like i've heard about so many relationships in the army end while their partner is over in Iraq or off somewhere else? cuz i have heard they get calls or letters saying its over.
2006-07-11 16:46:37 · 17 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
*my fiance is in the army*
2006-07-11 17:47:43 · update #1
Because dumb little girls run when things get too hard.
I think one of the main problems is that a lot of people don't know each other well enough before they get married and some of these girls marry soldiers and don't know what they are getting themselves into.
I have seen so many girls date a guy for a month and then marry him the day before he enters basic to get the benefits. I am not saying that it will always end badly, but I just honestly think people rush into things.
2006-07-11 17:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kasey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WEll I live it my husband is on his 3rd 1 year tour overseas in the last 4 years..However I am not a young wife I am 34 years old..(I just look awesome for my age) LOL and we have 2 daughters..It is very hard..But we have been together for 15 years...Because it takes TONS AND TONS OF WORK AND COMMITMENT!! AND MOST PEOPLE CANT EVEN COMMIT TO A JOB OR A PET..Its not for everyone!!
And its not easy but I married a military man..did we think that we were gonna go to war 10 years ago..Heck no but that is what you sign up for..and I took vows for better or worse..But the amazing thing is when he does come home...EVERYTHING IS WORTH WAITING FOR..At least for us..we communicate and we get angry and mad..at the situation..and sometimes at each other..You have to value yourself and take this and do positive things to help you not hurt you..
And my biggest motto is I dont do to him what I wouldnt want done to me!!! If you learn from things like this you are better for it..I dont take things for granted as easily..I cherish every moment I am with him..and We have lost friends over there so keeping that in mind we are so thankful we are still here alive and well..And we are not going to let this WAR seperate us..WE are stronger then BUSH!!!
2006-07-11 23:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by heather b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to condone the action taken by those wives who do cheat on their husbands or anything but it works both ways. I have heard of soldiers going over seas and cheating on their wives back home as well as the other way around. I believe allot of things factor into it. For example, while my brother was in Iraq his superiors continually told him his girlfriend was back home cheating on him with some other guy. After awhile that can weigh down on a person no matter how strong they are and some of them crack in the end. I am married to a soldier who is currently in Afghanistan and our relationship is being tested and I pray to God every night that we make it through this and any future deployment.
2006-07-12 01:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by princess_elf21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am an Army wife and my hubby is currently deployed to Iraq so I can tell you first hand alot of relationships end because cheating spouses both home and there also gossip gets things started...as long as you trust one another your relationship is untouchable we are 7 months into deployment and not one single issue we have trust but there are plenty of divorces going on within our company it just depends on y'all..another issue is the separation is hard some just can't take it but that's another story
2006-07-12 05:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason so many civilian relationships (who do not have someone deployed) end in divorce.
I don't mean that flippantly - I think you will find that there are a lot of faithful spouses (both on the dependent and the AD side), just like there are a lot of faithful civilians. But lets face it, people are drawn to sensationalism - what is more likely to be talked about - Private Smith's wife who is cheating, or Private Jone's wife who is not?
As one person said, he said it was at about 25%. Well, then that means that there is 75% that isn't in that boat. And even if you figure cynically that, say, 1/3 of those are, they just aren't saying or they aren't caught, that still leaves you with about 50% being faithful, no better or worse than in the civilian world.
But again, it's what people are drawn to - it's going to be talked about more, portrayed in movies more, etc, for "some Soldier in harms way" to get a "Dear John" from "the girl back home" - how tragic, how horrible of her, etc, than, say, some CPA who comes home to find his wife sleeping with her car pool buddy...
Now, this is not to say that I'm ok with those spouses or boy/girl friends who can't manage to keep their pants up, knees together, and relationships intact during a deployment. For one thing, if you are in a relationship, be faithful. But if you can't do that, then at least be decent enough to wait until they are back before you end it, and keep your pants up in the meantime - not just for their sake, but for the sake of every person whose life also depends on them being able to focus on their mission!
2006-07-12 05:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by seasailorwife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell you this, I was in Iraq 2 times, and both times I would say that 25% of the guys I was with found out that their wife or girlfriend was cheating on them. And that is just the ones who found out. I think it is because many of us are attracted to whores in the first place. Seriously, I dont know why it is so hard for a woman to wait 6 months for someone she loves. Man either for that matter.
2006-07-11 23:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by MCgunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason so many end in the military is the seperation and worry that is forced upon the spouse of a servicemember. When they are away, deployed, in training, etc... the spouse shoulders the burdens of the family. It is a tough life... the toughest in the military in fact. BUt my wife never complained (seldom complained)
2006-07-12 01:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by Talisman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should worry about it, if you are willing to be faithful and you trust your guy then all should be fine. Relationships don't last because people just aren't faithful to one another. It's ridiculous but that's just the way it is. If you're willing to put your all into the relationship and you let your man know you support him and love him and will stay faithful to him, all should be fine. My husband is overseas right now for a year and we're still doing just fine because we have no plans of cheating on one another!
2006-07-12 06:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by proudarmywife_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it takes work and trust to be an Army wife They most likely have to leave you for sometime trust them If yall love each other do not blow it on a one night stand just wait it will be worth it
2006-07-12 16:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship in a military personnel I think is bad bad bad decision, your just giving instead of a force rape. This personnel not all would just go into action, deployed and literally also needs to jack their penis.
But if you knew the guy before he became a military man. Go for it
2006-07-12 02:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy stephen jeanne l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋