This guy im kind of seeing wants to get a hotel with me, but im not too fond of the idea?

Question

I think the whole thing is sleazy, but he wants to get one for privicy reasons. We can't go to his place or mine since there is always family around.

He says a lot of couples do this, but im not sure.

Any opinions?

Answer 1

Well, in all honesty, when I was younger, and there was no where else to go, that's where I always went with boyfriends. I absolutely refused to make love in the back of a car.

It was a privacy issue, as well. There were times when we could be alone, but chances were very good that someone would come home, and there's nothing worse than being caught in an intimate moment by a member of your family.

As for other people doing it, I had both kinds of friends. I had friends that didn't mind the back of a car, or standing around the back of a building, and I had friends that insisted on hotels.

As for it being sleazy, I know several people who have worked at hotels, and they have told me it is incredibly common, so much so that they don't bat an eye. The general consensus seems to be that if you pay your money, and you don't throw furniture out the window, or disturb the other guests, then what you are doing in the room is no one's business but your own. My own personal feeling is that it is much better than a lot of places, including the back of your Dad's Buick.

If you are uncomfortable with a hotel, is there somewhere else where you are pretty much guaranteed privacy, like out in nature somewhere? I have one friend that was always very fond of making love under the stars when we were young. She would always make her boyfriend scout out the area first, to make sure it really was private, and then they would just pack up a blanket and some food, and say they were going for a picnic with a movie later on. Her parents didn't need to know that they never actually went to the movies afterward. Places like beaches, parks, and wilderness areas might work, as long as they are fairly secluded.

When we all got to be a little older, we always seemed to know someone who had their own apartment and who wasn't averse to spending the night with friends so that someone else could come over and use their place. In fact, my best friend told her parents that she was getting her own place, and furnished it, and everything else, but she got it in the same building as her boyfriend. She lived downstairs with him, and her apartment was known as "Love Central". I think in the year that she rented that apartment, she probably only spent a total of 3 week's worth of nights actually sleeping in it, and those were times when she was fighting with her boyfriend, or when I came over and we watched movies and got drunk and spent the night talking about everything from the trivial to the sublime.

The main thing is that you need to be comfortable with being wherever you end up. If you aren't comfortable with a hotel, then don't do it. If you two haven't already been intimate, but you plan on making love in the future, you will need to figure something out before then. But you need to be in a safe, private, secure environment first, so you can relax and take your time and enjoy it.

Answer 2

If you're really 14 you shouldn't be going to any hotel with any guy. If you are for real, you need to slow down, start seeing someone else, and maybe no one at all for another year or two. You can get hurt by jumping in too quick. If this guy is old enough to get a hotel room, he is going to be committing statutory rape.

Answer 3

If you're not comfortable with the idea then don't do it. I can understand the need for privacy but if you think it's sleazy you'd be uncofortable the whole time and wouldn't enjoy it. Wait until you've seen for longer and you might change your mind.

Answer 4

It depends upon how you value your virginity and how you trust him! Most of the unmarried couples now are doing pre marital sex but still that seems to ruin their future,mostly girl get pregnant out of wedlock and get married being not stabled or prepared that is why a lot of decisions came into a big trouble!But you are matured enough and you are entitled to your own decision,if I were you I have to avoid such thing but not your boyfriend and if he will dissappear,he don't deserved to be your future husband,he must understand you first!

Answer 5

So, are you doing him, or what?

Nothing wrong with going to a hotel. Make a night, or even a weekend out of it. Going to Vegas for a couple of days is always fun.

Answer 6

I think that he is thinking of your feelings. Get a room then go out to dinner to a movie get relaxed and do it. Would you rather just do it in the back seat of the car?

Answer 7

Have a large number of relaxing! Win! Rescue Me bill is allergic to Apples so Oranges *movie star* This sunday (fifth) is my sixteenth birthday! yet all my relations are all busy :-( yet my mom reported she became going to make me a cake :-)

Answer 8

Follow your feelings.. if you are not comfortable.. don't do it.. Chances are, he wants to get physical.. Once you give in.. he'll dump you. If he respects you.. he shouldn't ask you to go to a hotel. You said it yourself .. it does looks sleazy. Trust your instincts.........

Answer 9

only go there if (and when) YOU want to

I'm sure a lot of couples do this..... but that's no reason to force you to do things you don't really want to do.

If the guy is really interested in you he won't care that you don't want, if he keeps on pushing you> kick his ### because then he just wants to have sex.

Answer 10

it really depends on how long have you been going out, ask yourself if you really love this guy and if he really loves you too and also what have he done to prove it...
but in the end if you still don't think that you're comfortable with the idea then don't do it... hehe...