my baby is such a hyper kid and she likes to pinch other people's privates i wanna spank her but it doesnt wor

Question

i feel so bad that she does that will drugging be the answer?

Answer 1

spank her on the butt a couple times, or on her hand, and get down on her level and tell her that what she is doing is not ok, that it hurts people when she does that. if that doesnt work, you can try telling her that if she does that she is not gonna get ___ (whatever she likes most, as candy, a toy, etc) if all else fails BRIBE . Yes it would be nice if we could drug them !! haha. Mother of two here, 4 yr, and 2 yr girls :o

Answer 2

OK, I'm going to give you practically the same answer I just gave someone else because your situation sounds so similar.
1)Cut down on sugar in the diet. Studies have stated there is no relationship between sugar intake and hyperactivity, but as a mother, and now a grandmother, and a teacher of preschoolers, I say that's bunk. Limit the junk, wear her out by taking her outside and playing catch, running, jumping, tricycle riding, playing with her peers, etc.
2) If she is in a preschool or daycare program, talk to the teacher about her ability to pay attention. If she can't sit still for an age appropriate amount of time (I don't know how old your child is), for a story or to focus long enough to build a tower with blocks or complete a simple puzzle, then she may have ADHD, BUT ADHD is highly over diagnosed, and I have never met a 2 year old that needs to be on medication for ADHD.
3) Also, do a calming activity before bedtime (or naptime) and keep to routine in your schedule so she can predict what is expected of her next. Give a bath, let her play in the tub a few minutes, then try lavendar baby lotion. Lavendar is used in aromatherapy for calming and helping people rest. She will enjoy the little massage she gets as you put lotion on. Turn the TV off and talk to her in a soothing voice. You have to set the mood in the environment to help kids settle down. Read a quiet bedtime story. Overstimulation by a lot of environmental noise & people (older kids or adults) running around will only get your child excited and make her more active. Good luck.
4) As for the grabbing people's privates, depending on your child's age, you need to teach her that is inappropriate by using a firm voice and a simple NO if your child is very young, then redirect her to a more appropriate body part she can touch, such as giving a hug or patting someone's cheek. If she's doing this for negative attention to just get a rise out of you, then you calmly,quietly redirect her attention away from the privates. If she's alittle older and can understand (around age 2), you can teach her that that isn't appropriate, redirect her, and as a last resort place her in time out for no more than one minute per year old, then demonstrate the appropriate behavior yourself. Praise her when you see her making good choices with her hands, so she will be motivated to gain your attention through good behavior rather than bad behavior. Also, when dealing in behavior, be consistent or it won't do any good.

Answer 3

First pin-point where she got that from, then go to her and talk to her about it (like when she's having more of a calm playtime). You can start off by saying something like " Hey sweety can mom talk to you about something..." and go from there. Try to make her understand that it's wrong.

Now if it happens again, I believe a warning is fair."hey, didn't we talk about that..." If she keeps it up BE FIRM, tell her to stop it right now. If she still refuses...SPANK HER BEHIND until she gets the message. You may want to start taking away priveleges. Don't give anything back without good behavior being demonstrated first.

BUT, if she does starts to listen (like if she pinches someone and u call her on it and she stops) make her appoligize to the person. When and if she does, give her a big hug, a kiss and say "Thank you so much for listening, you are such a good kid" Hopefully that get her to stop. GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 4

Here a few ideas of where it might be coming from. She could be not getting enough sleep and turn hyper to stay awake. She could be having too much juice or sugar substances. Make sure she's getting enough sleep at night and at nap time. Also, only allow 1 4-6oz serving of juice. Or 1 piece of candy etc... Her activeness could be from boredom or from lack of attention. Try having her sit still for a few minutes when she first begins the hyperness. Play soft music and try to just sit with her and read a book or do a calm activity. When she starts to pinch tell her its not nice and grab her attention with something else. A cool toy or a game you can play with her or something different. She'll most likely grow out it. Too often children who don't really need medication get it. What most children need is more attention, more sleep, less sugar, and more monitors play time. Good luck!

Answer 5

This type of behavior worries me, so I decided to view some others posts you've made to see if you ever mentioned anything else your child may be doing that could explain it.

You mentioned "pinching privates" as a way of discipline for the strict parent in one of your answers to a previous post. (I've never heard of such discipline before this, and I think it is very wrong.) Children mimic what they see or experience. Make sure that pinching private areas is not a form of punishment in your home, and this behavior from your child is likely to cease.

It is also never appropriate to drug a child. It is considered child abuse.

Answer 6

She is a child.. It is a phase and she will get through it just like all of the other things she is probably going to do in life. Drugging is not the answer. Do not pull her hair... that is horrible... and the person that said that should not reproduce. Someone should screen the answers people give before they allowed to give parenting advice.

Answer 7

no dont drug her.i no this sounds mean but have u ever pulled her hair?my little neice is a terror and hyper as hell also and she doesnt care if u spank her she just laughs at u so when shes bad and not listening my sister will pull her hair and shel stop it.if that doesnt work then try yelling at her not loud its just the tone just tell her that its not ok to do that and that she needs to knock it off.hope this helps

Answer 8

how old is she? your child maybe be going the a sensual stage that Sigmund Freud express in one of his theory as the psychosexual stage. Check this link out. http://www.cla.purdue.edu/academic/engl/theory/psychoanalysis/freud.html

Answer 9

drugging her is just sick. she must have seen u grab a guy. grow up and dont let her see that nasty stuff. u both need to go to counsling

Answer 10

Take her to a psychiatrist.He'll know what to do.