Can you be handsome to someone even if you're convinced you're actually not good looking?

Question

the guys that i hear girls say are handsome, have good built physique and just have a strong presence in their eyes and face.
I dn't and i kind of seem like my face is weak and immature..for some reason. and i'm skinny like a rat even if i do exercise and try to keep in shape. I never ever heard anyone saying i'm handsome or any girl stare at me or approach me. I'm really convinced no one is attracted to me. but i'm attracted to all kinds of girls i see . so how is it, i think most girls are attractive, but no one seems to think i am? just wondering. sure the inside is the most attractive, but... i've seen how people get attracted to another person from seeing them , you can see it in their eyes, and they get exited, or giggle with friends and secretly say it,, or even attemp to approach the person they are attracted to...slowly , or make some kind of cheesy attempts..to try to get that person's attention. I've never had that, so i conclude i'm really unattractive.

Answer 1

- Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder -
Inner beauty is important. Physical beauty fades, but inner beauty never fades away. Like the saying goes, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Answer 2

Don't panic bro. The inside is the only thing that matters which is the heart. All you have to do is be a sweetheart to the girls. If you see a girl that calls your attention go up to her no matter how she looks if she doesn't get your attention just be sweet to her, make her laugh and tell her what you really like about her. No one is perfect in this world. Cute guys seem to be all bad because they think all the girls like them. Well my answer for this is that the look doesn't matter. Even the a pretty girl will date an ugly guy if the guy's inside is beautiful and if he's a sweetheart. That's all i do man. I'm in love right now with this girl and she's awesome. She's the perfect girl for me and i want to stick with her already and move on with her and be happy. Hope you find the right girl bro.

Answer 3

ok properly at the starting up that s h i t became no longer short and sweet as you had suggested it became. yet extra to the point the priority right here isn't about romance, crushes, being egocentric or regardless of. that's your self esteem. you have not any self esteem that you're continually afraid that folk will imagine unwell of you for each little element that you're and do. in truth, that is so undesirable you won't be able to take mild, teasing comments surely. do not take what i'm keeping the incorrect way yet you want to study the thanks to love your self adequate that you'll be able to sense efficient. that you received't ought to stress or care if human beings hate you or imagine you're a spazz. woman i do not even want to look on the picture reason that would not remember. regardless of ways extremely or ugly, you'll trust because there'll continually be something strong about you on the interior.

Answer 4

Well, here is the good news. YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE.

And here is the bad news. IT MAY TAKE YOU LONGER.

I am not Mr. GQ either and it takes more of an effort to get a girl to like me. Work your other qualities dude knowing that looks is not your strongest suit. Don't get bummed out about it though. It is what it is. That guy over there is hot and girls want to get with him because of his looks. But there is something (and most likely more than one) within you that would make that same girl want to get with you. Find out what that is and use it just as Mr. GQ uses his suave hair, rippled stomach, and dashing eyes to get the ladies.

You may find your best luck with a lady is a month or longer process but your relationship with her lasts 4 times longer than if you were Mr. GQ. Most likely you will have less relationships in your life but they will be longer relationships and more meaningful.

My first kiss was when I was 18 years old (and my first ********, ha ha ha). She was the freshest, hottest meat in the school at the time. It wasn't my looks that attracted her it was my brains, kindness, and spirituality. I later dumped her and married the homecoming queen. I am still just average looking but my other qualities shine.

Do some internal studying of what you can flaunt for the ladies. ;-)

Answer 5

It sounds like you are pretty young. Give it some time. When girls are immature, they only think guys are cute or handsome if they fit a certain mold. With maturity comes the ability to appreciate people for who and what they are on the inside as well. And when you find that someone who appreciates you for the person you are, I promise you, she will find you the most attractive person in the world.

Answer 6

Beauty is in the hands of a beholder, sometimes a person can turn to appear handsome after a girl has developed an attracted feeling over him.

For example, my old friend daisy met a guy, her first comment was " well he's not attractive at all, kind of nerdy.." after 2 years, they start dating, she says" actually I found him to be really cute, his eyes are magic!.."...

Answer 7

Let me tell you a couple of things....
First, there is someone out there for everyone. I firmly believe in that, so don't get depressed, okay?
Second, you need to quit looking for a girlfriend right now. You need to focus on yourself, and develop some talents and skills that you can feel good about. Your self esteem is really lacking, and above all else, self esteem is what gets the ladies, my friend.
Third, you need to learn how to communicate. This is no lie, you should seek out a Toastmaster's Club, or something that will teach you how to be confident and approach and talk to people.
Fourth, if you are concerned about your appearance, read about weight lifting and building muscle. If you feel confident about your appearance it will really show to the ladies.
Good luck to you!

Answer 8

Please remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You seem like a really introspective guy with lots of feelings. You probably have lots of friends. Put yourself in situations that will allow your personality & talents shine through. Get your confidenence boosted! Someone special will recognize all those qualities and will see the beauty inside of you. You will then become more attractive to them. You will grow into your looks as well. The older men get, the more their faces fill out & get refined. Give it time, you will be fine!

Answer 9

Hi,
I don't know how old you are, but believe me when I say that relationships based on first impressions (that is judging a person by their level of attractiveness) do not last long. There are many ugly, short guys who attract the ladies anyway because they develop other attributes of themselves that are appealing. I think you should just relax, and think over your approach... after all, you say you are tall and since ladies would rather look up to their men rather than down, I would say you are almost there.

Answer 10

Any decent nice girl who is even worth dating will look at your personality and not your looks. Haven't you ever seen those gorgeous girls with butt ugly guys. They are with them for their personality and how the guy treats the girl.

But, if you constantly think you are unattractive you are going to give off a negative vibe towards girls. I like a guy with confidence. So even if he is physically unattractive he has to have confidence.

Since you think you aren't good looking don't let others notice it. Instead of using looks to get a girl use a part of your personality that you think girls would like. For example: humor, if you play drums or guitar (i think thats hot), ummm theres others but i cant think right now.

Remember, dont think so negatively and everything will get better. I hope this helped :) good luck!