Basically, this guy is 40 and married with kids (lecturer in a university I work at). About 6 months ago he used to ALWAYS stare at me - Ive caught him MANy times just staring at me. He even carried on staring at me when I looked up at him.
This gradually subsided, even though I caught him staring at me still while I wasnt looking then he turned away when I looked up.
Now..he just completely blanks me...and I have given him no indication that I like him. When I walk past him..its like im invisible to him and he doesnt even say 'hi' anymore.
Why does he do that. From what I know of him - he is shy and sensitive natured but confident in speech (as hes a lecturer).
Should I show him that I am interested in him? Or is it too late?
I am 24 and have a Degree. I work at the University at the Same Department as him and I will also be studying for an MBA part-time while Im working and he is NOT my teacher/lecturer.
2006-07-12 01:59:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
... so what's wrong with good old flip? ...
2006-07-14 08:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by Astra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is my opinion, so take it as just that: an opinion You are 24 and have your life ahead of you, while this guy is 40 (nearly double your age): maybe he stopped doing the things he did because hes realised the tension between the two of you and does not want to lose the wonderful life he already has (kids, wife etc)... But that doesnt mean that you two shouldnt communicate at all: you can become friends and discuss work related issues, since you will be in the eys of each other most of the time, being in the same department ! OR MAYBE: he was just admiring your beauty and does not want to get serious with you. I dont think you should be interested in him...he's married!! im sure there are others out there for you
2016-03-27 02:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts? Married is married. If you wouldn't like your spouse looking around for someone on the side, a married person's partner won't like it either. And if they're willing to fool around, no matter what sob story you get, they'll never be faithful and you wouldn't have a lasting relationship anyway. If anyone is miserable in any relationship, they need to get out of it first, and have some healing time alone, before they start something new. Otherwise, nothing will ever work. Forget him. He's not worth it. And yes, a sob story is just that: a sob story. Everyone has the opportunity to leave if they want out, but many like to get people to feel sorry for them so they get what they want without the risk of a permanent relationship. Sorry. You need to be yourself, confident and secure in who you are and the right one will come along and respect you, too.
2006-07-12 02:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by msgreen1967 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him, his infactuation for you is over, remember he is a married man and his lust for other women depends on his situation at his home and maybe he is back on the right track with his wife and so wants to do away with the mistake he was about to make. just wait for the right man for you not an abuser of a Lecturer.
2006-07-12 02:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all he's married n has kids would u want ur husband talkin or messin around with someone behind ur back second of course he's not goin to say anything he probably think ur not interested because u havent showed it
2006-07-12 02:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely was staring at girl behind you, she most prob moved desks now so not really looking ur way anymroe.
Im guessing he was gay anyway.
2006-07-12 02:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Carl eo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you waited too long to acknowledge his stares. Why don't you say hello to him first and smile. If he doesn't react, let it go, Lewie.
2006-07-12 02:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for someone with brains you acting really dumb. leave him alone, he's got his woman. men often look at other women lustfully but why do you have to ruin it for his wife?
why do men lust after women they can never have?
the same reason dogs like chasing cars they'll never drive
2006-07-12 02:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your teacher but hes still married you home wrecker LOL
2006-07-12 02:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Hitman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is married with kids he cant be that shy. Stay well clear before you get hurt.
2006-07-12 02:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by angelo26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably feels guilty now, since he is married &
knows that what he did was not right.
go after someone who is NOT married & leave him alone.
2006-07-12 02:08:42 · answer #11 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋