If you've read my prior question or answers then you know I love my wife completly. But I still have a spot in my heart for a past love. Am I alone with this one? Is it possible to love more than one?
2006-07-11 18:47:40 · 23 answers · asked by Curly J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG this is wierd.I just found out my husband was still talking to his ex behind my back(refer to my question)
He said he still had a "spot" for her in his heart.
Let me tell you something its not right for you to marry anyone if they cant have ALL of you.
My heart is broken and I as "the wife my husband loves completely" feel so sad and crushed like I will never measure up to his ex.
If you really love your wife please get over the ex. I mean what if she told you her ex had a piece of her heart.What kind of thoughts and and scenerios would be playing through you head??
So no its not possible to love more than one
WITHOUT hurting the one.(that your married to)
So you might be happily married(with your secret) but I bet your wife wouldnt be to "happy" if she read your question.
2006-07-11 19:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lenina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is completely normal to have feelings for a past true love. You can't just turn love off ( especially if you were with them for a long time and have many memories) when the relationship crumbles. My first love will always have a special place in my heart, even though we are both completely different people now, so I understand where you're coming from. I do believe that you can love more than one as long as you stay in control of your feelings, and keep from hurting the one who is most important.
2006-07-11 19:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifaery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The fact that you have feelings for a past love shows what a caring and loving person you really are. Just because your feelings are not monogamous does not mean that you can not be. As long as you don't act on those feelings in a way that would betray or cause harm to your wife, it is perfectly fine.
2006-07-11 18:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by singinintherain55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible!
I have been happily married for 9 years now. My last relationship was a 10 year long one in which I was very much in love. However, we had so many things working against us. Not to mention our goals being different.
I still have and always will have those heart strings for him and he too.
We talk on occaision and greet each other with wishes of happiness. It is nice.
I think that is one thing about love. Once it is in your heart it never goes away completely. It may fade a tad with time, but never completely dissapear.
2006-07-11 18:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may receive a lot of horrible comments for this particularly valid question of yours.
As about myself I think yes , you can have feelings for a past love in fact you can always go on loving her even without knowing/acknowledging the fact. And you are definitely not alone. Having such a feeling is not wrong in anyway as long as you are dedicated and faithful to your wife...I mean why should harbouring love be wrong if we are not cheating and deceiving our partners...
The point where this becomes incorrect is when we allow the past to rule and ruin our present and future...
2006-07-11 18:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it is possible. I am happily married to a BEAUTIFUL Latina girl. We have children and one on the way. But my X wife will always have a dear place in my heart. I have made myself HATE her for running out on me and 3 children, but I love her still to this day. Yes, it is possible to marry and love a woman totally, and still have feelings for an X. For the sake of your commitment to your wife, never act on the feelings though.
2006-07-11 18:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be crazy. Answer is NO . What passes , is history and what now , affect your future.What is the point of living in the past .You are treasuring something that is nothing.What is love ? Is love a feeling or what ,can you tell ? Now is feeling ? Past is like a film strip, a dream . Can you understand ! Give a deep thought.
2006-07-11 19:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jason Koh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different kinds of love. Different parts of your heart will always belong to different people but it is completely possible. that doesnt mean you love your wife less and it also doesnt mean you love your ex more than her it just means you hold a place in your heart for both with different measures of affection. i have been through this and am going through it at the current moment.
2006-07-11 18:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by tlca_6002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible but not respectful to your wife who should have the benefit of not sharing your love with a memory. And besides memories always seem better than they are in reality. Sometimes old loves get frozen in time. It is time to thaw and realize you could jeopardize what you have if you continue to be distracted by thoughts of old love. Get over it!
2006-07-11 18:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably "in love" with that time of your life more than just your past ex. Look at that time & try to decide what was so special about it. You are probably associating feelings that surrounded the time of your relationship as past love. I do do the same thing, even though I have no love for my ex (he was a real bastard)- I think about him often. But during that time of my life, I was surrounded with happy things, friends, new job, car, etc...
2006-07-11 18:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋