I am a self sufficent 29 year old female who cant find anyone compatible because I can make my own money, have my own house, and so on. Why is that a problem to men?????
2006-07-11 20:12:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, let me put this a little clearer. Most men cant handle my career and the fact that I dont run for them for money, or whatever, In fact, most men, or atleast the ones locally, have an issue with my intense sense career-mindedness and it drives them crazy. I mean come on guys, I own my own house, my own vehicles, If I choose to be with you, Its because I like you, isnt that enough???????
2006-07-11 20:24:26 · update #1
All men don't think that way. The problem is the ones who don't are usually already taken. Men who are supportive of their women's successes are confident enough and secure enough of themselves that they can support a good woman. In fact that kind of man would love your independence because he would know without a doubt that you are with him because you WANT him as opposed to needing what he can provide: money, a house etc.
2006-07-11 20:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are insecure and they always need an ego boost. And by a woman needed them it makes them feel good about themselves and attractive. It's also just in the genes, its masculine for a man to take care of and provide for a woman. They want to know they can provide which gives them a sense of accomplishment and a way to rate their success. You go girl, I am in the same situation as you. Men are intimidated by a self-sufficient educated woman. But hello, these men need to wake up its now 2006 a new era of working woman with choices as a result fo the woman's movement. We want to be respected and valued as a contributor to the world/society.
2006-07-12 03:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by freetodiscoverself 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the men you find have such a problem with your independence are insecure guys best avoided. Mrs. Wizard, was very much like you when she and I dated. I never had a problem with it because, frankly, I didn't think she'd tolerate me for the long run. I'm grateful she found a way to love me, though--even by admission I can be an irritable annoyance at times.
2006-07-12 03:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One explanation can be found in evolutionary psychology where we look at how our roles for millions of years affect our behaviors.
In this case, males traditionally were the providers of resources to the tribe or family or whatever, so, they tend to still be genetically driven to think of this as their role.
But, on a less intellectual level, I might offer that everyone likes to feel needed and if they don't (on some level) they feel "useless"... something we aren't interested feeling. If a guy feels like one of the things he brings to the table is his ability to be a provider and you take that away from him (right or wrong) then he feels useless and will move on... so... you need to find a guy who feels like he brings more emotional assets to the table than the usual guy... plus, it doesn't hurt to make people feel like you do "need" them a bit... after all, if you don't need them at all why even bother to have them around.
2006-07-12 03:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's spelled Alpha.
Anyway, men like to provide for women because it's just nice to be able to help provide security for the one they love. It's not necessarily because we feel "threatened" (although you seem like the kind of person would threaten men because of your intense hatred for males); it's more because it feels like we have nothing to do to demonstrate our love, and we're out of our element if you've got everything you need and are throwing it in our faces. Men "throw it your face", if they're successful, because they feel they have to impress women--it's like saying, "I can provide for you, I have the means, I can contribute to your happiness by giving you comfort."
So uh, maybe that's not the reason you can't find "anyone compatible". Maybe it's just something that puts them off, and something else about your personality sends them for the hills.
2006-07-12 03:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by i_am_the_bmf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men usually wants the women to be depended on them but im very proud of u how u can take care of yourself without anyone's help. i guess in someways, men thinks they're not good enough for u since u dont need them to be there and support u but girl, trust me.. when the time comes, u will find that special someone!! GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-12 03:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry they are out there, i to have way more than i need money wise and i did it on my own. You have to find a strong man that can handle it, my husband loves i can take care of myself.
2006-07-12 03:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they feel intimidated because men are normally seen as the ones who make the money, buy the house, and to be shown up by a woman would crush their ego
2006-07-12 03:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its an control issue. guys want to be superior to woman. they wat to be the one "bringing home the bacan", .men want to be "the ones that were the pants in the relation ship".dont get me wrong guys are fine with me but they aren't always needed.a well accomplished women ,which you seem, doesnt need a man to do those things that you can do on your own. a women can do almost anything on there own except conseve with out a man of course. in the love department i dont think you can do on your own.
2006-07-12 03:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by tina2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's NOT a problem for some men....like myself. But I do know some men feel threatened that they don't have control.
I think it great.
2006-07-12 03:16:59 · answer #10 · answered by p_boxter03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋