I have a major question to ask all of you people!
I have a boyfriend! and he's the greatest!! He treats me like a queen! Showers me with beautiful gifts! and loves me to death! but, I have a question...
Would you consider this cheating...
Flirting with other guys on the internet, and saying that you have another boyfriend that you love deeply! But, they other guy don't care, and then you end up cybering!??! I mean... their from another state, and or country!!
But, would you still conside that cheating on your boyfriend?
2006-07-11 19:05:42 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well im pretty sure he wouldent be as mad as the real thing but its still cheating ur thinking about sum1 else
2006-07-11 19:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Pinkt41 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is: Do YOU see it as cheating?
What makes you ask whether it is cheating? Did someone catch you, or are you feeling guilty about it?
Why are you flirting and cybering with these guys? Is this something that you've done for a while or is it more recent?
Do you get a thrill out of doing this, but are trying to tell yourself that it isn't cheating so it is okay?
How would you feel if you found out your boyfriend was doing the same? Would you still think he is the greatest then, or would you be mad at him? Would you consider it a double standard if you were? How do you think your boyfriend would react if he found out?
I'm a stranger. My thoughts and feelings to whether it is cheating is irrelevant.
Look inside yourself and decide.
**By the by, what does it matter whether they live in another country or live down the street? You talk as if that makes a difference- if it is over a computer does the location of the other person actually count?**
2006-07-11 19:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by chia_vampire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it may not be considered cheating in our world, but I think that you should flirt a little less with other guys on the Internet. It is probably not a good idea to put yourself in the place where you may have to choose between your boyfriend or the guys on the Internet it is better if you just talk to guys as friends and try your hardest not to flirt back with them if they start flirting with you even if you tell them you have a boyfriend. It is better to just stay totally, completely, without a doubt, loyal to your boyfriend.
2006-07-11 19:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Girl who needs help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel guilty? I already know the answer or you wouldn't post the question. Therefore you are cheating. Tell him what you are doing. He may think it is no big deal (I wouldn't care if my woman was doing it over the internet) and then you are fine. If he doesn't like it, then your sex addiction cost you yet another boyfriend.
Try cybering with girls instead. I am sure he would encourage that.
2006-07-11 19:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Payne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self this if he was the one doing it would you consider it cheating the question i would ask if you truly deeply love him how come he's not the one you are talking to instead of the other guy your not married right no kissing no touching if you have cheated it was only in your heart and mind
2006-07-11 19:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol funny. Lots of people would get mad because most people do something on line before they do it in real life. I'm going to be crude and say this for an example. Look up child porn and then do it in real life. But there are many things that this can refer too. So I would think
that it can be considered cheating but what are the odds of him or her finding out.
2006-07-11 19:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Scarlet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would show him the IM"s or e-mails or if you would communicate in the same manner with these guys with your boyfriend sitting next to you, then it would not be cheating.
However, if this is a secret you keep from him, or he would be upset by it, then yes it is cheating.
A good rule of thumb: if you wouldn't do it in front of him, his parents or yours or his friends, then it's cheating. Good luck.
2006-07-11 19:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's not technically cheating but you obviously don't love him enough not to do those things, when you love someone you have respect for them & you're not showing any respect by chatting with other guys. Always put yourself in other people's shoes, if you think it wouldn't bother you one bit if he was doing that then keep on doing what you're doing...my suggestion would be if you have a good guy hold on to him cause their isn't many good guys left now a days...
2006-07-11 19:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by Carmen B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea its a form of cheating....You are probably bored as ever of the relationship....
Take a few days to really soul search and see if the relationship with the "real" guy is something you really want
and not just for the gifts...you'd be wasting your time and his for a trinket
2006-07-11 19:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boy freind is sooo good to you then why flirt with guys on the internet.?
Of course the other guy is going to say he doesn't care........duh !! The cybering is just WRONG . That is the worst thing to do..It's a slutty thing to do
2006-07-11 19:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, it is cheating. You have that feeling you don't want your honey to find out? Yep. Cheating. Just stop it. You don't have to be sexual with people just to get them to like you.
Fess up to honey? It's better he hears it from you than learning it on the internet, and it's alot better than cheating physically. But your call.
2006-07-11 19:22:48 · answer #11 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋