Do you like and / or get along with your siblings?

Question

I have two sisters and three brothers. I tend to have more in common with my brothers. The path in life we have chosen and lifestyle issues.... but it is possible to go almost a month or more without talking to any siblings. Anyone else not really close with their sibs? Do you almost feel guilty for it, like you should be friends?

we have all been out of the house for probly 5 years, and most of us live anywhere from 1 hour to 10 hours appart driving distance.

the oldest one is nineteen years older than the youngest one.

Answer 1

Sure. I love my brother.

Answer 2

My brother and i used to beat the hell out of each other when we were teens and when we were first out of the house and into our early 20's we really didn't talk a whole lot. But now in our late 20's/early 30's we talk often and e-mail almost everyday (we live 1800 miles apart).

My best friend is 1 of 7 kids who are between the ages of 29 and 45 and they all live in the same city. I am shocked at how they are all constantly fighting. The oldest didn't speak to anyone but the next oldest sister and her mom for 5 or 6 years. Now she makes an effort with the rest of the family and they try to be nice but there is still a lot of anger towards her. They're really only nice to her for their mother's sake. My friend never expresses pain or sadness when it comes to her and her sibs fighting, she mostly seems aggravated and exhausted!

Answer 3

The age difference may have a lot to do with it, of course the changing lifestyles, families, careers, etc. play an important role also. I'm sure you are not the only sibling to take notice of this. You can be the one to make a change, Pick up the phone and call each one of them. don't settle for voice mails and answering services. Talk directly to each one and say "Hello Jane Doe, how was your day........"I just call to tell you I Love You". This not only will spark their attention it will generate a conversation, Even if there are trying to figure out what the hell is going on. In a couple of days you will receive calls from most if not all of them.

Answer 4

I have two brothers, one is ten years older than me, and the other one is six years older than me. I am the only girl and the baby of the family. We are all very different from each other and we each have chosen different life paths. My brothers aren't very close at all, they used to fight all the time.. they get along now, because they don't see each other all the time. They don't talk until a family get together, and that is alright.... they don't have to be friends......why? because they're brothers.

Answer 5

I have two brothers one older and one younger, my younger brother is my best friend. We all still live in the same city, but only because were all pretty close. I wouldnt feel guilty about not being close, its hard when you live further apart, I know lots of other siblings that hardly even know each other anymore. Its not how often you talk really but what you talk about when you do talk.

Answer 6

Some families just don't get along well. Sometimes the best thing to do is to cut your losses. The happiest 21 years in our family are those in which we haven't spoken. It isn't that we don't want the best for each other - but because we do want the best for one another - that staying apart is the better path. Guilt can only be caused because one or other of the parents wishes for family unity and implicitly blames a family member for not wanting to stay together. But the fact remains that togetherness is not always the correct path to happiness. We are all of us free in this country to pursue our own happiness. We need not shortchange ourselves for supposed obligations to some other.

Answer 7

There were, in essence, five girls and one boy in my family. My oldest sister provoked my other siblings into being mean to me. She called me "slave". She lied about me and hurt others feelings. Since I was the youngest, I was blamed for everything and was punished for their disobedience. I went through rough times. At the age of 53, I finally decided not to let her get away with her lies about me. Man, did I sock it to her. We argued for a few weeks and I blocked her so she couldn't e-mail me. I never talked to her again. She refused to let me say good by when she was on her death bed. I did not feel bad that she did not want to see me, nor that she died. I morned her death a couple years before she died, when we quit talking. She was so hurtful to me that I couldn't feel anything. My other siblings and I are acquaintances. We love each other but there is something missing to me. we live a couple thousands of miles away.

Answer 8

i have no siblings