I had a girlfriend for 3 years and from the moment I discovered that I loved her, I was happy to tell her a few times a day. Now, I meant it every time and I interspersed it with other romantic moments and other phrases which were appreciated, but I was accused of wearing out the "I love you."
Can that really be? How many women DON'T get told that their eyes look beautiful, or really specially alive in the candlelight?
If it comes from the heart, do I really have to rein it in? It wasn't any kind of freaky obsessive number of times. Just along the day, in passing, a peck on the forehead, the cheek, an "I love you."
Anyway, thank you in advance for you answers! And for all those women that didn't get onwe today, a free "I love you!" You know you deserve it!
2006-07-11 21:59:51 · 11 answers · asked by NotsoaNonymous 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
"If it comes from the heart, do I really have to rein it in?"
you both need to do the things that make you happy and comfortable. if she wants you to 'rein it in' try that for a while. or offer her an alternative. it's really about respectful and loving compromises to keep everyone happy. learn to negotiate and work things through. it's not really hard if both are willing and do it in good will. maybe she gets fed up with being told somethng when other things are not okay. it takes a lot of careful and caring discussion sometimes to get at what's eating your partner and if you love someone, you are willing to talk about it until a resolution is reached.
or......you move on to someone who accepts you as you are!
2006-07-11 22:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buzzzbe, one should not start with spirituality in every question, because Spirituality is something concerning with the intellect or what is often thought of as the better or higher part of mind. Or is it the moral aspect of life? Perhaps it may even mean a state of being incorporeal. Whatever way one may define, it may be termed as an ideal that reckons all reality in essence as spiritual. Or simply stated spirituality is ones character or quality that makes one transcend the barriers of worldliness, caste, creed and sensuality; and realize ones connection with the Truth.Spirituality is not praying all the time or following all rituals of religious dogmas. Discarding all worldly things, become a saga, start wearing saffron or white or black or green robs. It also does not mean going to jungles or mountain a secluded place away from the world. People were doing it, so that they may not be tempted toward them. Love means one should live with harmony with its neighbour so that one can live in peace.
2016-03-27 02:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I got like that with my husband. I don't know you personally, but he would tend to say it more often when he was acting the complete opposite. You know, ignoring me to play video games, having an attitude if I asked him to do something. Or, if the day before we had a fight(a fight in which he was in the wrong) So when someone has upset you to the point of crying and fighting, them telling you that they love you over and over again just seems lackluster. I, for one, appreciate something more if I don't get it all the time. A few times a day is fine, but more than that is sometimes overkill.
2006-07-11 22:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way and manner you say it matters a lot. Is she really convinced that the "I love you" is from the heart? Doing the right thing at the wrong time is bad.
2006-07-12 02:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by kooldemand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and soulmate Tony says 'I love you' everyday, and I love it because I know he means it. We're in a long-distance long-term relationship and I feel so special and loved when he tells me that. I never get tired of hearing it. I tell him that I love him all the time, because I really do.
You deserve a 'I love you'!
2006-07-11 22:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by @~>--T--<~@ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must appreciate n be happy for whata man she's got, one who loves her indeed . But maybe she's disturbed or maybe u say it at odd times. Nevertheless, she must not say that , n u must politely n lovingly ask her why that bothers her, maybe there is a reason
2006-07-11 22:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Vio Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some people who love to be told everyday i love you they thrive on it . but others who feel some wear the i love you out like a cracked record and yes there are some women/men who don't want to be told i love you everyday to them. there are many men/women who don't get told i love you by there better halves.
2006-07-11 22:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sad you were accused of wearing it out. Women always have to complain about something.
2006-07-11 22:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear it all the time. My husband is like you. He never fails to tell me he loves me. He never fails to kiss me hello and goodbye and every other kiss in between.
I think you deserve an "I love you too!"
2006-07-11 22:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by mx3baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe beacause you kinda mention the word alot of times she is thinking that you are saying that like a routine... in saying i love you you should also show that you love her... be appreciative for your gf... say why you love her... explain to her why she's the one for you... i love you is a hard thing to say but sometimes it becomes a routine for lovers... so action can speak of love itself better...
2006-07-11 22:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by unpretty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋