2006-07-12 00:00:22 · 14 answers · asked by sovan2107 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sanction him. Whenever he does something bad, find some way to prevent him from doing something he likes. Take away a toy, deny him any extra treats, ect, but don't make a fuss about it. Explain to him why you did so if he asks, but do it calmly and to the point. The best way to handle arrogance is to simply ignore it. He'll find out for himself what to do and what not to do, and it's always better for children to find the limits themselves rather than learn it through dicipline and yelling.
2006-07-12 00:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mikkel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids sometimes become so adamant if we allow them. I want to let you know that when things rises up, let your voice speaks firmness and don't hesitate to discipline him if he needs it. Yes you need to discipline him now, if he gave you stress at that age now how much more if he will grow up. Now when they are smaller use the cane then love him a lot but when he is at the teenage use lesser cane and communicate a lot. Kids tend to try to test your word . If you said so then do it. So don't tell them thing you cant do it. You better surprise them rather that to let them down. If you cant m,make what you say they cant respect you. If you want respect from them then try to value what you say. If you told them that they cannot have a Christmas present because they are doing something an acceptable then do it. I know it is painful but let them feel the crunch. Scold the kid now but forget it. Don't ever there be a spoiled CD that is keep repeating the offense by doing it you are destroying the soul of your kid. Appreciate him if he did something great but please don't scold them in front of anyone even siblings. Be a friend to him all the time. Let him know that you love him even who he is but you don't like the things that he has done and relate to him that when you were kid you did a lot of mistake too and your parents were right by disciplining you.
2006-07-12 00:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by edith m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him. If that does not work punish him if he did something wrong. I do not mean physical punishment. Take away something that he likes temporarily. Maybe a toy or no ice cream or whatever. At four, he is still too young to understand his actions. What you must do is to make him realise what he did was wrong. I have a friend who has the same problem with his son. Each time the boy did something wrong, he was made to sit in the corner for a certain period of time. So each time he wants to be naughty, he thinks twice. His boy is 9 years old not. He is doing fine.
2006-07-12 00:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lost Sheep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well can see who rules that house hold, He is a 4 year old kid , stand up to him and make him understand that he has to do as he is told or there will be consequences . You don't have to knock him about but the odd smack never did me no harm. All the bleeding hearts that say we should not hit children . I cant understand why people listen to these "experts" on children when most of them don't even have any.
2006-07-12 00:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dirty Rob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says in a sense "spare the rod, spoil the child". That is why the Lord put a little cushion on the behind. You are doing it for your son's good. You do not want him to end up in prison or worse. Good Luck!
2006-07-12 01:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find the only punishment that has an effect on my son is to take a toy away each time he is naughty but then give it him back the next time he is good
2006-07-12 00:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Fiona M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should discipline him more if does something minor scold him and tell him that his actions were wrong however I think a good spanking would probably straighten him out if he does anything majorly bad such as throws or deliberately breaks things
2006-07-12 01:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by Peace, Love, Gun<3☎ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!?? He is only 4!!! Be the parent, put your foot down even if it kills you--stop spoiling him and say no and mean it!! I am so sick of seeing parents who aren't able to control their children because they just can't say no. Why are parents so afraid of hurting their children's feelings??? That is why children are growing up with a sense of entitlement that in unfounded.
2006-07-12 00:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may need to be on ridaline, keep his sugar intake to a minamum, especially when it is time to put him down to sleep. We get wired on a can of Mountain Dew, can you imagine what that does to a little racing heart of a childs!!!
2006-07-12 00:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by tprincl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where were you in the last 4 years when he was GROWING unrully, adamant and arrogant???
bring up a child in the WAY he should go and when his old, he'd never turn aside!
2006-07-12 00:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kheme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋