the guy im with keeps going clubs with his friends he's cheated on me before he knows how much it hurts me wen he goes to sleazy clubs but cares more bout his enjoyment. I love him but he's going on a holiday to ianapa for clubbin and staying with girls he's kissed before its killing me but i love him and he continues to deny he'll do anythin and that im just bein ridiculous and gives out to me wen i ask him to reconsider going. wat shud i do?
2006-07-11 23:22:16 · 30 answers · asked by clara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you with him? You already know he has cheated on you. Dump him because the relationship is not improving your life. You should be happy in a relationship but from what you said I can tell you spend a good part of your time wondering what he is doing and with who. Is this the type of relationship you want? Dump him so you can find a guy who will not cheat. Don't you at least deserve that?
2006-07-11 23:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by strawberries 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its hurting like that get rid of him you be a mess the whole time that he is away. He is being a selfish pig and not caring about your feelings at all, if he did he wouldnt go or would take you with him.
I know you think that you love him but he dont feel the same ,you can tell by the way that he is treating you its not on. You diserve some one better than this tell him to sod off he is a looser and you he will be the one that is sorry for loosing a chick like you x be strong and be happy he isnt making you happy he is making you weak and paraniod and thats not good x take care
2006-07-11 23:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so easy for others to say, "Ditch him, move on," etc. Love don't work like that, if you have never really loved, it's easy to say things like that. But the trouble is, it's true, moving on and finding some one better has you looking back and wondering why you were so stupid. Your man doesn't really love you, if he did he would not do anything to harm you, but harm you he does. You should never chase a man, any man, never give him everything, save something back for special occasions. I bet you just give and give, but many men just take it for granted. Stop giving, bite your tongue, tell him to go on holiday, tell him you may just go somewhere yourself. Make him run after you for a change. If any man worth having ignores this, he was not worth having, in which case you have not lost anything, you have just regained your freedom and mind. There are good men out there, men who could love and cherish you, just be careful not to pick the wrong one. Slowly, hold back, but be honest from the start until the end.
2006-07-11 23:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time to love sb, n also it takes the same time to forget him and souvenir u guys had 2gether. Me, myself is a guy, so i believe he only takes u for granted. it's hard to stop loving, it is like trying to brake a full speed car, but sooner or later, little by little if u really car will slow down.
If u have any souvenirs like photos taken 2gether, gifts from him, anything about him, pls throw them right away to bin. Erase his phone number or email address. Dont spend ur day n night waiting 4 his calling to apologize, cux this won't happen( sorry, it's a bit unkind)
When u get up in the morning, tell urself i'll be strong and ok. This guy can't control my feeling, but i do. I can choose thousands of better guys.
2006-07-11 23:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is an idiot. do yourself a favour. stop and think about the way he is making you feel. you are so upset about this tool that you are asking other peoples advice. he should be making you happy not swanning off to some out of sight clubbing/sex club.
lets face it, you already know what he's going to get up to so put yourself out of misery and drop him. you are clearly a sensitive caring person with far more to give than this loser wants from you. there are millions of guys out there who will treat you better and make you feel a million dollars. dont be his doormat.
have you considered that whilst he's sleeping around he may pick up an std and pass it on to you when all his floozies are not around. he wont stop cheating on you, he's young and doesn't really care about commitment right now in his life, you say you love him but it seems to me that he cares a lot less about you, if he cared he would take your concerns seriously.
you are better than that aren't you?
do you really want it to go on like this?
do you really think he is going to change his ways?
believe me, from a guy who has treated women badly in the past. its not going to change, he is not the one.
its your life, don't let it be dominated by someone who you know already to be unfaithfull.
good luck missy, don't give in though.
or i will be upset!!
x
2006-07-11 23:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by squalalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i was in this kind of relationship for about two yrs, at the end of the relationship this guy broke up with me and said he only went out with me cos of my dad's money. it was really hurtful but i have leant from it. Just becos u love this guy doesnt mean u have to be with him. But the decision is up to u, we can all give u advise but we cant make up ur mind for u. I think if u were really fed up with getting hurt u would get out of this relationship.
I wish u luck, get rid of this guy u dont need him. Dont stay with him when u could meeting the best guy ever.
2006-07-11 23:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by oye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, love is not one sided. If he loved you he wouldnt do things to jeapordize the relationship. He is taking complete advantage of you and you deserve so much better. Ditch the *** hole. It will hurt for a while but I promise the pain ends. You will find someone who will be faithful and treat you right. Stand up for yourself and respect yourself or no one else ever will. And again he is a prick and doesnt deserve you
2006-07-12 01:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the ways of the devil,and turn to God and live Godly. Eating your supper at breaktime will only leave you go to bed with empty stomach and howlong do you think the night will be?
Save your womanhood for the realman and not all this wayward that live mirage life.
A word is enough for the wise.
2006-07-11 23:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him straight away, he's selfish and only wants to look after number one. Don't be a fool, I know you're hurting but the longer you stay with him the more it will hurt in the end, trust me. He doesn't give a damn about you, he's nothing but a player and there's nothing you can do about that, just walk away.
2006-07-11 23:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its high time to realise that you are too good 4 him. You love him despite of him hurting u. Let him carry on with his enjoyment. Bt u plz get out of his life.
You will surely find a person who will regard you as the highest.
Don't let youselves be hurted.
Take care. My wishes
2006-07-11 23:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋