My parents are so negative. Sometimes it seems like they have nothing good to say about anything. I don't want their bad moods to affect me and how I live my life. I don't want them to rub off on me and I don't want to become a grumpy old person. I wanna get out of the house but they won't really let me go anywhere. Any suggestions on what I should do?
2006-07-11 18:15:47 · 10 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you sound exactly like me but this for me has been going on all my life, (16 years) i cant stop my parents, no matter what i do the y never seem to congrats me, thank me, help me, or care for me. i do everythign on my own either laundry or getting to school. i do everysingle thing on my own with no ones help, but only negative additude in my life. the only thing i have going in life right now and is keeping me alive , is my friends . keep your head strong , you will struggle but you sound strong. i worry the same thing when i get older if i will be like my parents, but i see in my head and i know what i go through and i would never wish that upon anyone.
2006-07-11 18:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by igotalyfe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until you've had to face the real world on your own, take care of all your own responsibilities, assume the responsibility for a family and come to realize the world as it really is...don't be so quick to judge your parents. Right now your view of life is wanting a fairy tale where nothing bad happens and everyone runs around smiling. You'll be thrown into the real world soon enough and find out for yourself what being responsible is really about. Don't force yourself out there unprepared. Young people "think" they have the answers, but in time the vast majority end up admitting to their parents that they were basically right.
The parents of school aged kids today do not have the same generation gap as in earlier years. Not that much has really changed from when they were your age. The peer pressures were there, the drugs were there, th alcohol was there, the sex temptations were there, the teen pregnancies were there. You aren't experiencing anything they didn't experience themselves.
No one should always go around grumpy and negative about everything. But do you honestly know all the reasons they may be like that? Have you taken the time to understand your parents the way you always want to be understood? Best thing you can do is try to help make your home a happier place, because if you don't know what a happy home is, you're not going to know how to provide one for your kids. Like it or not, you will go out into the world armed mainly with what you learned growing up. If there's something that disturbs you, you better try to fully understand it or you won't be able to change it in your own life.
I'm an adult, and I can tell you the only real difference between a mature adult and a kid is that the mature adult has learned to control their feelings, not let their feelings control them. We have the same feelings, the same wants, the same fears, the same dreams...but we don't let them turn into irresponsilbe actions because we accept we have other responsibilities. Unfortunately, not all adults and not all parents are mature as one might hope. You take the maturity away and you simply have a kid who has been one for too many years.
2006-07-12 01:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is really hard to be around negativity, especially when they are your parents. I have been in a similar situation and really still am sometimes. My favorite thing to deal with it is to get into a different space. By that I mean listen to music, read a book, do something that makes you happy. You do ultimately have the choice to be positive or negative. Maybe you could get friends to come over instead of getting out of the house. I hope some of these suggestions are worthwhile.
2006-07-12 01:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by L. M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't gonna grow up to be anything unless you want to. It's up to you. Only confront them if you feel comfortable. To everyone that is saying "Just grow up" that's not gonna help anyone. What you need to do is find something you love and when you feel like you can't take it go to a quite place where you can be alone and do whatever that is. I personally like to write poetry, but anything, reading, drawing, sports, or simply thinking. Whatever it is just get away. There are professionals that have said sometimes children are more mature than their parents. Just wait it out.
-Amanda
2006-07-12 02:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by CommonSense 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sneak out, Be your own person you are the one who controls whos actions rub off on you and whos dont just live your life the way you want to live it
2006-07-12 01:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by twilight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents don't realize how much they affect their children. They sound tired and worn out. Try helping them out around the house, do some extra chores, but do it out of the goodness of your heart, not because it will get you something.
2006-07-12 01:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by rera1397 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, tell them that you appreciate their cares and concern over you, but you would rather they be more optimistic.
Tell them that you hope that they can accept you for who you are.
Join a local chruch or youth group/ community centre or do charity work to get your mind off them. Pray for them as well.
If you need further advice call 1-800-367-8336 as it provides referrals to all types of agencies and services for your concerns about your parents and your wellbeing.
Best of luck and God Bless you.
2006-07-12 01:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough, get a job and move out. Find a roommate but don't move in with a boyfriend. If you are going to college you can also live on campus.
2006-07-12 01:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by gaby1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up
2006-07-12 01:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this place:
http://www.takebackyourheart.com/
2006-07-12 05:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋