Pottytraining help?

Question

My three-year-old daughter is afraid to go in the toilet. I've been trying to get her to use the potty for the past year, but she refuses to pee or poo in it. Every morning I would sit her on the toilet, but she would say she doesn't want to go. Then I'd put her diaper back on and she'd pee within a few minutes. BTW she knows when she is going. She just won't go in the toilet. Thank you in advance for any helpful advice.

Answer 1

This has truly been the hardest part of raising my daughter...especially since there is so much pressure for our kids to be potty trained as soon as possible. I know my mom said I had you trained at 2...well I laugh at that anyway...

I started my daughter at 18 months just sitting on the potty for fun...

I read it all and this is what I found helped us!

I got that potty movie Big Bear in the Blue house...she loved/loves it!!! They sing all about the potty!!! And they teach them about not waiting and washing hands and accidents.

Books galore about pottying and we read them all the time. She actually liked them!

Amazon.com search for potty training

When we got desperate we let her walk around the house nude...warning this can ruin many many things in the process...and then every half hour we would put her on the potty...she didn't like the small pretty potty that made music...so we bought her a little seat that sat on the toilet...we didn't over talk it...when I went to the bathroom, she followed anyway and I just told her what I was doing...

the peeing baby helped...have her teach the baby how to go on the potty...she loved that one!!!

We sang and read books on the potty. That made her more willing to sit longer and try! I sang the classics like Tinkle Tinkle little Pee....seriously...she loved it!!! I just made them up as i went along...

Eventually after so many accidents and trying and trying...I gave up on the pull ups too just a glorified diaper really...if they can feel the pee in their pants it doesn't feel too good...and totally get rid of the diapers...except at night, that takes a little longer to get going...anyway

it took at least 6 full months to get her trained and then she had accidents all the time...so I don't think she was fully ready. And I can honestly say lesson learned...so with number two I plan on waiting till they walk up to me and say mom I just went pee in the potty...even if they are 10. :) j/k

Another thing that helped I had actually worked for a bit while we were trying to get her trained...and the babysitter with two kids under her belt helped alot...so maybe somebody who has recently trained a kid could help you some!

GOODLUCK!!!

seriously parent sites have a ton of information and ideas on what to do and what NOT to do...like it is super frustrating and I am not a patient person, but I do know from experience if you show that frustration that can definitely keep her from progressing...every kid is different, my daughter finally started going about 4 months before her 3rd birthday.

Now she is 4 and I have to get on her about wiping and she had her first urinary tract infection...so it never ends...

Answer 2

On the bright side, your chances of 'accidents' will be minimal. She's in Pull-Ups, right? Try the kind that get cold. She won't feel so comfortable in those.

Peer pressure can work for you here. Most kids if not all will be potty trained when kindergarten starts. Remind her of the gently.

Outright bribery works, too, but wait for consistency before handing over the big item. In the meantime, you can try the potty party technique, having a little tea party with noisemakers and hats and confetti and a cup cake and whatever else you enjoy after every successful potty experience. You can even have her call the grandparents to tell them of her achievement.

There's also getting a doll that pees, and she can "teach" it how to go potty.

Watch for older kids putting negative thoughts about the toilet into her head, like the old alligator story. Keep the washroom really clean, too, because kids can get freaked over little things we take for granted, like feminine hygiene products.

Answer 3

Have you tried one of those musical potties?
Or maybe get a plastic seat that fits on your normal toilet seat, I remember when I was potty training my now 10 year old she was scared out of her mind as my mother had taken her to the toilet whilst I was out one day and let her slip so her bum was kinda halfway down the bowl, she was petrified to use the toilet.

Just try coaxing her gently, might take a couple of weeks, get a sticker chart and put it beside where the toilet is, so she can see it if she's using the loo, every time she does let her put stickers on it, or reward her with something else she might like, I have 2 girls and 2 boys, both my girls were a nightmare to potty train, it just takes Patience, time and love, you'll get there in the end.. Good luck :o)

Answer 4

The toilet is a big, cold, loud, scary thing to a toddler. My daughter wouldn't sit on it - didn't feel safe and unbalanced. When I introduced her to potty-training I started out by buying a simple white potty that looked the closest to a regular toilet. No bells n' whistles. Then I got her the "Feel N Learn" pull-ups which are great because when they are wet, they feel wet to the child. Then we had a "sticker" program. I would put her potty in front of the toilet and we would both go potty together. Every time she was successful, she got a sticker that she placed on the bathroom cupboard beside her potty chair. That way she was able to see the rewards of her efforts. And I also made a big effort to praise her really dramatically! Then we'd both empty her potty into the toilet and wave and say "bye-bye peepees/poopoos, thanks for coming out!" She'd sometimes just sit on the chair and "pretend" to potty just so she'd get a sticker! But she quickly figured out that she needed to produce visible results... It took about 2 months. Then I took her shopping and let her pick out her own underwear (Dora). She was so happy to wear them and very, very proud. She had a few accidents but I never made a big deal out of them to her. It got tricky when we went out because it's important that as soon as said she had to potty, we had to pull over right away. I was sure NOT to fall back on the pullups just because we were out. It just prolongs the process. She was able to wear underwear during the day and a pullup at night. Then, eventually she lost the nightime pullup and I woke her at 2am and took her to the potty - every night for about a week. And then that was that.

Every child is different tho - the key is to make a big fuss when they go and not make a fuss if they don't. Good luck with it.

Answer 5

First of all, let it go for awhile. If she knows you really want her trained she will resist. This is her issue and only she can control it.

Count out the remainder of her diapers with her and tell her "9 more diapers left and then no more diapers." When the diapers run out, put her in clothing that she can easily take on and off by herself. Get her some "big girl" underwear. Get her a step stool for the adult toilet so she can get up without help.

When you see her doing the "potty dance" say "It looks like you need to go to the bathroom." Say nothing more than that. If she soils herself say "It looks like you need to change your clothes." She can take off the soiled clothing, rinse them out, put them in the laundry, clean her body and any other soiled area, and put on clean clothing. It will take a few tries but she will soon learn it is much easier to use the bathroom. Good luck!

Answer 6

did you try to buy her a little toilet? they have all kind of creative ones and they arent that expencive at all otherwise buy her one of those things that go over your toilet like smaller toilet seat otherwise try just sitting there until she goes, expecailly in the morning shes gotta go some time and then once she does go make sure you make that her special day and let her know its not hard or scary at all. im working on potty training right now with my little one shes doing really well. also try putting just under wear and only dypers at night on her so she wont want to pee all over herself thats what i did with my little one

Answer 7

the toilet bowl cleaner I had was blue So when they pee it would turn the water green. So i would ask my girls if they wanted to turn the water green. they thought it was funny to do that. OR You can buy a little toilet and sit them on it at the same time everyday. their bodies will adjust to that time and eventually she will go and give her a good job or a small reward for going always give them praisewhen they do.

Answer 8

see what you should do is not let her wear diaper so that if she really has to go she has no choice but to use the toilet and tell her that big girls use the toilet and not a diaper

Answer 9

she is afraid to fall in i would bet on it

Answer 10

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