Me & my B/F of about a year have great SEX, multiple times a day, everyday. & I know quality goes over quantity, but it is really great! Here is the thing that concerns me, we talk dirty during Sex, we actually talk about sleeping with other peopel or peopel we have slept with in the past! We have not acted on this, but it turns us both on. I am turned on by agressiveness (I am a bit of a masochisti) & he is turned on by slutty girls. I am worried that he will leave me because in real life I am not slutty at all, I am a real lady, well manered & dressed, but when it comes to sex, sky is the limit! ( I am a exotic dancer when cash is short but in real life I am a secretary!!!) I love my B/F so much & everything about him is great, his personality & looks & our conversations & sex of course! I am scared he will leave me for a real slutty, since I want children one day & so on! Am I worried for no reason? What should I do? I am scared this will lead to him cheating on me! How do men feel?
2006-07-12 02:23:56 · 18 answers · asked by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your having that much great sex, I dont see why he would leave. I dont know the man, so I really coudnt say, butI dont think you have much to worry about. You dont have to be slutty, just be slutty in the bedroom with your boyfriend, if thats what he likes. And I dont see why having children would change anything, if he really loves you.
Dont know if your actually contemplating bringing in a 3rd party for sex, but, alot of people have fantasies about their BF, GF, or spouse having sex with someone else, and get turned on by it. But thats exactly what it is. A fantasy. Its may seem like a good idea, but after it actually happens, alot of people have major problems with resentment and such, and end up splitting up.
Just my opinion.
2006-07-12 02:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by MetalTeK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being slutty is not only the way you dress and how you interact with coworkers and your family. Having sex with a guy that you have no real commitment to, and doing it several times a day is in fact slutty. Talking dirty during sex is slutty. Having slept with several men is slutty.
So it sounds like you are the perfect girl for this guy.
Guys enjoy sex. They enjoy thinking about it often and talking to their friends about sex. They think about how good the sex would be with almost every attractive female they come across. Men who have had several partners are more likely to continue in that pattern, which means someday, maybe today, he will sleep with another woman. He might leave you first, he might do it behind your back, he probably fantasizes about having the new girl join the two of you.
If you continue to offer sex to a man with no need for commitment he will most likely continue to have sex with you, but that is limit to the whole relationship. Do not nag, do not talk about marriage, do not complain. If you want to study men in this aspect watch the following movies and observe how the men relate to women. Vanilla Sky - Tom leaves the slutty girl to pursue the hard to get girl. Swingers - the male behaivor in this movie is only slightly exagerated. High Fidelity - Cusack reveals all male secrets about what guys think about women in this movie.
If you want a real relationship at least wait until there is a ring on your finger before dirtying your sheets.
2006-07-12 09:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by yesmynameismud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you're not real slutty but a lady... but you openly admit to exotic dancing.... that's pretty slutty if you ask me.
What? Does he want someone who has slept around? If not.... and if the sex is still that good a year from now.... don't worry about it. He's yours. Any guy who can come home and have an uninhibited woman whenever he wants her.... will keep coming home.
2006-07-12 09:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the only one. My bf and I do the same thing. It started off that way. We would talk dirty, which made the sex phenomenal. After doing that for a while, we thought we would maybe act on it. We did, and wow. If you are comfortable enough in your relationship, and maybe are a little adventurous, you should try it. Granted it took a little bit of time to actually do it, but I have no regrets. It was fun for all of us.
2006-07-12 09:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by jagerchick80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a great relationship. As someone wise *cough, cough* said 'We want a woman on the street and a freak in the bed' and from the sounds of it, you got it mastered. Sex talk is just that, to get you excited and aroused. Unless you've seriously talked about doing these things when you aren't engaged in the act, I wouldn't worry. Lucky guy btw. :P
2006-07-12 09:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by sanatori2050 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your relationship is on a fast burn. How long can you keep it up.?Like a long distance runner, you can only keep it up for so long. In order for you to get a good answer you might have to do some soul searching. He could be just after you for the sex. Put him off for 2 weeks. If he is still around, you may have a keeper. good luck!
2006-07-12 09:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ahab 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are just fantasies even though they are shared. Seems to me you would do well to double-check with him that your mutual fantasies will remain fantasies. In a calm moment, in his response to the question whether, for him, there is separation between what he says in passion and real-life desire, you can probably rely on the answer. You're right tho, keep looking for deal-breakers. Time, conversation, and vigilance may help reveal the answer
2006-07-12 09:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's interesting... all you need to do is just prove that your not "slutty" to him. Show him that you are a lady not a "slutty" person. Using these words scare me sorry if I offend you or anything. But that's how my friend and his gf's relation lasted
2006-07-12 09:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by slashkill1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the perfect woman for this guy - and most men. Don't worry, don't change a thing. Well, change one thing ... rework your "problem" just a bit and submit it to Penthouse. Not only is it publication worthy, your "B/F" will go wild know you got published in Penthouse and it was about HIM.
2006-07-12 09:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he like the slutty feeling but you are the best think that happed to you and him, just keep it up in the room and you will be great together and it we last a life time.
2006-07-12 09:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋