we can provide a loving home to childern and we are both young. i am 29 and my husband is 32. he works hard and i stay at home. we have tried everything else. doctors say that i can not have childern. my husband is the last male in his family. it is up to us to carry on the family name and we are very interested in adoption. i want the chance to be a mom. that is my life dream. i love the idea of having a family. please help me with my dream.
2006-07-11 16:10:51 · 16 answers · asked by trina k 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
your best bet is to look into adopting an African American baby. It's really sad we have some many good homes that want a family but they will not adort these american born children, so canadians are adorting our american babies while americans go to third world counties.
Please consider an african american baby for your family.
Good luck
2006-07-11 16:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you have many options to look at.
You can get involved with your church and they can steer you in the right path.
You can become foster parents : Look at it this way, you want to be a parent...but close your eyes and pray. Maybe you could help the many children that may not be baby's but still are in need of a loving family to adopt them. The other part of foster parents is the government helps you out also, because it is so hard to find families willing to adopt slightly older children...and these children need love too.
Good luck on starting your new family
2006-07-11 23:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might think of looking into all adoption options plus donor eggs.
Decide which options would be best for you, then look at the cost and figure out how you can pay for it.
It might be best to get two or three jobs for a year and pick an option that is better for you than to pick a cheap option. Suffering through one year of crummy jobs may be worth the 18 years of happiness.
By the way I made a mistake in one of my choices (not adoption) and I have been in court for 2 1/2 years and paid about $50,000 in attorneys fees, so cheap upfront isn't always the cheapest in the long run.
2006-07-12 02:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your county department of social services, the adoptions and foster care division. There are thousands of children in the US waiting for adoption, and not only is it free, but many counties will pay you a stipend if you adopt a child with special needs. "Special Needs" is a label that really means many things, and you should sit down with a social worker and talk about an adoption, or a foster-adoption, and what children you might be interested in. I have two sons who I adopted as "special needs" infants (six weeks old and four weeks old) because they were prenatally drug exposed. My boys are my heart. They have some learning disabilities because of their prenatal drug exposure, but my older boy, who is 15 ,has almost outgrown his learning problems, and my little boy, who is 9, is getting extra help through his school. They are healthy and happy and wonderful, and I love them so. I cannot imagine what my life would be without them. There are so many kids in our country who need homes. I just cannot understand why people spend tens of thousands of dollars to go overseas and adopt children. If you need some encouragement, go to www.adoptUSkids.org and look at the kids on the photolistings. Best wishes, and best of luck!
2006-07-11 23:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by senyax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is expensive no matter what you do. My parents adopted me with a loan through a credit union. But be carefull of the birth mother coming back into your adopted childs life. Your child might want to meet her and it could be hard on you. Just remember that the child will always love you. Trust me i know
2006-07-11 23:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by brandon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with the department of children's services about fostering a child. You'll be given a stipend for caring for the child, and if the child comes up for adoption you will have the first opportunity to adopt. Good luck!
2006-07-11 23:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by misscatitude2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to try being a foster parent, it sounds like you have a lot of love to give. Sometimes this can work out to adoption, it's a long route, but worth every second of your life to give love to these children.
2006-07-11 23:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by POOKIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each state has a list of waiting children, some are single placements, some are 2-5 kids to be placed together. They even pay you some money and for health and psychological sessions for them.
2006-07-11 23:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by cowgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you find a doner mother letting someone be artiffically inseminated with your husbands sperm and then it will be part of both of you plus it knocks out the cost of adoption you just would have to pay for the pregancy but you could probably knock that off by talking to your insurance company about it.
2006-07-11 23:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by frenchie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, i know how you feel. you should try an open adoption. where mothers pick your profile contact your local adoption agency for that, also try china, but you would get a girl not boy. must important remember doing these hard times not to let it come between you and your husband, me and my husband did. children are important, but your relationship needs to always come first. good luck and god bless.
2006-07-11 23:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by buster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋