If you learn that your fenance died, what would you do?

Question

I went through that shock about six months ago. I wanted to know how others dealt with it or what they would do.

Answer 1

I think i would be in shock big time....it would be too painful....who knows maybe depression too....i cant handle the death of people i love.

Answer 2

That is a tough situation. I have never been through it but i hope you wont mind my using my imagination. It must be really upsetting and there is no fighting that. but fundamentally death is death and there is nothing that can be done about it - and regret could only achieve so much. If i died (and there have been times when i thought i was going to - sickness) i would hope that people would get on with their lives - take what they can of me and remember me with a smile rather than a tear! And if someone I loved died - well, i really think i would throw a wake. A big, sombre but not too gloomy dinner and invite as many people (the right people!) as i could. I would pretend nothing and shy away from nothing. If i wanted to cry i would. If i wanted to laugh i would do that as well. I would do my best to re-create (or represent) and remember the missing person one last time - in the food and decor and everything - just spend an evening remembering - a homage with a sense of humor if you like. And then, when everything is over, try and get on with life. This is my personal feelings of course. probably wont be much help to you since these things are always personal and unique - but i wish you the best in coming through this!

Answer 3

I went though this very same thing with a girl I was deeply in love with many years ago. Just one day: she vanished with only a short note that it was something she needed to do and I would understand (which for the longest, I struggled to).

Time went on and it was hard to go through it. I later learned she was terminally ill and didn't want to burden me with the complications of her illness.

Years passed when I received the news of her illness, just two months before I married. We met up for two platonic evenings about a month before my wedding, pretty much to say "good-bye" without actually saying it.

And our separate lives went on. Three years into my marriage, I received word Beth died at the age of 32 from heart failure; that was one of the rare times I actually cried over the death of a loved one.

And talk about the efforts of hiding such sorrow, sorrow Mrs. Wizard would not understand, it was akin to climbing Everest.

But I managed and have moved on; I still think about Beth from time to time.

Answer 4

I don't think I'd feel like talking about it here...if I had been through that experience. But, that's just how I'd personally feel. People deal with grief differently. Knowing me and what it would take to get to the point of being engaged, she would have been very special to me and I would have been devastated. Not something I'd want to experience.

Answer 5

You grieve, then you move on.
It isn't any fair when things happen like this in life.
Death is a part of life. We can't comprehend why it happens.
It might always hurt, but you will move on and life will bless you in other ways. I believe he would want you happy.
I have lost the two most important people in my life. I never know when I am going to grieve. I grieve, then I pull myself together, put on a smile and move on.
Pray that life will bring another person in your life to love.

Answer 6

i think i would freak out and almost go off the deep end ...but in time things would be ok.. im sorry about your loss.. i would keep really busy.. and not jump into any mans arms for a long time..

Answer 7

I'd try and find out what a fenance is first before I over-reacted.

Answer 8

grieve and mourn and finally get into acceptance.
the body dies but the spirit lives

Answer 9

take a day at a time, everything passes, even the worst things. I think you meant "fiancé", right?

Answer 10

id prolly kill myself, i cant stand to live without her