How to communicate with imaptient father?

Question

I am a mature student i.e am 24. I am living in pakistan. And hoping to start university this year. To study what I am interested in I have to go abroad to the UK because of personal circumstances and lack of public institutions offering the course.

Being the second son and coming from a business family envioroment I have the responsibility of overlooking the business operations of my fathers stock market brockerage house and computer distribution company to make sure that at a time of emergency if something were to happen to my father both me and my brother could be there to know what to do. However with a total lack of interest in both fields I am willing to put in time to understand all bank account, balance statements etc but am not sure whether it would it would be worth putting in a year or be done by this september of this year to join university.Cant communicate with my father to help me understand the required timeline based on the nature of the work. Please help!

Answer 1

Sit down and draw up a timeline and set of goals for what you want to accomplish and then write down why. Be honest. Then ask your father if he will look at your goals and how you plan to accomplish them and why, Tell him these are your honest feelings and career plan.

Answer 2

This is a very important phase of ur life, Be cool and don't worry much. Don't quit from what u really r interested in. As u say ur father is not patient n not understandin u , the time is over for pleads and request, tell him ur decision straight on face , bluntly and firmly, that u cannot and will not do as he says, that u won' t kill ur dreams n ambitions coz he's not understanding. Being an Indian i know how we can't be rude to our fathers , so be firm and strong with him, and then cry and request him to please let u do what u want.Tell him u could be wrong, but u desperately wanna do something else , Lot's of time has been wasted, being polite, now is the time for confrontation, it's ur wish or his wish

Answer 3

My father was a lot like this when i was in college. He wanted to dictate everything i did as far as a career and my life plan. I ended up just distancing myself from him and he missed out on being a part of my life for a few years. He eventually realized on his own that him pushing me to do what HE wanted was wrong and that he was the one that ended up missing out.
He never came out and apologized and i never expected one or even desired an apology, but just his respect has been enough and now we keep in touch with each other and the relationship is sooo much better.
Hopefully, your father will come to understand that this is YOUR life.
Good luck!

Answer 4

accounting, marketing, finance is always good to learn for any field even for your dad's biz. And it will help your biz or job in the future anyhoo. Communicating to father could be first by note or letter - letting him know your intentions.

Answer 5

Counseling