Please help all the signs lead to that he is cheating....And they have been married for like 35 years....He works out of town alot and we have went about anyway possible to get hi to admit to it and he wont...So if you have any ideas please share cause we have not had any sleep and he dont even seem to care cause he is in roanoke about 100 and some miles away from us..........Please help we dont know what to do....
2006-07-11 22:26:30 · 20 answers · asked by momma2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you or your mom suspect that your dad is cheating, he must have given you a reason. My dad cheated on my mom and she found out based solely on her own instinct. I was in denial until my mom told me. It's a difficult situation to be in.
My parents are still married but my dad no longer lives with my mom. However, I must say, she seems much happier because she got to live her life the way she wanted to live it. She discovered a side of herself she never knew existed because her marriage was keeping this side of her down.
If your dad is away alot and isn't spending too much time with the family and doesn't seem to care, it is possible he is cheating. People can be selfish that way. Has he tried to reassure your mom that he's not? If your mom isn't happy, perhaps she is better off without having to worry about your dad.
2006-07-11 22:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ava T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only are 100 miles away from him she could follow him or sneak up on him, but you need not be involved either way it is not your responsibility to help your parents in their relationship. I know it probably hurts you to see your mother go through this pain and suffering but you should not ask your dad. That is between them and I know you may think it is your fault but it isn't and it isn't your mothers fault either. Sometimes people think the grass is greener on the other side and then find out it really isn't. Maybe your dad is going through a midlife crisis and just needs some time to refocus on his family. The best thing you can do is be there for him to help him pick up the peices in whatever decision your mother makes and don't get in the middle because even if he is cheating it doesn't mean he doesn't love you or your mom. It just means he has strayed. It happens and there is nothing you or she can do if it is already done then it can't be undone. You and your mother should pray about it and stop nagging him because if he isn't then he might start just because of the accusations and they always say the one who is accussing is the one doing the cheating anyway. So try to step back and don't get so caught up or wrapped up into the moment until you actually have physical proof and maybe back off as if you didn't care and he may come around to talking about it on his own. Give him some space make him wonder what the two of you are doing maybe go shopping just before he gets home or go to a movie and don't be there when he gets there make him wonder what you are doing. That will usually bring things to a head if he thinks the two of you are getting along without him maybe some light will be shed on the situation maybe he will start coming home more often to check and see what you are up to. Good Luck!
2006-07-12 06:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by shywittty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not showing any interest in your Mom, he's prolly not cheating. Cheaters tend to show more interest than usual out of guilt. If you guys have accused him, he's likely standoffish because he's A)Hurt because he wasn't cheating, or B)Caught and doesn't know what to do now.
In the end, does it matter? If you and your Mom are unhappy, confront Dad with that. Regardless of WHY you're unhappy, you are. Let him know this and see what changes. Your Mom may have to bail.
If he IS cheating, no one but him can stop it. Deal with the unhappiness, the reasons are not as important as the results.
2006-07-12 05:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by inthshade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying 2 be funny, but u can contact Cheaters either online or by phone and they will hire u a detective 4 free and they will follow ur dad or at least be able 2 give u good advice on your question
2006-07-12 05:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by shortyb5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking him constantly would only push him away. I would not advise YOU to find out. It is your mother's responsibility and she should not put you in the picture.
Your approach seems wrong. It seems to me that you are demanding an answer from him instead of actually asking. If you really want to interfere you have to let him trust you, you should make him feel safe and secure around you. Do not judge him when you are ASKING.
No father would want to go back to a family that does not trust him...
Good luck
2006-07-12 05:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sad.. I think your mum is the one who has to handle this and not you.. Maybe first it would be good if you checked on his phone bills to see any unusual number or unusual times he calls.. ask him to give you his self phone to call a friend or something but instead check on the dialed numbers and the received.. maybe his inbox as well .. i know this is his privacy but you have to know a few things before you say anything.. Then tell your mum just to talk to him and Im sure she will know what to do next..Maybe is just a misunderstanding but you really need to talk to him about this..
2006-07-12 06:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
check the bank account of your dad or the monthly salaray if its small unlike the past few months then he is cheating to your mom. i didn't say he is having an affair but like he is gambling or going to bar which he is not use to be. thats the other way of cheating. good luck!
2006-07-12 05:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by bunny baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to just love both your parents. No one is perfect and it is their relationship. Neither one should be dragging you into it. Grown folks should act like grown folks and take care of their own business without dragging others into it, child or adult.
2006-07-12 05:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u think he is, he is, i knew my dad was cheating on my mom, i could just tell, most women know too if they are being cheated on, what is in the dark will come to light, but that is nothing for u to woory yourself over.
2006-07-12 05:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by vet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call cheaters from the TV show.
Or Call your local spy company most large cites have one.
2006-07-12 05:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by msk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋