just wondering if the man gets a say in the names of the children. because i have some names picked out and if he doesn't like them what do i do?
can i just tell him that all he did was push them in and not push them out?
2006-07-11 17:54:50 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
*sorry i shoulda put i'm not pregnant!!* sorry!!
it was just a question thats bugging me
2006-07-11 18:07:01 · update #1
i think is important for both of u to decide together on a name because if u can't come to an understanding about a name u will have a hard time raising that child there will be many decisions u will have to make together once u have a child & by doing it together u are also showing that child the cosistency that both of his or her parents have together as a couple by making decision together another option that i can suggest from experience my husband chose the first name i chose the middle name.
2006-07-11 18:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by frasel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you BOTH are having a child, although you may think it is one sided, it is not. Your husband while not having the pain of actually birthing the child, is giving up the freedom he currently has, he is making a commitment to take care and support this child equally with you throughout the next 18-20 years. He should have some say in the naming of your child. It's called co-operation, not I passed this child through my bleep bleep so I get to name it. That sounds entirely jealous. Just see if you can't come up with a name together. Ask him what he thinks would be a good name, see if you can't find a name that you both like together. In some countries, the father names the child no matter what, so be thankful you have a say in it.
2006-07-12 01:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kiko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband has just as much say in what to name the child as he is the babys father ,you both should sit down and go over different names for a girl / boy and if you have a diffucult time choosing one then come to a compromise put all girls names in a hat and do same with boys name which ever one is picked then go from there. good luck best wishes / congratulation
2006-07-12 01:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by trini_wife_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"can i just tell him that all he did was push them in and not push them out?"
LOL
You probibly could but I wouldnt recommend it. The baby you are carrying is a cooperation between the two of you and you are going to have to continue to cooperate well raising it. I would instead recomend that you try and find a name you can both love. Maybe you could buy two copies of the same baby naming book one for you and one for him and two highlighters. You both go through your books without talking about names or looking at the others and highlight the ones you like. Then you go through the books together and find one you both love. Good Luck
2006-07-12 01:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by CowtownMummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha! Well that would be nice wouldn't it...To be fair naming your child should be something that you do together. It does make it hard though when you can't agree. Try to compromise if you can..Yes he did push it in..That is exactly why he should have at least a 50% say in the name of what comes out. Congratulations..good luck.
2006-07-12 00:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby is just as much his as yours, so he should be happy with the name, too. If you guys can't come together and agree on a name, how are you going to present a united front and decide on important child rearing issues like dealing with behavior, setting routines, schedules, teaching them ethics, responsibility, and character development? Learn to compromise now and work together to decide on a name. Kids really need both parents to be on the same page.
2006-07-12 01:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by cindy1323 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course he should! It's his child too! And he needs a reward for being there with you during labor and delivery! You can come up with a name you both like. It may not be the first choice for either of you, but that's OK. You're going to have to make a lot of joint decisions about this baby in years to come, so now's a good time to start!
2006-07-12 01:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by B D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ijust had a baby 2 months ago and that name thing can be crucial. we debated up until my 8th month about the name. iwanted his opinion although i felt i had the perfect name for my son. He disagreed and so we went back to square one. the names he came up with i hated and vice versa so we finally took pieces of paper and each of us wrote down the names we liked and we each had one name wrote down that was the same.. spelled differently though. He got dibs on first name spelling and all and i chose the middle name. Give him a chance to add his insight...its his child too. There is always a compromise
2006-07-12 17:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk until you both find a name that you like. Or in the alternative if you have one name that you HAVE to have like a grandmother's name for instance he should let you have that one and then he should be able to choose a middle name or a first name depending on what you guys want.
2006-07-12 01:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by dwmajick2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow if you cant decide on the name how will you agree on things like peircings tats, college, etc. Yes he gets a say it is his baby also. Keep searching untill you both find one you agree on. And try to explain to him you reasoning behind the names you chose
2006-07-12 01:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋