I have made the decision to stop working for awhile and stay home with the children to take care of them. My wife agreed and is going to go back to work. Been working since I was 18 and currently in 40's. It's not that I can't take care of them. What should I expect in this transition?
2006-07-12 00:41:32 · 16 answers · asked by Jedi 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I thank all of you for answering. I took a piece of eveyone and came up with this.
Currently in your position. . The thing is, you are in your 40s (as am I) and you'll probably handle it better than someone younger.how old are the children? If young expect alot of demanding request. But its worth it.
When they say I love you, or look at you like you just did the best thing in the world for them, they will think you're great you may feel discouraged because you don't get to talk to someone your own age all day expect anything and everything. It may help you with your communication with your wife, for you'll be excited to get some adult conversation.
Expect nothing living paycheck to paycheck.you don't just take care of the kids, you take care of the cleaning as well. Plan to grocery shop and clean and do laundry . Learn to make pancakes...lol., then enjoy your time with them when they come home. Be sure to save little chores for them even if you have time to do them yourself.
2006-07-12 05:45:01 · update #1
It will take great understanding and team leadership abilities on your part to get all to agree and work together
alot of one on one time to spend with them I personally would rather do this then have them in day care with strangers. good luck.
You can see you all had something to contribute. Thank you.
2006-07-12 05:47:34 · update #2
I am a stay at home mom to a 3 year old boy and a 5 month old girl.Be prepared to be on your toes if they are really young like this. There will be alot of demands no breaks or relax time no time for yourself.Which after a while will stress you out. There is more to it than people think.A lot of hubbys think the wife sits on her butt all day and its easy as pie. But on the other hand I love being a stay at home mom because the benefit of your child saying i love you or thanks mommy are over the moon. And you have alot of one on one time to spend with them I personally would rather do this then have them in day care with strangers. It also has alot to do with patience and your temperment. If you can handle this go for it I applaude you cause i dont know many fathers that would do this I know my hubby wouldnt. Good luck
2006-07-12 01:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First, I want to say that I think that is a wonderful idea. The kids will get to know you in a whole different way. You will be surprised at all the little things you may not know about them now. If you liked your job, you will probably miss the routine. At first. Although I am a woman I worked for 10 years before having my first child and staying home with him. At first, i was super organized and regimented, just like I had been at work. Scheduled my day down to the minute. That was stressful and didn't work. I eventually learned to "go with the flow" but it took a long time. If the children are in school, plan to grocery shop and clean and do laundry while they are there, then enjoy your time with them when they come home. Be sure to save little chores for them even if you have time to do them yourself. If I knew your children's ages I could tell you more. For now, just enjoy your new life!
2006-07-12 00:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First how old are the children. If young expect alot of demanding request. You dont get days off, no vaction, no breaks. Long hours, no time for your self, and very timely. But its worth it, I know b/c I am a stay a home mom. But when they say I love you, or look at you like you just did the best thing in the world for them, its wonderful.
2006-07-12 00:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by only14life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in your job there was probably a lot of repitition. kids are not the same every day, nor can you do the same thing with them every day. this is a good thing! just don't forget that you aren't working with your equal anymore, although you may feel discouraged because you don't get to talk to someone your own age all day, it may help you with your communication with your wife, for you'll be excited to get some adult conversation.
2006-07-12 00:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To become the toast of the ladies in the park with the other kids, as the only man there, a) they will think you're great and b) they will want to talk to you because they only ever have women and kids to talk too!
Your mates will slag you and you will love going for a pint more than you do now (when you get out!)
By 3 months you will be ready to trade back!
2006-07-12 00:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by zara c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An amazing appreciation for the stay hime mom, as well as increased intimacy with the kids, plus all the daily arguments, etc. It will take great understanding and team leadership abilities on your part to get all to agree and work together. ...or maybe not!
2006-07-12 01:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were a man, i could do that, you see practically a woman is always a better home maker, and a man is a good bread earner, but even if this happens that i feel a need to change roles, i would have done that, think modern, do not think of grandpa's days
2016-03-27 02:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just that it's a lot harder work than you may think. The thing is, you are in your 40s (as am I) and you'll probably handle it better than someone younger. Good luck!!!
2006-07-12 00:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
expect anything and everything.
right now i would give anything if my hubby would help me out any. I still have a semester of art school to finish up before May ( in my free time) plus i have some military stuff to fill out about our posessions, plus i need to get an emergancy kit ready (it is typhoon season in Japan), and not to menchion I still need to find some Japanese students who want a conversational english teacher (it pays 20-30 an hour) and i really hate living paycheck to paycheck. i just wished he would help me so i can get out and help him (money wise)
2006-07-12 00:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother who has done both I have to say that staying home with our children is a lot more work than going to an office everyday. I think if anything you will have more repsect for her!
2006-07-12 05:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋