2006-07-11 16:07:37 · 30 answers · asked by Katlyn B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Seperation and divorce are so hard on children. I think you should sit them both down and discuss the situation. Maybe you live with one for six months and then with the other for the remaining six months but it will make problems for school for you.
Maybe the best thing is to live with either one and visit the other as often as you wish. I feel your parents will understand this and would try to work with it. But always remember their breakup has NOTHING to do with you. Some times these things happen and people cannot live with each other anymore. But it is not your fault.
2006-07-11 16:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really doesn't matter, pick the one with the school or church or whatever, that will meet your needs. Pick the one who's able to spend more time with you, on a daily basis. Ask your parents' lawyer, mediator, or judge to help you decide. Ask your grandparents how to pick, or an aunt or uncle, what they think. Consider living with one in the school year and one in the summer. If they live close enough together that they could both take you to school, trade off, and live with each one for six months. Or two months at a time, or whatever.
And remember, even though it's very hard, you are lucky. Not only do you get to decide, but you have two parents that you love so much, it's a tough choice. For most kids, neither of those things is true. Don't forget to be thankful for that little bit, in the midst of all the difficult things going on in your life.
2006-07-11 18:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Gen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem right now and I live with my Mom. I love my Dad very much but since i'm a girl and my mom has raised me all my life i live with my Mom. We just recently moved to New York and we used to live 5 minutes away from him so I visited him on the weekends. Now I have to look at it. I am a girl so i think I should live with my Mom. Mom's are more caring. If your boyfriend just dumped you she would understand but your Dad would most likely be celebrating. I hope you decide. Good Luck!! : )
2006-07-11 16:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by ..:*SHELBY*:.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had to do this about a year ago.. my parents divorced when i was 3 .. nd i had lived with my mother forever and even though she put me through a living hell on a daily basis i felt an oath to her like i was somehow responsible, but i had to realize that if i stayed with her i probably would have killed myself, so i moved in with my dad and step mom the summer before my freshman year.. it was really rocky at first and i has to transfer to the school near my dads mid year.. but it all worked out its not perfect but its pretty good now. Do whats best for you and as hard as it is, go with the parent that you know is best for you ( not the one that will give you anything you want, to let you get away with stuff) you cant think about either of there feelings because if they love you, they will respect your choice
I'm praying for you
-Tayy
2006-07-14 14:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This appears like a case of an grownup toddler who continues to be being abused with the help of his controlling moms and dads. first of all, the mummy says she loves her son unconditionally, yet threatens to withdraw her love. that's not unconditional love. the mummy also demands a procedures too a lot time from her grownup son. second of all, the daddy replaced right into a poor husband and is searching ahead to his son to act clone of he did. it isn't as a lot because the daddy to ascertain how his grownup son acts. 0.33 of all, this guy's spouse and toddler want him at living house and he should be there. how you could come to a call this difficulty is to ascertain 2 nights a week to spend your time with mom. Set a start up and end time on those nights and be particular the top time is nicely earlier 11PM. Take one evening to go out and characteristic a drink with the daddy. back, be particular the top time is nicely earlier 11PM. Spend some thing of the time at living house with the kin. Take care, Troy
2016-11-01 21:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take turns living with both. But if they live in different
Cities or states then, ask yourself do you really want to make new friends once again or stay with the ones you have now. Remember there's summer vacations, holidays an week-ends
no one will be left out. You'll be able to see both and spend quality
time with both. Your parents should be understanding cause you
are letting them know that you love both and not choosing sides.
Good Luck!!
2006-07-11 16:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your scenario before...first and most important thing...do what you are comfortable with and what makes you happy. The worst thing about divorced parents is they can tend to get wrapped up in themselves and forget about their child's feelings. Whichever parent you chose to live with...they will both love you unconditionally no matter what. Possibly, if they live within distance you could break the week down or go one week with one parent and the next with the other. Just always remember...I know it's hard but try to do what makes you happy instead of worrying about upsetting either one because they are your parents and will understand.
2006-07-11 16:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by caitlyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live with who you think you need to stay with. they love you both the same and wont treat you any different if you choose the other. i live with my mom because i cant stand my dad. but if i could choose i would pick because of what i thought was right. hopefully you get to see the other once you choose becuase kids need both parents in their lives. not having a dad my whole life has messed me up pretty bad. hope you can sort things out dear.
2006-07-11 16:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Ally L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one, my advice to you is this. Sit both of your parents down in the same room and tell them how you feel about the situation. Parents in general want whats best for their children. So if they love you as much as you love them, they will respect your decision and maybe some kind of an agreement can be arranged. Hope that helps you out
2006-07-11 17:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by deais74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In many states there is an age that the child can pick which parent they live with.
You can request that you stay with both parents.
Two nights or three nights at one then two or three with the other. This way you are not choosing one over the other.
You are letting them both know that you love them both and it is impossible to choose one over the other.
2006-07-11 16:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by fatboysdaddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋