I asked a guy whom I was slightly interested in and who I think was interested in me to edit a paper I had written; he said he would, but he didn’t. So I called him and left a message and he did not return my call. Next day, I called him from a different phone and he answered and told me that he would do it, but he shouldn’t because I had treated him unkindly at the gym. Anyways, needless to say he never came by to edit the paper like he said he would. So I called him again and left a message and told him that we needed to talk and that obviously he was still mad. He still did not call me back. I don’t know what to do? I think that what happened at the gym was not that big of a deal. Maybe he was looking for a way to stop talking to me or maybe I am just being paranoid. What bothered me the most (aside from the unanswered phone call) is that he lied to me. So should I give up or keep trying.
2006-07-11 23:35:53 · 16 answers · asked by bella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What happened at the gym is that I was talking to one of my friends that I had not seen for a longtime and he just walked in between us and gave me hug and started talking to me (I was mad at him for something he did the week before) so I just turned around and started talking to the person I was talking to. The “guy” said I dissed him. He dissed me and he is still dissing me.
2006-07-11 23:49:01 · update #1
Leave him alone. One thing I learned/never do; is chase a guy. If after the 2nd message he has not replied or returned the phone call----that's it; I'm done! YOU MUST NEVER CHASE A GUY! I suggest just forgetting him. If he is going to get so upset over some none sense that happened at the gym. Then so be it. He can f**k off! Don't contact him again. If he dropped dead you would find someone else to help you edit your paper wouldn't you?
2006-07-11 23:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by strawberries 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well giving up is easy but to keep trying takes courage. I think you should confront him in person and ask him why he hasn't edit your paper yet. Also tell him if he is not going to edit your paper to give it back so you can find someone else to do it. But alarm him that you are disappointed about the situation and try to explain to him that you didn't mean what happened at the gym to affect him in anyway and then apologize, whether you want to or not. Then ask him if ya'll can sit down and edit the paper together if says he will edit it for you. But if he is acting like he just doesn't want to do it then leave him alone because evidently he is acting immature. That's how you should handle the situation because you don't have time to play games with someone that wants to act like a child. I hope this helps and if you need anymore advice then hit me up.
2006-07-12 06:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by Pooh Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling him cause this is leading to nowhere.
Another thing is that sometimes we do things that hurt others very much, even if we don't know about it... so, who knows what is on his mind now!
Buuut.. you know what? It sounds to me that this egoist guy is just enjoying that you keep calling after him and he is trying to make you feel guilty for nothing!
Don't call and edit that paper yourself or ask someone else if important. He should come to you if he is also interested in you... and such stupid setting as editing a paper and stuff won't help there! Maybe he also found it stupid and he's waiting for you to back out a bit, so that he can make a move. Comm'on, give him some space, some playfield for action...... don't annoy him with calls any more!
Best of luck! :-)
2006-07-12 06:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just feels very guilty because he, for some reason, couldn't keep the promise of editing the paper. He is trying to hide from this guilt, thus he is just staying away from the accusations, for some time. You should probably meet him, but with a NO aggressive look on your face, and tell him that it's allright if he couldn't do it. You should stress the MORE important fact, that you like him and see his reaction. The gym is just something to say, because he had to bring up SOMETHING, too pride to admit his guilt.
Thischaracter usually comes in Cancers, like me, that's why I can feel it. Just tell him that it's allright with thepaper, don't mention any of his guilt. Tryto get him to smile, and moveon to more specific topics.
2006-07-12 07:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ramil M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was u, i will give up. Or maybe u can try not to call him anymore cos it will irritate him somemore. See how things go by itself. And, if he is that easily to be mad about minor thing, do u think u want such a person to be your partner?
2006-07-12 06:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by UltimateKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, first of all, he a b*tch for lyin to you, he looks like he is intrested but hes acting like a goddamn little girl. I say edit your own papers and get yourself a real man . mmmhhhmmmmmmm
2006-07-12 06:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by NICE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give Up!
Want's the point of flogging a dead horse?
He's made his feelings quite clear.
2006-07-12 06:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space. remeber if he was interested in you he would have done what he said he would do.
you might be a bit pressuring, guys don't like pressure.
2006-07-12 06:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by s210189 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any person with self-respect should detach him/herself from the stupid guy. So you should give up.
2006-07-12 06:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by sovan2107 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahhaaa. he thought u the perfect for him . u r her dream girl i'm sure
2006-07-12 06:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋