The other day I spoke with my Grandmother and she kept telling me how she can't die soon enough. And now I cant get over how sad she is, what can I say or do for her to make her feel better about living. Please help me.
2006-07-11 21:41:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't say if she has been sick or not. Sometimes people have been sick for a long time feel like that, because they feel they will be a burden to their love ones and they don't won't you to suffer. There must be and underlying reason for that statement. I would probably ask her to explain why she made this statement or what she meant by it. It could be she's lonely. It could be because one of her friends have recently died or she feels all alone because most of her friends are gone. Try to spend more time with her. Just love on her and let her know that you are there for her. Pray for her and yourself. You have to get over the sense of helplessness and sadness. When parents and grandparents get old they just want to feel needed, loved, and pampered. Call her daily, tell her jokes to make her laugh, ask her for advise, plan activities that you and she could do together that will create new memories for you as well as her. Above all, don't give up.
2006-07-11 22:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Grandmother (GMA) Corinne just passed away at the age of 95. How old is your GMA? Is she ill? The first thing I would do is get a tape recorder, phone or video camera and a pen and paper. Come up with 10 or so questions to ask your GMA about her life. Where she was born, where she grew up, how she met Grandpa, were your parents brats as kids...... This will get her focused on something else, and bring you two closer. Sometimes seriously ill and elderly people are frustrated with their living arrangements and other things. They have to depend on others to care for them and may not live on their own. Besides the natural deterioration of their body and mind, there is the whole concept of what happens after we die. Your GMA may be just tired, and ready to move on. Some people believe that death is only the beginning of the next stage. Spend time with her, on the phone or in person if you can.
2006-07-12 04:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason she feels the way she is feeling. Try find out why? Then go about trying to change those things which make her sad. Above all, be a positive energy towards her. Cheer her up. Take her out into a place with fresh air and nice scenery. Take her for a drive. Spend time with her. All you can do is your best at the end of the day. But at least you can say you did your best! Good luck!
2006-07-12 04:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the problem ,O damn I do.It's Depression, many a times old people become depressed and feel worthless and sad and feel like life is nothing and wanna die .To say the truth she needs lot's of love n should never be made to feel that she is no more of much worth. Also counselling or a visit to a psychologist could help coz I really feel she is suffering from depression as most old people do.To learn learn more about depression u could visit websites on depression, just search on yahoo or Google or anywhere else
2006-07-12 04:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Vio Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have time, spend it with her. Also, tell others in your family to do the same. You can't do it alone.
Make her feel needed. Ask her to help you with a school project even if you have to make one up! Or ask her a question and tell her that only she knows the answer to it.
Ask her about herself when she was your age and just let her talk.
Ask her questions so she knows you're interested in her and that you care, like where she grew up.
Don't forget to tell her how amazing she is! Tell her she's smart and ask for advice. I bet you'll learn a lot from her.
You can do this even if she lives too far to visit. Use the phone.
Hope she feels better and hope you do, too.
Don't feel bad if she stays depressed. Just do your best to help.
That's all you can do. Good luck, sweetie.
2006-07-12 05:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mary* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of older people feel that way because they feel like they are in the way of everyone else, they know they can't do things as good or as quick as they used to. Is she ill and wants out of suffering? My father in law had diabetes and he was in dialysis everday. He would say that he would rather die than go through it every single day. I guess it just depends on her situation. Try to spend as much time with her as possible and remind her how important she is in your life. Tell her that if she wasn't here then who would tell you stories from way back. Ask her about the past, she will relive it and hopefully it'll change her view of life.
Tell her often that you love her. Invite her to lunch or ask her what she enjoys doing and do it with her.
2006-07-12 04:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do to make her feel better about living. Depending on her health and quality of life, to her there may not be any good reason to live. Many of the things in her life have changed or gone "away" so to her there is no good reason to go on. So ultimately there is nothing you can do or say to change how she feels. Try putting yourself in her shoes and see what she sees...you might understand better why she feels this way.
2006-07-12 04:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by tmajik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be lonely. Can you go spend time with her? Take her out to lunch, go through photo albums, take her to a movie or play? Maybe you can send her some flowers? Mail a card every month or so? Does she have access to a computer? She may like to volunteer somewhere. She might enjoy finding a Pen Pal. Often, our seniors are overlooked as people go about their lives. It only takes a few hours a month to brighten a loved one's life.
http://www.volunteermatch.org
2006-07-12 04:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure she knows how much you love her and spend as much time with her as you can. Has she lost some friends recently? If so then she may be feeling lonely and scared. How is her health? Is she in a lot of pain? If so then she may be tired of trying to deal with it. I'm kind of in the same situation with my father. He has a multitude of health problems and sometimes just gets tired of it all.
2006-07-12 09:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus try finding out wats really making her upset!an if u get the answer jus help her get out of it by spending quality time wit her or by telling her or makin her fel how special is she 4 u1.ther r many ways an i m sure u understand her betr than ne1!{i m hapy u care 4 her an luv her so much}yupp keep it up!
2006-07-12 04:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by shags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋