My mother calls me everyday to ask "what did she have for breafast, lunch, dinner"...did you take her in for her check up...did she get her shots...you know you can't do this..or you should do that. She gave me alot of help when my girl was first born, but I've got it under control now...How do I get her to back off without hurting her feelings? I've never given her a reason not to trust me, she's just being WAY overprotective.
2006-07-11 20:09:07 · 9 answers · asked by punk pirate 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just have another one.
You will not have time to even listen or answer her.
Otherwise she won't stop. That's what moms are for! :-)
2006-07-11 20:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is about the guy practising it. If someone chooses now to not forgive and to be indignant and harm something else of their existence - they are going to sense anger and harm of their heart. in the adventure that they settle on to forgive and be loving - they are going to sense love of their heart. that's their determination. the mum who gave away the baby became likely no longer able to look after it on the time - and gave it away so it ought to have the perfect existence achievable. possibly on the grounds that then issues replaced - and she or he were given her existence at the same time and had 2 extra children. You call the baby an orphan - so i'm guessing that it became no longer followed. If the baby became followed - and has followed mum and dad - those are her/his mum and dad. The beginning mom is purely that - the beginning mom. yet there is not any reason that they could't meet - and the "orphan" forgive the beginning mom and get to carry close her. desire this facilitates.
2016-11-06 06:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she asks these questions, instead of answering them straight, tell her that she's OK. Tell her she's fed, watered, clean, up-to-date with check-ups and sleeping soundly. Be sure to say it in a cheery manner or she'll get upset, but maybe she'll get the hint and it'll shut her up for a while.
Also, just mention to her that if you have a problem, she will be the first person you go to and would she mind letting you see if you are capable of being the mother on your own.
Good Luck!
2006-07-11 21:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she's way too invested in this role she's playing, no matter what you say it will probably hurt her feelings. But you need to say something anyway. It's not healthy for your relationship with her or her relationship with your daughter to have her hovering like that. Just let her know that you appreciate her love for your daughter but that it's time for her to settle into the fun grandparent role and to let you handle the day to day parenting issues. Let her know what a great mother she's been to you all your life and that she can be confident that you've learned what you need to know from her along the way.
2006-07-12 08:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit worrying about hurting her feelings and let her know that she's hurting your feelings by treating you like an incompetent parent. Ask her how it felt to have her mother constantly questioning her parental capabilities. If she hated it, then tell her not to you. If her mother never did that to her, then tell her to be like her mother and butt out.
2006-07-11 20:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to piss off and mind her own business!!!!
only joking, just tell her look mum, I appreciate all your help, but I am her mum, not you and I know what is best for her and how to bring her up MY way. If I need your help I'd like to know that you'll always be there for me if I ask for your help. Thankyou so much for all you've done for me so far, but you need to let me take care of her my way. I love you {{{hug}}}
2006-07-11 21:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really enjoyed my mother's advice, though it wasn't always correct. I informed myself and her as much as possible on any concerns. Your mom is just asking questions not coming and taking over. If you find her line of questioning to invasive just tell her you have to go.
2006-07-12 00:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
humans were not meant to raise their babies by themselves, we are the only primates who try it, and we Americans are the only 'tribe' that actually does it.
your mom is wonderful, I wish you knew that, and she wants her grandchild to grow and thrive
that said, overprotective moms can lead us to not reach out to them when we really should, so try telling her thank you for all of her help and ask her if her own mom used to call her all the time, too (hint hint) and I bet you will be surprised at what she tells you and what she realizes about herself
2006-07-11 20:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You consider this as a trust issue???
Remember when you brought your little one home for the first time?
Imagine your mum not being there with................Oh, lets see,
"I'll do that for you..."
"No you rest, I will....................."
"Heres some tips to make it a little easier..."
Perhaps you are being a little selfish.
2006-07-11 21:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋