u know when you love someone, and then they start eating, and eating, and eating, and all of a sudden u turn around and they've morphed into 2 someones. To be straight up w/ them, and let them know what the consequences are if they continue to pursue this action is totally fair right. And hey if they don't like it, bye bye- i like my chicken lean, not double stuffed.
2006-07-11 19:54:04 · 24 answers · asked by J-Flex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol good luck w/ that.
2006-07-11 19:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Goblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh-huh...and what about when you start to put on a few pounds, and aren't the lean mean machine you once were, and she gives you an ultimatum about your weight? Then what?
You need to find out why she's gaining weight in the first place. A lot of women have a tendency to overeat when they are depressed or worried or stressed...or all 3.
There would be a lot more divorced people right now, if we all delivered those types of ultimatums to our spouses.
You say you love her, but real love doesn't come with conditions...and yours does.
Basically, what you are saying is...
"I can love you only if you weigh x number of pounds, or if you only look a certain way...etc"
If she doesn't meet your standards of perfection, then maybe the kindest thing to do would be to break it off now...because no self-respecting girl would want to stay with a guy who doesn't really want them.
2006-07-12 03:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a gentle way of approaching things and there is a way of appearing to be a total jerk. Weight problem can become a negative thing in a relationship especially if the person gets to a point where it threatens their health or yours.
If the "weight limit" is more for your shallowness rather than you actually caring about that person, then you might never be satisfied with the person you are dating. But if you actually care about the person you are dating, and it's not just about the fact that you "like your chicken lean", then you'll be able to tell this person (in a loving and compassionate way) that their weight has become a problem in the relationship.
2006-07-12 03:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by BlueLantern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you gonna do when you get old dude? EVERYBODY will get gray haired and or bald, wrinkled, teeth gone, eyes bad, hearing not too good, and ugly? It is gonna happen to you too....
Obviously you have LOVE confused with SEX.. They are NOT the same thing.. Would you love your Mom or Dad less because they gained weight? NO, You don`t know what love is. Pity for you.. All you care about is getting laid. That is NOT love or a relationship..
Good thing you send them on down the road. You are doing them a favor. They can find someone who actually does LOVE and respect them.. They deserve better than you...
You are very shallow, So very Sad, You will miss knowing so many good people.. Your loss...
2006-07-12 03:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by jaantoo1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely as long as the person know how you feel in advance. A relationship is quid pro quo and if you are not getting what you want and she is not willing to keep the promise and keep you interested, it is no wonder men wander. Weight does matter and it is a deal breaker. Now, remember this, everyone as they grow older gains a little here and there, it is only natural. There is a difference between a few pounds and just plain sloppy gut hanging fat.
Remember, if you have to roll her in flour to find a wet spot, she is no longer a keeper......
2006-07-12 03:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't date people who feel it is ok.
That is totally something that should be talked about during the dating period.
You should ask her how she feels about people over weight.
You should date active people.
You should have had the problem resolved before it ever began.
It is never ok to tell a female she is getting too fat. There is no nice way to put it, and you will be dogged for it.
So, leave. Find someone who cares about the same things you do, trust me, there is plenty of shallow women out there.
2006-07-12 03:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by val schmal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure! its unhealthy to keep on eating like that! tell them that you'd work out with them! tell the person the TRUTH! because you never know what if the person gets diabetes or some kind of cancer later on in their lives? it might seem a little harsh, but i'd bet she/he would be thanking you for their life one day. and no i dont mean by an x-small size turning into a medium...thats just ridiculous
although...the part about the chicken wasnt neccesary..just a thought, it was a little harsh
2006-07-12 03:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know most girls will say "Oh my god that's so mean...you should love someone no matter what they look like!" but really, I gotta disagree. You can't love someone without having a physical attraction to them. If they choose to lose the physical attraction and not even try to gain it back, then they should be prepared to lose you. After all, God made people to procreate and if you don't find the other person attractive, how can you be expected to procreate?
2006-07-12 03:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by gobi_manchurian_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you.When we meet someone and fall for them and they weigh a decent weight,and then they let themselves get all fat etc.It's like"well I got my partner now" I don't have to stay slim and trim.Guys do that too and an obese guy is just as ugly as an obese woman
2006-07-12 03:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't about physical attraction. It's about loving that person unconditionally. Looks can be taken away from you in a heartbeat like a car accident or something, but nothing can take away your personality. When you love someone, you look beyond their imperfections...nobody's perfect. My boyfriend has a big ole belly but I love him so much it hurts. I wouldn't leave him for nothing in the world. Only death can keep me away from him.
2006-07-12 03:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make this rule in the begining... you can't spring it on someone in the middle. So, you are going to have to dump this chubby chick for another reason. Next time, try to pick a partner that likes to work out... likes to stay active. Thats my advice.
2006-07-12 03:06:12 · answer #11 · answered by Tish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋