to a woman that is 30yrs old and has 3 kids from 3 different guys. He just turned 22 and has only been dating this woman for 2 months. Nobody seems to be happy about this situation but nobody seems willing to speak up.
I just think she is taking advantage of him and its only a matter of time before she talks him into adopting her 3 kids and then divorcing him so that he can pay child support for them.
Since I'm not his blood is it even my place to say something? Him and I have always gotten along and he has talked with me before when he was having problems. I just dont want to see him get screwed over by this tramp and I feel if nobody else (his parents, siblings or friends) is going to step in and say something, I should.
Should I just keep my mouth shut or what?
2006-07-11 15:33:56 · 16 answers · asked by Isaiah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
XXXXXXXXXXXXX when the priest say, If there is anyone who doesn't agree with this marriage, speak now or forever hold your peace." You'd better stand up and scream to the top of your lungs. MMMMMMEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!! Save him baby. He's making a big mistake. Does he know, when he marries her, he's taking all the financial responsibility away from the other losers, I mean, fathers And if they divorce or seperate. HHHEEEEE has to pay CHILD SUPPORT!!!!! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-11 15:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love makes a family, not blood. If you feel that strongly , then go ahead and talk to him about it. Just ask him if he's really ready to become an instant father and can he afford to support a ready made family. That might get him to think about the reality of the situation.
2006-07-12 10:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me let nature take its course, we all have lessons in life.If he is happy about the situation he is in, well let it be or you could loose a good friend, he is certainly old enough too make his own decisions whether they are good or bad . People interfering with other peoples lives does not help at all they tend to push them more away.My advice to you is to be happy for your brother in law no matter which road he decides to take, and if all ends in disaster don't tell him i told you so "nobody likes to be told they are wrong"
2006-07-11 22:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said that he has talked to you before so just talk to him. Maybe he WANTS someone to say something because guys tend to wonder if what they're doing is right. Don't tell him what to do, tell him your concern. You sound like you're close enough to be able to talk to him without any problem. Tell him not to adopt her children until he is certain that this relationship is going to last because you may be right and she may be using him. Women can be so evil sometimes. I wish you luck.
2006-07-11 22:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should express your concerns in a productive and non-combative way. Basically, don't bring her into it, make it about your concern for him being ready for something like this rahter than "she's going to screw you over". Don't be surprised if he is upset at first, and you have to rmemeber that in the long run, he will do what he wants to do. he has to make his own mistakes and all you can do is be there for him.
2006-07-11 22:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see you are worry about put if nobody listen to you, there is nothing that you can do just lets hope that he is able to deal whit the 3 children that are not even his, he is to young for his big responsibility. eventually he is going to notice something is wrong i hope that by the time he want out is going to be to late and like you said he is going to get stack whit child support and not even his children
2006-07-11 22:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by juanita2_2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that comes to mind is a good threat to the lady. I suggest you use your pinky finger and talk in a low growl when you tell her what will happen if she hurts your brother. Good luck with that.
2006-07-11 23:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you were cool and talked to him about his problems then i think you should be able to talk to him about this. i think you should talk to him, but kep in mind everyone is intitled to his or her happiness, it is not our fault who we fall in love with. maybe she is not the right person for him but thats who he loves.if he loves her then you should except her, this is who he choose. i think you should be ok with it if he is ok with it, treat these kids like they were his and dont think negative, you alreadythink the worst. you think he is going to adobt these kids and have to pay child support. gosh let the relationship have a chance.just because she has three kids from three different dads doesnt mean she is a bad person, maybe the guys beat her or molested her kids, maybe she was raped or something, give her some credit. it could be worse, she could be a drug addict or a sex offender, right, be positve about this situtation, but i think you should give her a chance.
2006-07-11 22:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him for his own good. He would be happy that you are concerned and don't want him to get hurt. You married his sister. You are family!
2006-07-11 22:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically it is his life, but you could voice your concerns to him and see how he takes it. It could go either way, so be prepared for your relationship to be bitter.
2006-07-11 22:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋