I am getting married on Oct 7 and all I have is the date and place we havent taken a blood test yet (I'm not even sure we need one) I havent gotten a minister I looked in the phone book and there wasnt not one in there do I just call the churches? Also I hear there is alot of stuff you need and things you probably want any advice about anything would be helpful. Also the wedding is outside.
2006-07-11 18:46:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Seriously, take a deep breath and calm down. Don't panic.
Weddings are really really easy. I just got married about three weeks ago. My second. I've also arranged everything for my mother and sisters weddings.
1. Where are you from? If you live in the US then yes, you'll need a blood test. If you live in Canada, no you won't. The best way to get those things answered is by calling the local Court House. They'll have all the answers you need for that type of thing.
2. That depends on if you want a religious ceremony or a civil one. If a religious, call the churches that belong to your specific religion (Catholic if you're Catholic, etc).
If you want a civil, the Court House again will be able to help you.
3. Like what kind of things?
Try this site, it will help. http://www.ezweddingplanner.com/
Remember, everything is up to you. Your wedding is your creation and no one elses.
But do remember that whoever pays for it, makes the rules.
3. Outside weddings. Well, do you want a tent in case of rain? Is there a park you want it at? What do you want to do? Think about it and do some searching online. It's amazing what you'll find.
Just keep as few things in mind. Don't become a bridezilla please and remember that those stupid etiquette books only have as much meaning as YOU decide to put into them.
A much better berometer for deciding what should and shouldn't be done are the women in your family. For example, in some places a Dollar Dance is something that's perfectly acceptable. Many websites will tell you otherwise, but it depends on whether it's all right in your family. If it's all right in your family, then don't act stuck up and refuse to do it because some book or web site told you otherwise.
Good luck, don't stress, and have fun.
2006-07-11 19:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the blood test I'm not sure of depends on what state you are getting married in. Anymore if you are not getting married in a court house or a hitching post type place the minister usually require a years worth of couseling with the couple, this is do to the high divorce rates, today. You also need to go to your local court house an obtain a marriage licenses the two of you have to do this together. And the licenses is not good the day you get it there is usuaully a minimum of a three day waitng period and then there is an expiration date to. as far as the wedding being outdoors that is something you have to dicuss with whom is marrying you. Also make sure this person is available for your special day. Good luck!
2006-07-11 19:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by barbara r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call a church if you want a minister to marry you.
I hope you live where the weather is predictable, if you're going to be outside.
If you want it simple, keep your focus on that. It's not about the day. It's about the rest of your life. I always hear that the bigger the day was, the more stressed the couple was, and that teh day was a a blur.
Don't take on so much that no one would remember anyway. You want to remember the day and enjoy it.
The wedding train that spins out of control is very hard to stop once it's starts.
Keep your priorities straight. You really don't NEED a lot. It can be beautiful and simple and not put you into debt.
Best wishes:)
2006-07-11 19:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by desertrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just got married 2 weeks ago and it was outside. calm down. i used an ordained minister....kind of something similar to a justice of the peace (but they don't exist, at least in ohio, anymore). as for the blood test, check with your county probate court since that is where you have to get your marriage license. you can call around to the churches if you like, but you will probably have to go through marriage counseling.
as for the wedding outside...if it is going to be a long ceremony, make sure your guests will be in the shade. also make sure you have a backup plan in case it rains or the weather is bad. i got lucky...it was sunny and breezy.
as for the things you need...it will be items to dress the tables, a cake topper, a cake cutting set, a card box, a guest book, your flowers, gifts for any attendants, flowergirl baskets, etc. go to one of the wedding websites and there are checklists on there. i went to http://www.weddingchannel.com and other people recommend http://www.theknot.com also
congrats, good luck and don't panic!
2006-07-11 19:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by beckyg_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this late date, I wouldn't even worry about the minister. Go to the courthouse and invite a few people that matter the most to go with you (parents, siblings, grandparents, best friends, etc.). If you would still rather have a minister, look in the Yellow Pages under "Nondenominational Churches/Religion".
You might also want to visit some of these sites for suggestions on planning and decorating:
http://www.michaels.com
http://www.theknot.com
http://www.weddingchannel.com
Good luck!
2006-07-11 19:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get a move on. Yes, call the churches to get a minister, or if you're not getting married in a church, get a justice of the peace (call your local city hall) to perform the ceremony.
What are you doing for food? You need to get that ironed out a.s.a.p. What about photographer? What about dj/band for the reception? What about wedding music? These vendors book quickly, so you may have a hard time finding one that can help you in 2 months.
You also need to think about centerpieces for the reception.....tableware.... .what songs you and your husband want played.....there's a lot to think about besides the 'where' of your wedding/reception..........good luck!
2006-07-12 00:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't have a clue as to what you are doing. I think that you may want to put the Wedding off for a while..It takes alot of time and sometimes alot of money depending on what you want...You need to meet with a minister and both of you talk to him..Be sure this is what you want
2006-07-11 20:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the big rush ! You have the rest of your long life to be married. Back up the date to a year. You can make the same mastake by getting married then as now. Take your time and injoy being free and planing the wedding. Life goes to fast now. Make sure this is the right person for you. This is the rest of your long long long life you are working on having.
2006-07-11 19:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a justice of the peace. I Dont think any religious person will do it if you dont belong to the church and you are running out of time. Call your doctor and ask if blood tests are needed.
By now, you should have everything in order (Band, flowers, menu etc)
2006-07-12 04:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a local party store and rent tables and chairs, they get reserved in advance. You can also get decorations and flowers at a lot of party stores. Find a photogropher. For the cake just go to you're local supermarket and see if they do wedding cake: it will be cheaper. I hope you have sent out invitations!
2006-07-11 19:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by tjandjess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋