2006-07-11 22:46:20 · 7 answers · asked by nazi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your nose starts itching
2006-07-11 22:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by who is this 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, we can never really know what another person is thinking or feeling: we can only observe their behavior and draw inferences from that.
The second is that we judge others by our own standards. If I'm a person who feels loved when somebody hugs me and kisses me, I'm most likely going to try to show love to another person by hugging and kissing them. But what if they experience the feeling of being loved when somebody brings them an unexpected gift, and hugs or kisses are relatively meaningless to them?
This isn't an abstraction: it's a very real problem of communication, particularly for people with ADHD, in relationships ranging from those with our spouses to those with our friends or children.
I'd always assumed that when I told any one of them that I loved them that they'd then know that I loved them-but words like that were only meaningful to one of the three.
We all experience love differently, and what we want to get is very often quite different from what we should be giving to make those around us feel that we love or care about them.
The challenge for all of us is to pay attention closely to the signals others give about how they want to be loved, and then express our love to them in the way they will hear/see/feel it, no matter how odd or counter-intuitive it may seem to us. The most difficult part of that for people with ADHD is when their partner considers "paying attention" to be a sign of "love." This is common in our culture, particularly among Farmer types of people.
But self-knowledge is always half the battle. Making an effort to give our partners, friends, and family members expressions of love on their terms is one of the first and most effective ways of getting back love on our own terms.
2006-07-11 22:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never know , when it will slowly enter in your life , right now just relax and enjoy present .
2006-07-11 22:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask them how they feel or you can look at their actions_ how they treat you; the way they behave when they are around you.
2006-07-11 22:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he wants to spend every sec with u
2006-07-11 22:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by nsms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i'l tell u then u'l know
2006-07-11 23:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is your name nazi!?
2006-07-11 22:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by vincent34543 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋