My son is ADHD, BI-Polar, he is very violent,refuses to take his med's cussing me out, and attacks me. The counselors and local police dept wont do a darn thig to help me. The child is two times bigger then me and could really hurt me. Human Services always seems to be "too busy" to "lock him up"...everytime the police call them DHS always says its not an emergency enough. What are these people waiting for...for him to kill me...then what??!!
2006-07-11 16:27:22 · 12 answers · asked by Hippie B 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
He is your son and I am sure that you love him very much, he is already diagnosed with a severe learning disorder, and he is Bi-Polar. Do not give up on him, but he needs to take his meds and its obvious he overpwers you and you cannot give them to him.
You have not gone into how violent he becomes, but the fact that he attacks you is enough. It is important that he is medicated and his behavior controlled so that he can be a functioning citizen. You have the right and you need to have him removed from the home and institutionalized, where he can be monitored and his meds given to him, until he realizes how important it is to be taking them. I know it is costly and you may not be able to afford it, but you do not want to lose him in the system.
Unfortunately in the 80's a President by the name of Reagan shut down a majority of these facilities for the mentally ill and cut funding that provided care and medications it has more than trickled into the present day. Do what you can, but know you can not care for him, when he is institutionalized, write him every day visit him often and let him know no matter how angry he is now, that you love him and you will get through it and you will always be there for him. Give him the hope and follow through.
2006-07-11 17:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wheels 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your safety is of the utmost importance. He may need hospitalization and you are able to have him committed. Remember, there are always people there to help you even if the first people you go to do not/cannot do anything. You may also want to consult a lawyer if you feel you need to get a restraining order. I know what living with a bipolar man is like -- I dated one for seven months and it was quite hellish. Good luck!
2006-07-11 16:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of meds see this under bipolar and depression. Before trying to get him on the meds you try them first so you are not a hypocrite. They could have a terrible effect on him. Where did this saying come from-- with love all things are possible.
http://phifoundation.org/heal.html
2006-07-11 16:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laws regarding Mental Health issues and the supoorts for parents vary from state to state. Try looking into your state's Department of Mental Health homepage for links to Welfare and Institution Codes (those are Federal Codes and can provide good info to assist you in more fully understanding your rights and obtaining services). Has he been diagnosed with a Developmental Disability? If so, look to your local Regional Center for respite care. You will be no good to him if you are at the end of your rope. You may want to contact a local legal aid hotline or law office to further explore your options. Unfortunately for you and your son, not to mention all the others in similar situations, the funding for Departments of Mental Health, Developmental Services and Health are so atrociously under-funded, it often takes a catastophe to get anyone to act. If your son is attending school, talk to the school/distric psychologist. That person may be able to direct you to local services and may be obliged to assist you in obtaining more comprehensive services for you and your son. Take care of yourself and, if you must, look into all your options. Hospitalization may be necessary. It can be hard to regain his trust following that, but everyone's safety is paramount. Best wishes to you and your son. Please take care.
2006-07-11 18:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by trb1967 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprising that people won't do anything, especially with all the news about kids killing kids these days. He is a danger, so don't give up. I hope you get some great advice off this site, but if not, speak to his counselor about your options, or get your own counselor to get options.
2006-07-11 16:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by gplay2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he does somthing crazy call the cops then have him arrested then explain your situation to the judge and im almost positive youll get the help you need. you need to get into a court room with this if you cant get help elsewhere. your son may feel you turned your back on him now but with time and therapy you will both be able to work things out hopfully.....are you sure hes not doing drugs? if its a possibility then it is extreemly important you get him the help he needs before things get worse
2006-07-11 16:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by cmbc587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that because he is a minor you could do whatever you wanted to do. Have him committed. Put him in a place where routines are constant, where he has to take his meds, where he is made to listen and punished for abusive behavior. It's not safe for you or your son to have him in an environment where he could hurt you, himself, or others.
2006-07-11 16:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by squeakytoyhlc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have a social worker assigned to your son of some kind? A case manager possibly. Talk over your problem with his social worker and come up with a conclusion. It may not be your son that is the problem, but you yourself.
2006-07-11 18:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jordan Akins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u tryed just taking him in the car 2 the juvenille home? try bribing him 2 like using ice cream i am 14 and i have adhd... not that it really matters 2 tell you
2006-07-11 16:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have rights as well as RESPONSIBILITIES. He is your son, so you need to discipline him and be responsible for his actions, not expect society to do it for you. Iam not trying to be cruel, but those are the facts. Locking him away is not the best answer. Getting him into a treatment program and on proper medications is.
2006-07-11 16:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋