am 19 and i like this guy but hes 37 and not married. I know he likes me too but i dont know if its right. Hes like well known by most ppl around me and i also hv a reputation to keep but hes so cute. what do i do? should i ignore the other ppl and their talks and go for him or i should ignore my feelings for him.
2006-07-11 21:34:05 · 16 answers · asked by jennyb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you genuinely like him, then try to ignore what anyone may say and go for it. However if it is only because he is *cute* and the relationship will only be a fling, then you have to weigh up whether it is worth it or not in terms of reputation, comments by others etc... The bottom line is, if it works for the pair of you, and age is not an issue to you, then send everyone else to hell, and enjoy each others company regardless of what others are saying - its your life, so live it.
2006-07-11 21:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 16⤊ 4⤋
I think at this point you should really ask urself what you really want. Dun control ur feelings. Feelings can't be controlled easily. Either you have them or you dun gal. Love is something great dun just stop urself from it.
Another thing age doesn't matter.
You said that a lot ppl knw him? It is about u and not them. If you are scared of ur reputation you really have to think about it. Maybe you should talk with him about what is going to happend and would it be and so on. It is better for u like that. Have a coffeee with him and talk everything over and after that you think is that what you want?
2006-07-11 21:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by nsms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad day when you worry about what others think. At the end of the day who are those people anyway? Do they have an actual say in your life that they should make you not do what you obviously want to do? It's YOUR life, do what you want to do! Maybe you are going to miss out on the best thing that ever happened to you...or not. Who knows until you try. Human beings and their opinions are the reason why the world is the way it is. If people don't like what you are doing, what's it got to do with them anyways! Do what you want to do. Screw the rest! Good luck!
2006-07-11 21:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats too much of an age difference...I mean you are 19 and he is 37...no matter how cute he is think about where he is in his life compared to you...in another 3 years he will want kids and to settle down and you will just be getting out of college..I think you should try and stick with someone in your age group...because its not like you love him and the damage is done...you shouldj ust move on....no mattter what girls will tell you
2006-07-11 21:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by rdbowles12390 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say take it slow and get to know him more on a friendly level and then go from there. Follow your gut feeling. Sometimes older men just want to taste, but are not looking for a serious relationship. Is he not married because he's divorced or has he not ever been married? There are always pros and cons to every situation, just be careful and don't believe everything you are told.
2006-07-11 21:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your reputation to keep is, but it's your life to live how you see fit. Does the age differance bother you? That could be a good thing since it takes men longer to mature. Just be careful he doesn't hurt you in any way.
2006-07-11 21:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by lisacantcook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend met her now fiance when she was 18 - he was her boss. he's just turned 41, so there's a huge gap between them. but it doesnt matter, and no one ever notices. she's very mature for her age, and he is very relaxed and down to earth.
yes, they came up against a few peple at first (particularly her fanily) who didnt agree. but its not their decision. don't see him in secret, but on the same hand dont take out an ad in the local!
go out on a date, see if you like him as a person (yes he's cute - but has he go a personality?!). if you do, and you want to get to know him better, go out again. one date a a time. see where it gets you. you dont have to tie yourself into anything heavy or long-term. and if anyone does come out with a smart comment, just ignore them! if they truly loved you and respected you, they'd respect your decision
2006-07-11 21:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a million way to get to know him one is being friends and close friends try it if he was the right one then screw ppl u will never make them satesfied so do what would make u and him happy but before that make sure he is the right one cuz he is older u might have a problem with that!
2006-07-11 21:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you in love girl! Well, if i were you i'd follow my heart. People talk, and talk, they never stop, i've learned from the best. If its ok with your family, then why bother about people's talks? ok... and If your family disapproves, convince them how nice he is. Love is between two people, not 10 or 50!It also depends how serious he is with you, some guys just use people, but if he is for real, i'd say go for it.
2006-07-11 21:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Yaz1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, run, run away and never look back.
If 10 people are telling you your head is on fire, you pretty much know it's time to look up. it's the same with men. If everybody is saying Watch out, dont do it" then its a good indication you chasing a looser (cute or not).
JJ
2006-07-11 21:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by just_jen2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're just fascinated with him. "he's so cute" . How do you know you like each other? Doesn't sound like you've spent time together ... or the people would already be talking. You're young. Give it time and don't risk your rep on a whim.
2006-07-11 21:47:07 · answer #11 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋