should we go to church?

Question

me and my fiance have been together for over 2 years and have a beautiful baby boy. We both believe in God, and would like to go back to church so that our son can come to believe in God also. Would the church communtiy look at our relationship as a sin because we have a son outside of marriage? I wouldn't want to go to church and be critisized for our decisions.

Answer 1

I don't think you need to go to church to teach your children about god. In my house we teach our children our beliefs here at home. We even created our own baby ceremonies for our children to spiritually celebrate their arrival without involving a church.

If you are committed to going to a church, the Unitarian Church can be very open and accepting - they may also be called Universalists. You shouldn't have any discrimination issues with them because of your lifestyle.

Peace!

Answer 2

A good church would not be critical. But that being said a gf of mine got pregnant out of marriage, her and her now husband were married. And the preacher and some other members of her church had made comments a few times after all of that. So she left.
They are fools for judging another. You should both hold your heads up high wherever you go to church and know that God knows your hearts, not any of us. If a church is judgemental then "wipe the dust off of your feet" of that church and find another that shares your beliefs and love.

Answer 3

Church is just a place for fellow believers in God. Theres nothing to say that you could not teach your son yourself about God as I'm sure you will already do. Go to church for yourself and your family but dont think if you do not go its a sin. As for being accepted by the church community you shouldnt have any problem. The church is supposed to accept anyone just as God has. Remember everyone sins

Answer 4

Question - Is there a law that states you have to tell the church that you are not married?

Now being married is a good thing and God promotes it. (I will leave it there)

If you do not tell the church your relationship then what happens?

The congregation must and it is a must - the must love you. If they judge you then God will judge them. God is the only one who will lay down judgement. So, in my own words I would say to get married asap and have that foundation laid down by God. Next take the baby to the church and get involved!

I have more to say, I will leave you with this. Talk openly to a pastor and let them know what is going on. The pastor will or should help you without condemnation.

God Bless Ya!!!

Answer 5

If you want to raise a being worthy of this Earth,
for the sake of your child, DO NOT GO TO CHURCH!

I would teach first; to be a human being, that we are but frail animals, like all others, with occasional bursts of resiliency. That we differ from the machines in that we always repair from the inside out, and not often, also from the outside in.

I would teach second; that both love and hate are verbs, and that there is great danger and often consequences, when they are treated as nouns. That action to prevent overall harm, is of greater value than action to provide individual gain.

I would teach third; what it is to be an honest citizen of the Earth. That the structures of society are strong, but not immutable. That striving for mediocrity in all things, is not a task for the honorable. That the shades of gray others will project as static rights and wrongs, are more often than not, about their own emotionally charged perspectives. That one should allow others the freedom to fail,
but not often the liberty to destroy.

I would teach fourth; to be a scholar, that knowledge is power that can be wielded as a tool of love, and as a weapon of war, that there can be a fine line between the two, and that there is always a cost somewhere, for the wielding.

I would teach fith; that wisdom is something to be borrowed as well as earned, ones entire lifetime, and understanding the lessons of history is how one tempers, times and hones the use of knowledge.

I would teach sixth; that no ones self imposed misery is of true value to the whole of us. Follow your bliss. Paths are trying to find you if you let them. So let them.


Once these ingredients are folded in, the clay will mold itself.

Do not destroy your childs potential.

Answer 6

Yes, you should go to church but remember that believing in God is different than living for God and he deserves our best. Your fiance and you should go to the justice of the peace and get married if your living together. Your mistakes are for God to forgive and forget but you must turn from the bad. If your living with your fiance you're living a lifestyle of sin which is different than just slipping up and sinning as Christ knows we'll all do until we meet him. Living a lifestyle of sin means that every second of the day your living that sin. I was once living like that with my husband before I got married and I had a dream that I was visited by a angel and she was holding my son in her arms and both the angel and my son were dressed in white. My husband, boyfriend at the time and I were wearing our regular cloths and the angel shook her head and said to us " It would be a shame for your son to go to heaven with out you!" I knew right then in my dream that I was going to hell. Then the angel said "Your lucky though, you have another chance!" She smiled at me and I immediately woke up. Needless to say we went to the Justice of the peace!! God Bless

Answer 7

My mother wasn't married when she had me in 1962. She could find only one pastor who would baptize me. I would hope that people have changed over the years. My mom never went to church with me, my godmother took me to church until I decided it wasn't something I wanted to do.
If you feel uncomfortable at one church, go to another. Shop around.
I'm not a Christian.....but it seems to me a church is a building. The foundation is the Bible. If you have a Bible in your home, then don't YOU and you fiance have the tools to introduce God
to your son. A religion to me is what you feel in your heart and how you live your life, not the trappings of buildings, if you're dressed properly or what other people think.

Answer 8

Nothing shoud keep you away from the house of God. Nothing should keep you from being able to worship God, and raise your son in church as well. There will ALWAYS be people that will look down on you for anything and everyting-people both inside and outside of the Church.You need to be saved from public opinion. The only One you have to answer to is God. Go to church, and learn to ignore thoughtless people. Jesus died for SINNERS. So that pretty much tells me, as a sinner as well, that He loves me. And because He first loved me, I love Him. And people who love the Lord should attend His House {church} so don't let ANYONE try to tell you that you are such a big sinner that you're not worthy to attend His church. Church should be thought of as a hospital for the wounded and hurting, and not a museum for the "relics' Best wishes to you and your family. God Bless you, and be sure, I will be praying for you.

Answer 9

Many will look down upon you, unfortunately.
I am a Latter Day Saint (mormon ) and they are a bit
nicer to unwed couples with
children but, still there are always those who will stick their
noses up and scoff at you. Just remember THEY ARE NOT
OF CHRIST IF THEY DO THIS. It is usually the most
guilt-filled people who do this and I feel this
is total evil. And especially if the couple
wants to be married and love and take care of their child.
I commend you for being loving towards eachother and
to your child.

Just know that as a Christian i personally do not look down
upon you , and congratulations on your baby boy!

Answer 10

I really don't think so, but it all depends on the church. My sister and her fiance have a three year old, and they both go to church. There's nothing wrong with having a child before your married and there's nothing that says you can't worship god because you do. He love everyone for who they are.

Answer 11

Why Go To Church?

A Church-goer wrote a letter to the editor of a newspaper and complained that it made no sense to go to church every Sunday. "I've gone for 30 years now," he wrote, "and in that time I have heard something like 3,000 sermons. But for the life of me, I can't remember a single one of them. So, I think I'm wasting my time and the pastors are wasting theirs by giving sermons at all."

This started a real controversy in the "Letters to the Editor" column, much to the delight of the editor. It went on for weeks until someone wrote this clincher:

"I've been married for 30 years now. In that time my wife has cooked some 32,000 meals. But, for the life of me, I cannot recall the entire menu for a single one of those meals. But I do know this. They all nourished me and gave me the strength I needed to do my work. If my wife had not given me these meals, I would be physically dead today. Likewise, if I had not gone to church for nourishment, I would be spiritually dead today!"

When you are DOWN to nothing, God is UP to something! Faith sees the invisible, believes the incredible, and receives the impossible! Thank God for our physical AND our spiritual nourishment!