We are planning on movin out of state for the second time in two years, with plans to move again in another two years. Worried too much for young children (under 4yrs)
2006-07-12 02:13:23 · 20 answers · asked by double0negitive 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
being this young i would say its not the worst, but it does inhibit them from making life time friends and things of that nature to much older and i would say no way! kids need friends a close ones who they can talk to and trust. once they get into school its hard for a kid to have to leave their friends then have to try and make news ones and make it in a new school..
2006-07-12 02:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by sera 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
While moving to alot of different places can be an opportunity for children to experience different parts of the world it can also take its toll.
When I was a younger I moved around about a total of 7 times in 7 years, I never got to stay somewhere for longer than a year or two... It made it hard for me to get close to people in school because I knew that soon I would have to leave again and leave all my new friends behind... As a result I ended up being a loner in high school and was never quite confortable around anyone because I never learned to make friends.
I think you should try to reconsider your options and try your hardest to let your children settle somewhere.
2006-07-12 02:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by natie_05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some things to consider:
(1) the purpose of moving (a) why so often
(2) How will it affect school-aged children? (If not school-age now, will they be of school-age when you move again.)
(3) When do you plan to settle down?
Moving affects everyone. Just as soon as you get settled it's time to move again. It's too much for anybody. As a military Mom my kids moved around every two to three years. Your consern is valid. How you handle the move will make the transition easier for your children.
2006-07-12 02:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by L B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is. Kids of divorce move every week or so and thats over half of all children. Seriously though, you are fine. My daughter has moved 5 times and she is six. We are already planning another move in about a year and a half. She loves it and is fine. Just make it fun for the kids, focus on the new room and how you should set it up and the new yard or whatever.
2006-07-12 02:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that at that age it's o.k., but like everyone else said it's when they get a little older that it's a little different. I never moved myself as a kid but my boyfriend did. His dad had a job that made them move ALL the time. He's lived in almost every state in the US. From what he's told me, he eventually gave up on grades because he knew in a couple of months he'd be in a different school. But this is coming from a person really well traveled. If you worry about just moving a couple of times, it shouldn't be anything to worry about.
2006-07-12 03:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by toni01rh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have 3 children and have moved about 10 times because of the army's needs. All of our moving has been while the boys were younger. Our oldest is now 12 and there will be no more moving for me and the boys. (Husband and my choice.)
The boys are very smart, and have learned much about the different countries we have been to.
2006-07-12 02:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by housefullofboys3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are still too young to make that bad for them. I move every 2 years or so, I buy investment housing. But, I keep my kids in a private school, so they never have to change schools and friends. They do complain sometimes, only because they hate packing the boxes!! I think your kids are still so young that it shouldn't be a problem, they adjust. Good Luck!
2006-07-12 02:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok he he was under 4 years cause he still can adjust with the new place but 6 and up is not a good adea cause in school ur son will build alot friendship everytime u all move,that will cause bad reaction when he leaves his friends and try to have anothers. good luck
2006-07-12 02:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by sasa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We moved quite a bit when I was a child and we were all pretty resilient. It is very easy to make new friends and adjust at that age. Home is where you are :)
As your child gets older it is more difficult because they will form meaningful friendships and any moving after grade 7 could be quite difficult
2006-07-12 02:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because when I met my husband he always talked about moving all the time ,because his mother wanted too. He said how hard it was to make new friends( he said he was scared to make new friends because he didn't know when he would have to move again). Maybe you should sit down and talk to your husband about all the moving and then talk to your children. Good Luck and god bless
2006-07-12 02:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by mommy2faithat19#3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋