If you a real christian help me out.?

Question

I've been friends with this girl for over ten years and we used to do everything together. We even lived together, but now I'm trying to be saved and be christian but she dosent want to. She is so convinced than it dosent take all this to go to heaven but how can you go to heaven in sin????? What do I do? How can I help her and we still be friends?

Answer 1

Nothing is more powerful than prayer.

Answer 2

First determine which is more important your freindship or the thought of her spending eternity in hell. Should be an easy one. As someone said prayer is a great place to start. So is making sure you are saved first. You have to accept Jesus and that you are a sinner and confess it to God and then you HAVE to repent(turn from) your sins. Does this mean you will be sinless, no, of course not. But God will know if you really tried to turn from your sins or not. Then when you are truely saved it will give you the boldness and compassion to do whatever it takes to keep her from going to hell. Hope this helped. Good luck and God Bless. Please feel free to email me if you have questios or let me know how things worked out.

Answer 3

When you say I am trying to be saved. I don't want to misunderstand your intent. Taking your words at face value you dont have to try to be saved. The only actions required by you is 1. confession before the Lord you are a sinner and want Him in your life. 2. Read items on this website to affirm your faith - http://www.carm.org/doctrine/100truths.htm
3. Remember that it is by FAITH that you are saved and not works that you do to obtain Heaven. Jesus himself will see to that. That is what the bible means when it uses the word GRACE. Take great comfort in that. Your friend needs to see God's grace in operation in your life. The bible also tells us to be anxious for nothing. Don't be anxious. It may be that your friend is a christian already but not as dedicated as you want to be. Ask her if she would like to study the bible with you, or go to church with you. Find GOOD common ground with her.

Answer 4

You are so right, you can not go to heaven in sin, that is why Jesus payed the price for those to follow Him.

You can not decide for her, you can only make the choices for yourself. Do youwish to please her and miss God or please God, be saved and displease her.... (and perhaps with prayer and perseverance in it she will be saved eventyally?)

Know this, if we are christians, true children of God, the world can not understand and will hate us. It is a personal choice. You must chose for your eternity. And she also has to but it is not your choice.
Joh 15:18 If the world hates you, you know that it has hated Me before it has hated you.
Joh 15:19 If you were of the world, the world would love its own. But because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, because of this the world hates you.
1Jo 3:13 Do not marvel, my brothers, if the world hates you.
1Jo 3:14 We know that we have passed from death to life because we love the brothers. The one not loving the brother remains in death.
1Jo 3:15 Everyone hating the brother is a murderer, and you know that every murderer does not have everlasting life abiding in him.

False teachings will lead people to believe that to go to heaven one must be a good person and that's it. Well read the bible sweetie, you'll find that no good dead will save ANYONE. As it is written:
"There is not one righteous, no, not one: for all have sinned and have come short of the golry of God" Rom 3:10,23

One must go through Jesus to be saved:
I am the way, the truth and the life: no man comes unto the Father (heaven) but through me.

"That if you shall confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in your heart that God has raised from the dead, you shal be saved" Rom 10:9

So what do you do? you make your choices for she will not be able to make them for you if you wish to be saved. Your friendship is secondary and perhaps in time, you being born again may be a living testimony of the living God and may touch her.

Answer 5

We can't make our friends that we knew in the world accept Jesus. All we can do is live like Jesus. Sinners come to the conclusion that Jesus is real through the demonstration in your life. When we walk like Jesus when shine like He did and this is what draws people to God. You do not have to preach to your friend everyday, just live a holy life before them. Matthew 5:16 says, "Let your light so shine before men , that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven". Even though sinners can not see or touch God, they will come to the conclusion that God exists through your life and reverence God.

Answer 6

Honestly, you must be very cautious of your spirituality.

1 Cor. 15:33 - Bad association spoils useful habits.

So, continue with your progressive, spiritual path and you can still be friends with her, just stay clear from what is bad. Also, be patient and again focus changing yourself first, and she will witness the seriousness in you...... and MAYBE change for the better for herself? But, know that she has to want that for HER. OK? Hope everything goes well with you, two.

Take Care

Answer 7

What you do is "Give it time". Work on your growth as a Christian. Express your willingness to always show respect for her opinion and let her know you expect the same in return if your close friendship is to continue.

Continue yourself to grow in Christ and as you do, the answers you seek will come. And she will see the blessings in your life and the changes. That is loud testimony to the validity of your quest and will speak more to her than all the words you could say.

We each come to Christ and learn to love Him because He first loved us. And He opens our hearts and minds to comprehend His love for us as individuals. Jesus said these words..."by your love for one another shall men know that you are my followers."

Just love her and keep her in your prayers until the Lord opens her heart and mind to accept Him. And remember this little saying that has helped me a lot at times.....

Hate the sin, Love the sinner. It works!

I will be praying for you! God be with you.

Answer 8

I have atheist friends and the best thing to do is still be their friend. Live your life the way you should and they will see how it effects you and the things around you. They will come to you and ask you questions. You wont have to go to them. People will see that you have something that they don't. This is what Jesus was talking about being salt and light to the world. Light will help them see something is different about you and the salt will make them thirst for what you do have.

Answer 9

take all this??? wat exactly is that??? I am a Christian...andn i have friends...i cant say they rnt Christians and i cant say they r.... they sin...but ther just not spiritual or religious...some of em believe in horoscopes...my frriends dont laugh at me...and im thankful for that becuz im blessed that im not ridiculed becuz i dont wanna do something becuz its a sin. but u and ur friend...u can do the same thing! u cant force her to do anything...if she doesnt want to...then all u can do is pray to Jesus that in ur cleansing... He will turn her around and she will be cleansed to. u cant be a pushy Christian...Jesus didnt come to ppl and say, " be cleaned thru me or ull die! and i wont be ur friend! " no He didnt...He told them that if they want to spend ther life with Him...He will be merciful ad forgive and is willing to take care of them... but the whole crowd just didnt turn around and become Christians they blew Him off! while others stayed...and eventually some came back...so u go ahead and be a Christian...and maybe ur friend might just come bak to God too. tell her how much more she will be happier...and life wont be easy as a Christian....it could possibly be harder...but she will be happier...and she will have more satisfaction.








I'm glad ur becoming Christian...ill be even more glad when ur friend duz too...just give her time...and she might not become Christian at all! but just give it to God...He will do something ...i mean c mon look at u! u were stubborn and didnt want to turn to God, and now look, thats all u want to do!!! God can do the same for ur friend...=)

Answer 10

Give your life to Jesus and be saved. Then pray for her. Talk to her about the eternal life in heaven. Take her to prayer meetings. Teach her about the punishment in hell.

You can surely save her soul. Pray to God and ask Him to help you save her. Present her spiritual books and introduce her to spiritual friends. Save that girl at any cost.

Answer 11

You do need help my friend. Try Atheism. Christians say they are open minded so try checking into atheism before you have your mind turned into poo. There are no membership fees just google atheism and check out the sites. You can't learn the truth about atheism from christian sources for obvious reasons. They will just bad mouth it right off the bat. Whatever you decide to do, remember, real friends don't force their friends into things they aren't interested in. Live your life, but don't force you opinion on your friends. Oh and don't force your opinion on the rest of the country either, please. Like "In god we trust"on my atheist cash, and "under god" on my atheist pledge. thanks. In case your wondering I have tried religions but decided they were'nt for me before I decided I was an atheist. Keep an open mind.