I told my boyfriend am attracted to someone else. He said to give the new guy a chance. I feel sad because I wonder why he didn't show any signs of wanting to fight for the relationship. Is it normal for a guy to do this? He's letting me go so easily. It's been good, been together for 3 yrs. And for the last 9 months, we've been doing the long distance thing. It was going well but recently I developed feelings for someone else. I feel guilty, should I have even told my boyfriend about it?
And am nervous about starting a new thing at the moment. I want to sort out my feelings but at the same time am afraid that if I tell the new guy to give me some space, it may put him off and I might lose him. Should I take sometime to be on my own or do I go ahead and start something with the guy am attracted to?
2006-07-11 16:36:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you got what you wanted and you aren't happy with that? it was a long distance relationship, most likely he was interested in someone else too and was relieved that you said it before he did.
2006-07-11 16:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, um.... if your ex let you go that easily, it's cause he's probaby along the same path and long distance does suck. A lot of people think it's just easier to end them and let the person find someone closer, like you and the new guy. I can understand that you're now stuck between both guys and how you feel. Find out which one means the most to you. By giving the new guy a chance, you're risking the current guy for probably, forever. But if the new guy seems better than the current, then go for it. But take it slowly. Nothing to rush for.
2006-07-11 23:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the long distance relationship was also hard on your boyfriend and maybe he also wanted to move on. I think that you shouldn't jump into anything serious right away. You need time to sort out your feelings first. If you can't give your all to a new relationship it's not fair to you or your new friend. Just casually see the new guy and take it from there.
2006-07-11 23:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out what YOU want - from life, from a man, etc. If that takes being single for a bit, so be it. If you "lose" this guy, he wasn't meant to be.
And, the harsh reality is that maybe your boyfriend was looking for an excuse to leave, and you let him off easy. Long distance relationships are hard and maybe he just couldn't handle it. Don't worry - it just means you weren't meant to be...
2006-07-11 23:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Roach25486 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy are you a mess.
You really need to figure out how you are feeling, because it sounds like the distance thing has made both of you pull away and look at other people.
Talk to your b/f and find out if he is ready to move on as well for now, who knows perhaps it is better this way, to split up ammicably than to hurt each other down the road.
2006-07-11 23:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do what makes sense to you , is long distance relationships really relationships at all , i think its just alot high phone bills and expenses just to see each other for a weekend , so i say go for the 1 whom u can actually kiss face to face ok
2006-07-11 23:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should fight 4 ur love but he might not want too seem pushy.
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2006-07-11 23:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by so_totally_awesome13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u truly love some 1 u set them free....he musta really loved u hun is all i can say
2006-07-11 23:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by angel_of_ur_heart35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋