't me congregation" and then there is one well known one by the Reverend 50 Cent a big movement called " I ain't in to makin luv" his ministry has grown tremendously lol

Answer 8

How can u have a fully committed relationship with each of them, with full trust and love? There must be jealousy. R u fully honest with all of them? I just can't see it working. It's hard enough to build a really great relationship with 1 woman and discover all sides of her, inside and out, mind, body and soul. How can u really have a full and true relationship with 3? If u just want to be the "boss" of a bunch of women, but not have a deep bond with any of them, then I guess that could work for you. Not for me, thanks.

Answer 9

I am sorry but this is my honest opinion. This thing about marrying more than one wife is just about men being greedy.
The second thing about it is that the religion does not have respect for women as human beings and are regarded as property acquired or to be acquired. No offense meant.

Answer 10

You should count yourself lucky that any woman would marry you with an attititude like that. Women are not there to do you cleaning - if thats what you want then get a bloody housekeeper and pay like everyone else.