Can you tell me if this real love? I dated w/ a man for 10mths now, he is not Chinese so we cnt meet often.?

Question

Since the 5th mth we have been together, we (me) always have argument about no phone call, then 7-10days cold war afterwards as usual, and everytimes it was me to break the ice! Well, man needs face in front of people, fine, but why everytimes like this?? I told him what I expected from him, just care love and security ( am I asking for too much??) and he needs care, ok! Then why everytimes I care he seems like that is nothing important??? I explained why I felt upsad and disappointed, then he rejected to talk, rejected to answer the phone.. what should I do?? I feel I have no security!!! ='(
Seems I got a b/f but I don't have in real..
Playboy? or he too focus on his business then doesn't know how to care g/f or express his love or what (he is 35, older than me 12yr) ? Our love life was no good before, he hurt by chinese girl and down for 2yrs long and I hurt by Danish boy and tear washing face for bloody 4 yrs plz help, I really don't know what we do to improve..or we right match??

When there are his friends near by, his ''passsion'' show up. He would pass the phone to their friends and let me to talk with them for mins.. I am not sure if he want to share this happiness with his friends or just want to show off... Therefore, we are ''prefect'' in front of people, no one know we had problem in dark... i love this man so much.. he said he loves me very much also ( about few mths he didnt say this anymore..) He doesnt want to have a deep communcaiton with me, seem that... coz whatever i told, he heard, but everytimes is not conclusion for solving or prevent that happen again... i am not happy now.. i was happy before...
He is too self-centered or he just still has to learn how to love...

Answer 1

Honey, move on, you are being used and abused.
Time to find someone who really cares about you, preferably someone who lives nearby, it's much easier to deal with.

Answer 2

hmmmm....relationship is all abt give n take so u shouldnt be always the one to end the "cold war". U dun seem to be enjoying yr relationship since it started. Have u talked w yr bf? Whether he is serious abt this realtionship? U shld let him know that this is really hurting you.
Maybe he finds its hard to go into another serious committed realtionship but its time he decide it.

U shldnt hurt yrself further by dragging a relationship that is not going anywhere.

Tc n hope u find true love.

Answer 3

Well, if its not age gap that is the problem then i sure he has a new gf or even worst old flame has once again rekindled,
To know the answer ask him to married you and see the reaction. If one of the 2 things that i mentioned is true, he will reveal if it is not, you will know the cause of the problem and save you from wild guessing all the time

Answer 4

i think he doesnt want a relationship with you. He maybe fooling with your feeling. I suggest that you take sometime to think over this relationship. If you really feel insecure with him and your relationship remains in such mess, you have to decide what will be the best move for you.

I dun really know what had happened between you and him, so you have to decide the best way out yourself. Dun rush yourself in making any decision without thinking your own future

Answer 5

i think he sees you as only a child still, he doesnt want a real relationship with you, he prbably has another relationship thats why he doesnt call you or answert your calls.he maybe playing around with another girl. maybe he doesnt want a relationship at all and you being young it is not looking good for him, what will his family think of him, what will his friends think of him young gal. i think you should date another guy and leave this guy, he isnt worth it, he is making you have alll kinds of problems. he isnt acting like a boyfriend at all.move on and focus on yourself.good luck.