Should I go to my cousins wedding?

Question

My cousin is getting married at the end of August and he sent me an invitation. He's 21, and I am 25, but I am not close with him or that side of the family at all!! i love weddings, and they are really getting into this one. When I was a bit younger, my cousin really freaked me out a bit. He whipsered in my ear that he would be thinking of me when I left my gramma's house. He has also had brain surgey twice since he was 12, so I don't know if that has anything to do with it. I don't know if I feel comfortable enough to go to the wedding, but I also feel bad not going....Please Help@!@

Answer 1

Go. Family affairs are far and few between for me. I went to my cousins marriage for the weekend and it was half way across the country. Family is all you have sometimes, even if you don't like them so much. Just pop in make an appearence at least, or you might have fun. You'll be the bigger person for going and not letting the past bother you. He's obviosly moved on..... we hope.

Answer 2

There is nothing more important than family. However, if this side of the family is just geographically inconvenient and you don't feel the love, then don't go. Send your love in a card instead. If you feel that making that connection again could lead to a desirable relationship with the family then you should make the effort. Weddings can really be fun for single girls! Trust me on that one!

Answer 3

First, is it close or is it far? If it is a long distance to the wedding, the he probably assumes that you will probably not make it.

If it is close, then ask yourself if you feel comfortable. If you feel too uncomfortable at the thought of going to the wedding, send a nice card with well wishes. (If you are feeling generous, send him a 20 dollar bill or a gift certificate with the card.)

If you do feel comfortable, put the past in the past where it belongs, and enjoy the reunion. Eat cake and drink punch.

BTW, do you have family members with whom you are close? Will your mother, father, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc who you can talk to and use for shield be there?

Good luck and follow what your instincts tell you, they are rarely wrong.

Answer 4

Don't go, just send a gift. He will see you and imediatlly think about that moment when you said:

" He whipsered in my ear that he would be thinking of me "

You don't need that in your life, and since youre not close to that part of the family then you wont have to hear about it afterward.

Also, it's just a wedding. No one there NEEDS you there, they just want you there to fill a seat....you havnt seen him in years.

Short Answer : Don't Go.

Answer 5

It's free drinks right? Hehee! You probably won't have to see much of him anyway. Most of the time the bride and groom are too busy to even really notice who was there. Hence why they have you sign the guest book.
So,if you want to have a good time,go.

Answer 6

If your cousin invited you to his wedding maybe is because you have always been on his mine, your should go. It may be a good experience.

Answer 7

Go to the wedding and talk up his wife to be as if he would be nothing without her and no one (yourself included) is a better fit for him.

Answer 8

I still think you should go to the wedding because she is your cousin!!

Answer 9

If you're really that uncomfortable with the idea of attending, then don't. Otherwise, be supportive and attend. There shouldn't be anything to worry about. :)

Answer 10

go...it is a no brainer..you should not even hesitate over it...
maybe you misunderstood what he meant..since he had sugery and survived..and is getting married why be hung up on something that happend when you were 12.....cmon..