Over the last few weeks my girlfriend and I have gone through what can be described as a roller coaster ride. Her feelings toward me and our relationship apparently change from day to day with little or no warning, with only one thing remaining consistant - that she'll change her mind once more in a day or two. Does she want space or a relationship? Does she want to take a break and be friends or declare that she still loves me and that our break is over? Could the fact that her most recent ex has made his way back into her life after months of turning back her efforts to remain friends with him have anything to do with her confusion? Will she ever forget her past and move forward with the present and her future, a future I still want to be a significant part of? How long do I wait this out? Should I move on?
2006-07-11 18:53:54 · 16 answers · asked by Deleted 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that's a question you should be asking her. Has she been with guys who have treated her wrongly before? If so, I imagine after a while she gets used to having drama in her relationships and is not used to being settled/happy with one person.
Miscommunication is a big factor in breaking up relationships. You need to tell her that you've noticed this in her and she needs to be honest with you about her feelings towards you and your relationship with her. Otherwise, you'll never know.
2006-07-11 18:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH my... I say go with your first instinct and ask HER...
You feel she is talking to her old boyfriend and confusion, well that sounds like the best answer. How long have you been with her before these roller coaster moods??? If this is new to her and the way she is acting...well.... than maybe you are right and your instincts are correct. The only way to find out is to ask her.
If she says she wants space, give it to her, but don't let her in so easy and fast. If she really wants to be with you, then she will. But I wouldn't chase someone that is so indecisive.
If you play this game, with her now, it will be easy for her to keep leaving you and keep being a roller coaster....
2006-07-11 19:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by LM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am going thru a similar situation with my bf. I know it is a hard place to be in. I think her ex probably does have something to do with it. If you love her, then give it some time. But don't make yourself miserable in the process. Try giving it a break so you can both try to sort out your feelings. If you are not there, she may realize what she has with you. If not, then you know it wasn't meant to be. This was advice that I was given and I hope it works for you. Best of luck!
2006-07-11 19:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by meb06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you seem like a smart guy. Me personaily I don't think she will change most people don't and the ones who like drama and everyday problems usually chosse to live that way. If you stay with her you must love hte sex. Get her some counsling and see if that helps. Other wise it may take time to find someone new but move on.
2006-07-11 18:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want the relationship to work, hang on to the handlebar and talk to her about all that you just wrote - calmly. let her know how you feel, find out how she feels, not just surface stuff but deep emotions - her inner self. it may be that she does want to return to him. it could be that they truly want to just be friends - you should try to be his friend as well, you may be pleasantly surprised at the difference it makes in your relationship with her, and he may turn out to be a really great friend to both of you. if he has truly moved back into her life in a deeper way, the wisest choice may be to move on and give them your blessing as difficult as that may be. let her know that you are there for her if she decides she made a mistake, and be forgiving if she does, then give her the best life together than you can. best wishes!
2006-07-11 19:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the ride...go sit down, have some popcorn, then wait for a better, more tamer ride
2006-07-11 18:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by daddydoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her with the way you feel and give her a time limit to get her head right then stick to your limits and dont cave if she shows effert stay if not move on and find someone else
2006-07-11 19:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by lugwrench3@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to be asking her those questions not us......But she does sound like she doesn't know which way to go and this is not fair to you or her. She needs to make up her mind and quit playing these mind games with you...Tell her it has to be one way or the other....Good Luck !!!!
2006-07-11 18:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on. It doesn't sound like she knows what she wants and she is hurting you besides. Who needs it. Find someone with some stability.
2006-07-11 18:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful about what you say to her. Talk to her about if it starts to interefere with everyday things. Just be careful on what you tell her because if it really is a rollercoaster, then anything can happen.
2006-07-11 18:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋