2006-07-11 23:21:59 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Post partum depression is a well known phenomenon which occurs after women have had babies. This is potentially quite serious and your wife needs URGENT medical help! Let her see your doctor or her midwife TODAY! It can get quite bad and some women get suicidal which is a big risk!
Having said all this, take heart because it is curable. The important thing is to get help quickly before she harms herself or her baby.
YOUR WIFE NEEDS URGENT HELP! THIS IS AN EMERGENCY!
2006-07-11 23:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by natsubee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it peace your looking for or is it you just don't no how to help? as someone who had really bad depression now that my child is much older the hard things are not having many memories of my child not having many pictures or videos etc so for you there is some practical stuff you can do like helping around the house, taking your wife out, you take the baby out to give her a rest catch up on sleep, yes your wife needs help and you can make a difference she will need a lot of reassurance and remember take photos of the baby write down special things keep a record this all might sound unimportant at this time when you are both going through this difficult time but later u will both appreciate and especially your wife good-luck it will get better it just takes time lots of support and understanding
2006-07-11 23:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by miakaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs your support, she needs you now, probably more than ever before. The problem is that she may not be able to show you or tell you what you need to do. This will lead to a sense of helpnessless in you and probably leads to you thinking you need some peace. Are there any professionals involved in helping? Is it a good idea to try to find out if your wife would like there to be? Can you arrange for the baby to be looked after while you take her out? Just you two? Can you arrange for her to have some peace? My guess is she might need it just as much, if not more than you right now. Can you take the baby for a while so that she can just have some time to herself? Good luck
2006-07-12 03:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by silentium aqualis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be kidding??? Hence, Men should have babies - there would be no population explosion!!! Geeez!
Take your wife to the docs, she probably needs some help, with post Natal depression, which is not to be sneezed at ( other then by a MCP!?)
Then take the baby to the park in its pram for a nice long walk, like a proud daddy should do, to give your wife some peace and quiet, There are Pub Gardens - this may suit you more.
Depression is not to be taken lightly, it hurts more then a broken leg, not much fun to live with I know. But if you love her and your baby, get help and help and support her
2006-07-19 09:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she been to the doctors - maybe she needs anti depressants. Depression is common after childbirth. Give her alot of support and try to get her to talk about how shes feeling. It will get better in time. You doing the disappearing act will just make matters worse. If you want some timeout take your kid out to the park to to visit family and give her a chance to have some time on her own.
2006-07-12 04:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a postpartum nurse, I can tell you, you both need some downtime.
How old is the baby? Is mom breastfeeding? How is that going for her? Is this her first baby?
Please do what so many others have said - go with her to the doctor, support her and be understanding of her problems and use of antidepressants. Usually medication is relatively short term.
What she is going through is a hormonal/medical reality, please don't downplay it or try to get her to "snap out of it."
Take her to dinner - offer to watch the baby while she naps or takes a shower - change the diapers, and if she is bottle feeding - feed the baby with some regularity.
You're BOTH in this - and it's hard - especially if it's your first - this is uncharted gound - and it's scary and you're tired.
so, unfortunately - you do need to be more involved for now.
Yes you too deserve time out - but maybe for a couple hours out doing whatever - not a real "get away" per se. Parenting is a team effort forever, and good or bad, hormonal or sleep deprived she needs you, and so does your child.
2006-07-12 03:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of thinking about yourself try being a bit more understanding and sympathetic! You try pushing something the size of a melon through your anus and then you might understand a fraction of how painful giving birth to YOUR child was. Post natal depression is not something to take lightly, it can even lead to suicide so if you don't want to lose your wife and care an ounce about her feelings you need to get her to a doctor. I'm positive they will be more sympathetic to her needs than you currently are.
That said, it is a curable problem and she should get back to her usual loving self in a fairly short space of time. Just think that her hormones are having a party but she wasn't invited. Help her to enjoy these precious few months with your newborn because they soon fly by...
2006-07-11 23:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by fifi_le_pou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god if that the way you thinking i bet it you that is you making her depressed!
she has just gave birth to YOUR baby and YOU want some peace? what a complete idiot!
your wife my have post natal depression - and you arent making it any better. i hope for her sake that you havent mentioned that you 'want some peace'. she has just gone through a HUGE life changing event. she probably is worried about every litlle thing, her hormones are all over that place and now she has this little tiny person that needs her - constantly. she probably feels she cant talk to you and her feelings are snowballing and getting worse.
i suggest you grow up, speak to your wife and make an appointment at the doctors for her. or speak to your wifes health visitor and let he know you think she is feeling down.
2006-07-11 23:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by jil_bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her to the doctor to get the help and support she needs, sounds like Post Natal Depression is a possibility here. You need to be there for her NOT going out to get some peace. Get her some help NOW!
2006-07-11 23:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you. You need to seek advice on how to help her. She is suffering from post natal depression. It is not a nice thing to go through and it can not be helped. Bbe supportive instead of thinking of yourself. Offer to look after the baby while she has a nice soak in the bath or while she goes out with a friend for a coffee.
2006-07-11 23:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by MissBehave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋