has all these secret identities online and I found one of them on Yahoo Answers, with a question posted by him 3 months ago saying this "I have a girlfriend, but I really like another girl, what should I do?"
We've been together for 8 months.
WHAT SHOULD I THINK ABOUT THIS OR DO ABOUT IT?
2006-07-11 18:14:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay I know this because he got on my computer today and logged in with his name, but forgot to clear the history.
2006-07-11 18:19:23 · update #1
Seems pretty self-explainatory to me. He is having doubts about your relationship or stepping out on you. Just the fact that he has multiple IDs that you were not aware of should tell you that there are issues.
2006-07-11 18:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lubers25 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Confront him about the situation. If your relationship is serious and you feel you should have trust between you two then be open about what you found and how you feel. Him hiding these online identities is not very trustworthy on his part and he should not be doing so unless you have established that your relationship is open-ended. I would not leave your heart out there to be played with by him. Being together 8 months is a long time and at this stage in your relationship I don't think such things should be occuring. Then again this is my opinion and I have no knowledge of what each of you expect from the other. Good luck and remember, if your relationship is exclusive and he is interested in someone else, it's time for you to lose interest in him no matter how painful it might be. It's not worth your time.
2006-07-11 18:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by I Have The Answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.... secret identities? i'm guessing you "found" one of them because there are trust issues with your boyfriend, meaning you don't trust him. right? explore those reasons and maybe the question he posted three months ago won't matter.
to answer your question though, ALL of us are attracted to someone else while dating another person at some point in our lives, even if just once. for a mature adult, married, with kids, good Christian... that could be a scary situation. some of us imagine being with that person, fantasizing even. some of us explore the possibilities and actually cheat on our wives/girlfriends or husbands/boyfriends. and then, some of us seek advice from friends or even family about what we should do. for a young guy though, that issue can be really tempting and confusing.
my point, maybe he was just asking the question because he needed advice. maybe he didn't ever intend to do anything about it and wanted advice on how to deal with his feelings (and desires). you should pay attention to what is actually happening in your relationship today. maybe he chose you after all. it happens all the time, every day to someone and we just don't realize it. tell him how you feel about his activities online but be careful about your snooping as well. out of curiosity, what did he choose as the the "best answer" to his yahoo!answers question you mentioned above? that could be a clue...
2006-07-11 18:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by yer daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously considering dumping him. I'm speaking from personal experience because I was engaged to a guy almost 2 years ago and while we were engaged I discovered he was on online dating sites trying to meet other women. I knew it was after we had gotten engaged because he had moved to another city after the engagement and the dating sites had that he was new to the area with his new city name on it. It was very difficult for me to do but I broke off the engagement. You can't be with someone who you can't trust for one thing. And if he's done stuff like that who's to say he won't do it again or even worse. I'm happy with my decision. I have a wonderful boyfriend now and as hard as it was, now I know it was the right decision.
2006-07-11 18:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Applebottom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has some issues. It's better to confront it and see what he says. If you're not happy with his answer, then it might be good to end the relationship. 8 months is a long time, but a lifetime of unhappiness is much longer!
2006-07-11 18:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by daisy99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, knowing this... you can either keep dating him or not?!
When I had two girlfriends find out about each other, (I was dating two at the same time), I told each one, in turn, that I wasn't married to either one of them and that that's what "DATING" is all about! It's about trying out different people to see, ultimately, who would be the most probable marriage material. And it is! That's what dating "is" all about, right? There are no rules that say "you can only date one person at a time", right?
Think it over... and then decide for yourself.
2006-07-11 18:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by love_2b_curious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is over. Make some plans, put some money together and move out. Good luck! I am sorry this happened but there is no way to unscramble eggs.
2006-07-11 18:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past is past , if he treats you ok. He didn't really know you then. You are probly the apple of his eye by now. For get you saw it. But if you see any more of this kind of thing I would drop him so fast he'd be lost with his self.
2006-07-11 18:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better Leave him and come out of that Stupid Love.
Because If he sees another girl then also he starts liking that girl. So he may leave you at any time.Better you come out
2006-07-11 18:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by sukanya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he said that he wants a committed relationship with just you? If so, talk to him about this and do not tolerate it. If there is no explicit committment, you cant do anything about it, let him be his own person. If you cant tolerate it, move on
2006-07-11 18:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋