Do you regret having your wedding?

Question

I just got married and threw a big party. I did not enjoy it because I was too busy making sure everyone was having a good time and most important making sure my in laws behaved accordinly(they're a whole bunch of low class idiots) Anyway, I regret it and I shouldn't have spent so much money. How can I get over it?

Answer 1

I am well aware of the Idiot Inlaw factor. What you regret is that you spent all this money feeding and entertaining people who probably did not appreciate the moment.

Remember tolerance will be the key to a sucessful marriage. Lastly, your regret and $3.75 will buy you a cup of coffee at Starbucks. No sense in hammering yourself for what you cannot change. Good luck

Answer 2

"You" shouldn't have spent so much money? Did you pay for the wedding and party? Why? If there's a reason you parents didn't help, did your husband help in the cost? Is it the wedding and party you regret, or maybe something more? The party and cost is water under the bridge. Simply let it go. If there's more to what you regret, you may or may not get over it. The deed is done. Give it a fair chance to put all this behind you and hopefully you discover the reason you got married which will once again make it all worth it.

Answer 3

You just can't convince young people to keep weddings simple! If it wasn't for Cinderella, probably no one would have a big wedding. But we all get lost in romantic ideas. It is a big, expensive bash and it costs too much today.

The money spent on weddings could be invested to buy a new home, pay off student loans and more. But, woman are romantically inclined so perhaps, it's an early form of education in reality. Chalk it up to experience and the next time you get a romantic notion, "Wouldn't it be wonderful if...." be sure to give your thoughts a good reality check. Wish the word could get out to more gals so they could save their money.

And, don't be so snobbish to your in-laws. You married into the family so I guess that makes you a bit of a low class idiot, doesn't it?

Have a great day!

Answer 4

Let it go. it was a fine party, I am sure people enjoyed themselves regardless of the stress that you felt, and no one blames you for your in-laws - we understand, trust me. We have all seen people like that. The money is spent, the party is past, you can not turn time backward, move on and have no more worries about it. (no elaborate vow renewals in the future though!!!)
As to my regrets:
I do not regret my wedding. we eloped.
nor do i regret the elaborate wedding we gave our daughter, i made her dress and flowers, there were fireworks on the table after the toast, when things went wrong I handled it all so she would not have to - so that time I was stressed out from it, we ended up with 400+ invited guests on the list because of the groom's HUGE family - most of which were out of town so at last minute about 100 did not bother to come but also did not bother to tell us, but we of course still paid for the food/hall/etc - and we ended up with a flat tire on the parking lot after everyone else had gone home but the groom's parents, so the groom's father helped us with that. despite the hassles, overspending, stress from my sister constantly telling me this or that needed attention as she thought I needed to handle things instead of enjoy myself, and the flat tire, i am glad we did that for her as it was a special event that we still are thanked for by them 5 years later. The bride and groom were kept mostly worry free as we made sure of it, the ceremony was nicely done with her pastor and his priest co-officiating (they were both so great together!), the food was delicious, the dj did a great job, the bride sang to her new husband and she was wonderful, the bride was beautiful and the groom was handsome (and they are still very much in love and have a 1 year old son now) there were no brawls or deaths, so all is right with the world and great memories were made. That is what is important, and so it was all worth it. (like the commercial: cake $350, garter $5, organist $30, memories priceless!) I am sure if you think about it, you will also come up with some good memories of your own event. You do sound a bit critical of your husband's family. Maybe part of the problem is that you think you are better than they are or something so you regret throwing a party in which they were invited... you need to let that go too, try to get along with them, after all, you don't marry just the man, you get his family in the bargain. I REPEAT, LET IT GO, IT IS OVER AND DONE WITH AND NOW BEGINS REALITY - MAKE THE BEST OF YOUR MARRIAGE FOR BOTH YOUR HUBBY AND YOURSELF. a party is a one day event that takes planning, your marriage is a life time event (hopefully) that also takes planning but also practice, commitment, and support of each other. Look to the future instead of the past.

Answer 5

First, you're like distinctive those who look to anticipate there is no gray section between the large white wedding ceremony and a speedy courthouse visual attraction. the reality is, there is all sorts of ideas in between this. no one right here can guess what you'll and could no longer be apologetic about. the only mistake you could make is to no longer imagine it by potential of carefully. this suggests you and your fiance ought to sit down down and communicate ideas. there is too many to tutor, yet purely as one celebration, now and again human beings get an officiant (no longer not basic to do) and get a private room in a cafe for instantaneous kin and per chance a million or 2 closest acquaintances. The officiant performs the ceremony and then each and every individual has a meal and celebrates. For a truly higher crew (say 40 or so), purely plan a outdoor fish fry. See in case your pastor can come. it is quite no distinct than making plans the different casual celebration. Get foodstuff catered by technique of a fish fry position and hook up your iPod to some audio equipment. and positive, you could bypass with him to a sea coast and elope. yet it truly is the only which needs to be concept by potential of the most, because the individuals who be apologetic about it are those who later understand they dissatisfied their mum and dad and/or sibs. So if there is any probability of that, purely practice some thing small and significant.

Answer 6

I'M GLAD YOU ASKED. I WAS SO AFRAID THAT I WOULD BE THE ONLY WIFE TO HAVE REGRET FOR MARRIAGE. NOT TO MY HUSBAND BUT BECAUSE SO MUCH MONEY WAS WAISTED AND MY MOTHER HURT ME SO BAD. WHEN I LOOK AT WEDDING PICTURES I JUST THINK THIS WAS THE WORST MOMENT IN MY LIFE. I WAS NOT HAPPY WITH MY WEDDING WHAT SO EVER. SOMETIMES, I WISH I COULD DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN AND MAKE IT SIMPLE. BUT ALL WOMEN DREAM OF THAT BIG BEAUTIFUL PERFECT WEDDING, OF ALL PEOPLE I KNOW I DESERVED TO HAVE A NICE ONE. I GUESS I DIDN'T DESERVE IT THAT MUCH.

Answer 7

No, I don't regret having my wedding, but there are some things about it I wish I would have done differently. But oh well. Whats done is done, don't dwell on it, just move on. There is nothing to can do about it. Good luck

Answer 8

No, I don't regret my wedding.........and if you do, you need to just get over it and move on with your life. Why waste your time and energy stewing about it? The wedding is just the celebration of the marriage........it's time to work on the marriage instead of regretting what you can't change.

Answer 9

The wedding is about a marriage. Concentrate on what's important, not stupid little things from the past.

Answer 10

it only means form the beginning,you are not happy at all...why did u marry the guy anyway..why u want your life miserable,and make others life miserable too...dont do something that you will be in trouble...its not the party or spending money...its the way u feel..i just wish u love ur husband...nothing matters else.